The Narcissist will destroy all that is good about you because all of those amazing traits and qualities make them feel bad about themselves. Once the narcissist has hooked you in, the devaluation stage must and will begin. They devalue you to punish you for being 'better' than them in any way, and to bring you under their control.

In this episode we unpack....

*   Why does the narcissist devalue you?
*   The strategies they use to devalue you that you don't recognise at the time.
*   What devaluing strategies does the narcissist use? Eg. Isolation, Gaslighting and financial abuse.
*   Is the devaluing stage inevitable?
*   How do you as the victim, fall for their devaluation strategies?
*   How do you recognise the times you are being devalued?

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A Counselor reveals her own experience with narcissistic abusers. Mental health professionals are not immune to the powerful trauma bond and the manipulative tactics of the narcissist. 

In this episode I talk to Barb. She bravely talks about the trauma she endured and how she used her own trauma to support other victims. Barb is clearly a counselor who 'gets it'. 

I hope you feel validated listening to Barb's story knowing that there are therapists out there who can help you, because they have been there. 

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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In the LGBTQ+ community, victims of narcissistic abuse/domestic violence do not have the same support as victims of domestic violence in a heterosexual relationship .

David, a young gay man tells his story,  revealing the trauma he suffered as a victim of narcissistic abuse.  He also offers much needed insights into the lack of trust the lgbtqia+ community has in a system that has not protected them in the past, which prevents them coming forward to report their abuse. 

David also gives valuable advice around how we actually CAN support victims of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse in the LGBTQIA + community, which begins with listening to them.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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What if you have proof they're a narcissist? You've done the research, and they tick all the boxes and appear to have at least 5 of the 9 traits for narcissistic personality disorder, and you want to tell them you know! 
Narcissists don't usually take kindly to criticism as we know, and In this episode, we look at what happens when you tell the narcissist you're on to them. Let me know in the reviews if you enjoyed this episode and what happened when you told the narcissist YOU were on to them!
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The narcissistic sees any attempt to discuss the children's needs as something that will benefit YOU. The challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist are immense.  Co-parenting can be difficult and requires work when there are two non-disordered parents trying to establish a new life for themselves and their children. Throw a narcissist in the mix and all bets are off. 

In this episode we unpack...

* Manipulative tactics of the narcissist to sabotage your plans
* The challenges in trying to communicate with the narcissist about the children's needs.
* Child support arrangements.
* The narcissist weaponises the children to hurt YOU.
* You DON'T have to give the narcissistic parent 24 hours a day access to you.
* Alternatives to co-parenting - PARALLEL PARENTING.
* Parenting plans - Can they work?
* Court orders and parenting apps.
* Ways to minimise contact with the narcissist and have peace.

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In this powerful episode, we share the story of "Marie," a courageous survivor of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse. Despite fearing her abuser and choosing to remain anonymous, Marie bravely recounts her journey from trauma to recovery. She sheds light on the challenges she faces within the United States' family court system, highlighting how it often remains ill-informed about personality disorders. Marie's experience reveals the harsh reality where victims are punished twice and abusers exploit the legal system to continue their abuse. Join us as we delve into her story of resilience and strength, providing a voice for those who are still fighting to be heard.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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Gaslighting is used by the narcissist to confuse you and make you feel crazy. The cunning abusive strategy that narcissists use to manipulate their victim's reality and control their perceptions by eroding their self-confidence and fostering dependency. In this episode, discover effective strategies to recognize and resist gaslighting tactics, reclaiming your truth and empowerment.

In this episode we look at:
1. Textbook gaslighting lines and phrases
2. How Gaslighting makes the victim not trust their instincts
3. What Gaslighting actually means
4. How gaslighting is used out of context and the true damage that gaslighting does to the victim

and much more.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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The narcissist's smear campaign is designed to isolate the victim and destroy their reputation. The narcissist's number one fear is exposure. The smear campaign is a pre-emptive strike to destroy the victim's credibility so no one believes them when they go to talk about their abuse.

In this episode, I unpack...

1. What is a smear campaign? 
2. When does the smear campaign begin? 
3. How does a narcissist use a smear campaign to manipulate the perceptions of others? 
4. Why do intelligent people believe the narcissist? 
5. Should you defend yourself against the smear campaign? 

If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could please leave a review,  and If you would like to support this podcast,  the best thing you can do is share! And tag all the people in your life who need to hear this information.

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  Need Support? You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website  Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at [email protected]

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This pervasive question arises because victims of narcissistic abuse are frequently manipulated into feeling like the abuser through tactics like Reactive Abuse and DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender). This is the question we answer in this life-changing episode.

In this episode, we delve into this crucial question that plagues survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence, providing comprehensive answers.

We explore:

1. What is Reactive Abuse? Understand how victims are provoked into reacting, which is then used against them.
2. What is DARVO? Explore the tactic where offenders deny the abuse, attack the victim's credibility, and reverse the roles to portray themselves as victims.
3. How does a narcissist use Reactive Abuse and DARVO to manipulate victims into believing they're the abuser? Uncover the psychological tactics used to distort reality and victim-blame.
4. How can we distinguish between the true abuser and the victim when both parties exhibit toxic behaviors? Examine the complexities of identifying the dynamics in abusive relationships.
5. How do narcissists manipulate others into believing they are the victim? Explore the strategies used to garner sympathy and support while concealing their abusive behaviors.
6. Do narcissists ever question if they themselves are narcissistic? Discuss whether narcissists introspect on their behavior and self-image.
7. How can we educate others about DARVO and Reactive Abuse to prevent unjust restraining orders against victims? Highlight strategies for raising awareness to support true victims and prevent further harm.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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Why don't victims of abuse just  leave? Victims often struggle to break free from abusive relationships. In this eye-opening episode we answer this critical question. We explore the complex dynamics of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence in the context of trauma bonding, and NOT Co-dependency.  Join me as I dive deep into the concept of trauma bonding to understand why .

We unpack...

1. What is trauma bonding?
   • Explore the psychological mechanism behind trauma bonding and how it ties victims to their abusers emotionally.
2. How does a trauma bond form and how does it override the victim's logical knowledge of the abuse?
   • Detail the process by which repeated cycles of abuse and intermittent reinforcement create powerful emotional bonds that defy rationality.
3. Can anyone become trauma bonded?
   • Discuss the vulnerability factors that make individuals susceptible to trauma bonding, regardless of their background or personality.
4. Is it difficult to break a trauma bond?
   • Highlight the challenges victims face when trying to break free from a trauma bond and reclaim their autonomy.
5. How do statements/questions like 'Why don't you just leave?' impact the victim’s capacity to actually leave?
   • Analyze the detrimental effects of victim-blaming questions on a victim's self-esteem, sense of agency, and ability to seek help.
6. How do we support victims to leave/stay away for good?
   • Offer practical strategies and emotional support mechanisms for empowering victims to make safe choices and rebuild their lives.
7. How do you break a trauma bond?
   • Provide actionable steps and psychological insights into breaking free from trauma bonds, emphasizing long-term healing and recovery.

By addressing these questions in-depth, we aim to shed light on the complex dynamics of trauma bonding and provide valuable insights for both victims and supporters in the journey toward healing and liberation from abusive relationships.

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