Why don't victims of abuse just  leave? Victims often struggle to break free from abusive relationships. In this eye-opening episode we answer this critical question. We explore the complex dynamics of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence in the context of trauma bonding, and NOT Co-dependency.  Join me as I dive deep into the concept of trauma bonding to understand why .

We unpack...

1. What is trauma bonding?
   • Explore the psychological mechanism behind trauma bonding and how it ties victims to their abusers emotionally.
2. How does a trauma bond form and how does it override the victim's logical knowledge of the abuse?
   • Detail the process by which repeated cycles of abuse and intermittent reinforcement create powerful emotional bonds that defy rationality.
3. Can anyone become trauma bonded?
   • Discuss the vulnerability factors that make individuals susceptible to trauma bonding, regardless of their background or personality.
4. Is it difficult to break a trauma bond?
   • Highlight the challenges victims face when trying to break free from a trauma bond and reclaim their autonomy.
5. How do statements/questions like 'Why don't you just leave?' impact the victim’s capacity to actually leave?
   • Analyze the detrimental effects of victim-blaming questions on a victim's self-esteem, sense of agency, and ability to seek help.
6. How do we support victims to leave/stay away for good?
   • Offer practical strategies and emotional support mechanisms for empowering victims to make safe choices and rebuild their lives.
7. How do you break a trauma bond?
   • Provide actionable steps and psychological insights into breaking free from trauma bonds, emphasizing long-term healing and recovery.

By addressing these questions in-depth, we aim to shed light on the complex dynamics of trauma bonding and provide valuable insights for both victims and supporters in the journey toward healing and liberation from abusive relationships.

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How can someone who professes to love you be so cruel?  It's a  horrifying thought, the possibility that your entire relationship was built on lies and the love you felt was entirely one-sided. Understanding the complexities of narcissistic relationships can be overwhelming, but I'm here to help you make sense of it all.

I unpack:

1. What love means to the narcissist
   Discover the unique and often twisted perception of love from a narcissist's perspective.
2. What a narcissist means when they say, "I... LOVE... YOU."
   Learn the true intent behind a narcissist's declaration of love and how it differs from genuine affection.
3. Did they ever love you?
   Explore whether a narcissist is capable of true love or if their emotions are merely a facade.
4. How to differentiate between "LOVEBOMBING" and genuine affection
   Understand the signs of love bombing and how to distinguish it from someone who genuinely wants to make you happy.
5. Do they love you if they only make you miserable a small percentage of the time?
   Delve into the confusion of intermittent positive reinforcement and its impact on your perception of love.

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Nova xx

Need Support? You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website  Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at [email protected]

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What is a Narcissist? It's just a buzzword to many, but for the victims,  it's a devastating,  often very covert form of abuse that destroys their lives, and their is little support and understanding for them.  
In this 1st full length episode I explain what a narcissist actually is. It's become a buzzword and so many people use the word without knowing the true meaning, which minimises the trauma of victims and makes it hard for them to get support.  
The behaviours and traits of the narcissist that we discuss in this episode are NOT isolated incidents.  They are consistent patterns of behaviour over space and time,  and they're 100% intentional!
We also answer the question "What is a Flying Monkey, and how the narcissist uses them to abuse you.

I unpack....
* What is a narcissist?
* Covert vs Overt Narcissists
* Who can be a narcissist?
* What if I don't have a diagnosis 
*Can the narcissist change?
*Who and what are Flying Monkeys?
* Who can be a Flying Monkey?
* Are all Flying Monkeys toxic?
*Should I go no contact with the Flying Monkeys as well?

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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Nova xx

Need Support? You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website  Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at [email protected]

You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse   here

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Well Fake Love is finally here! In this introductory episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, Nova Gibson gives you a breakdown of what you can expect in this podcast relating to all toxic relationships involving a narcissist. This episode '#0', is uploaded at the same time as episode #1 so you don't have to wait! Subscribe now so you never miss an episode.  P.S. If you have a narcissist in your life??? Then you also have their flying monkeys!

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this podcast with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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Nova xx

Support the Show on Apple Podcasts
If Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show! 🙏

Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.

Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here

Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here

You can leave a Rating and a Review here

You Can Share this Podcast here

Join me on FB here
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Thank you for listening!
Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host.

Nova xx