No Contact from a toxic relationship is not just a strategy, it’s a declaration of self-respect.

Going No Contact or using the Grey Rock method—which strategy is right for you? Narcissistic abuse survivors often face the dilemma of which tactic to use when cutting ties with a narcissist. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down both strategies, explaining when and how to use them effectively.

No Contact means cutting the narcissist completely out of your life—no texts, no calls, no social media. It’s often the best way to heal, but let’s face it, it’s not always possible. Maybe you share kids, work together, or have family ties that make it complicated. That’s where Grey Rock comes in. This method helps you disengage emotionally, making yourself as boring and unresponsive as possible to avoid feeding their drama.

I’ll share real-life examples from my counseling practice, showing how survivors have used these strategies in situations like co-parenting with a toxic ex, dealing with a manipulative boss, or managing a narcissistic parent. You’ll also learn the biggest mistakes to avoid and how to handle setbacks when the narcissist tries to pull you back in.

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a clearer understanding of which approach suits your situation best and feel more confident setting boundaries that protect your peace.

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The first step to healing from Narcissistic Abuse is recognising the red flags you missed.

Have you ever looked back on a toxic relationship and wondered, "How did I not see this coming?" You're not alone. Narcissists are masters of manipulation, and their conditioning keeps you second-guessing yourself at every turn. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we’re unpacking why you missed the red flags—and why it’s not your fault.

Narcissists don’t just walk into your life and show their true colours. They carefully groom you through love-bombing, gaslighting, and emotional manipulation. Over time, they condition you to accept their behaviour, making it harder to recognise the abuse. They twist reality, making you doubt your instincts, and by the time you start seeing the truth, you’re already deeply enmeshed.

We’ll break down how this conditioning works, why smart and self-aware people still fall for it, and how you can start recognising these patterns before they take hold. Whether you’re recovering from narcissistic abuse or trying to spot toxic behaviours early, this episode will give you the validation and insight you need.

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"She made you doubt yourself—now you're doing it in every relationship."
If you grew up with a narcissistic mother, that emotional abuse didn’t just stay in childhood—it follows you into adulthood, sabotaging how you love, trust, and relate to others.

In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we break down how narcissistic parenting creates lasting trauma, including people-pleasing, fear of abandonment, low self-worth, and attracting toxic partners.
"You weren’t difficult. You were conditioned to survive."

Through real stories from my counselling sessions, I explain the hidden ways narcissistic mothers shape your emotional patterns—and how to break free from that cycle for good.
"Healing starts when you stop blaming yourself."

If your relationships feel like a battlefield, this episode will help you understand the roots—and show you a way forward.

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Narcissists don’t forget to give you closure—they refuse to.
If you’ve ever been stuck waiting for closure from a narcissist, you’re not alone. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we explore why narcissists never give closure—and how this is one of their most damaging narcissistic abuse tactics.

"Their silence is a weapon, not a mistake."
Whether you're dealing with gaslighting, emotional abuse, or the endless cycle of toxic relationships, narcissists use a lack of closure to keep control. I’ll share 5 calculated reasons they withhold it—from avoiding accountability to keeping you trauma bonded—and explain how this plays out in real life.

This episode offers practical tools to help you stop chasing closure after narcissistic abuse, and how to create peace on your own terms. If you're ready to break free from the narcissist’s control, this one’s for you.

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This isn’t just heartbreak—it’s psychological warfare."
In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m joined by Tracy Rector—award-winning film producer, speaker, author, and domestic violence survivor. Tracy shares her journey of healing from narcissistic abuse and how it inspired the critically acclaimed film No Ordinary Love, named one of USA Today’s “biggest summer movies” of 2021.

Tracy opens up about the devastating emotional and psychological impact of coercive control, gaslighting, and emotional abuse, and how survivors can find strength, justice, and their voice again. From her experience as board chair for Texas’s second-largest domestic violence agency to her current research with national leaders, Tracy is changing the game in how we address gender-based violence.

"You don’t just survive narcissistic abuse—you rise."
This is a must-listen for anyone affected by toxic relationships, narcissistic partners, or domestic abuse. Be inspired by Tracy’s story and discover how storytelling can drive change, support survivors, and expose the truth behind fake love. 

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"The narcissist’s version of you isn’t real—it’s a weapon."
In the final episode of this powerful two-part series on Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dig even deeper into the dark world of narcissist smear campaigns. You’ll hear more of the top 20 lies narcissists use to destroy your reputation, isolate you, and maintain control.

"They don’t just twist the truth—they set it on fire."
From exaggerations to outright fabrications, narcissists weaponise your story to protect their fragile ego and ensure they remain the “victim” in everyone else’s eyes. These smear tactics are designed to discredit you—and often work because of how calculated and convincing they are.

Smear campaigns are a form of emotional abuse—and recognising the lies is your first step to freedom.
I’ll help you identify these toxic behaviours, understand the psychology behind them, and begin reclaiming your voice and peace.

This series is essential listening for anyone blindsided by narcissistic abuse, left questioning their reality, or looking for answers after being wrongly painted as the problem.

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"The narcissist’s lies aren’t random—they’re strategic character assassination."
In Part 1 of this explosive two-part series on Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I reveal the top 20 smear campaign lies narcissists use to destroy your reputation and play the victim. These manipulative tactics are designed to make you look unstable, abusive, or untrustworthy—while they gain sympathy and control.

They lie to ruin your credibility, not just your confidence.
Whether you’re dealing with a narcissistic ex, parent, friend, or colleague, this episode exposes the specific narcissist smear tactics used to damage your relationships, isolate you, and maintain their power. From gaslighting to projection, you’ll hear real-life examples of how these lies unfold—and why people often fall for them.

Smear campaigns are psychological warfare—and survivors deserve to understand what’s really happening.
I also unpack the deeper motivation behind the narcissist’s slander, revealing how their fear of exposure fuels their obsession with destroying your image.

Don’t miss this episode if you’ve ever wondered why people believe the narcissist—or how to protect your peace in the face of emotional abuse and reputation sabotage.

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"Conflict isn’t chaos to the narcissist—it’s control."
In this revealing episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dive deep into the narcissist’s obsession with manufactured conflict. Ever feel like you're walking on eggshells? Narcissists thrive on drama—and it’s no accident.

They don’t want peace—they want power.
From twisting your words to fabricating stories, narcissists use conflict as a tool of emotional abuse and manipulation. We’ll unpack the psychology behind this toxic pattern, explore how it plays out in relationships, and explain why narcissists seem to need chaos to function.

"Every argument has a purpose: to keep you off balance."
Whether you’re dealing with a narcissistic partner, parent, friend, or coworker, this episode will help you recognise the tactics—like gaslighting, blame-shifting, and playing the victim—that keep you stuck in their web.

You’ll also hear real-life examples from my counselling practice, plus strategies to step back, stay calm, and stop feeding the drama.

Because once you understand their game, you can stop playing it.

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"They don’t mellow with age—they just master new ways to manipulate."
In this insightful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we explore the 10 key behaviours of the ageing narcissist—from guilt-tripping to rewriting history, and everything in between.

"Age doesn’t soften narcissism—it sharpens the need for control."
As narcissists grow older, their usual tools—like charm and intimidation—may lose their power. What takes their place? Increased emotional manipulation, health-based guilt tactics, and a desperate scramble for relevance.

Their fear of being forgotten fuels their most toxic behaviours.
I’ll share real-life stories from my counselling practice, including ageing parents who use declining health to control adult children, or narcissistic elders who deny any wrongdoing from the past. Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic parent, partner, or even a colleague nearing retirement, this episode will help you spot the patterns and protect your peace.

You’ll also learn how the ageing narcissist’s fragile ego drives attention-seeking, denial, and blame-shifting—and what you can do to emotionally detach and safeguard your boundaries.

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How do You Set Boundaries After Narcissistic Abuse?

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How can I start setting boundaries after everything I’ve been through?” this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys is exactly what you need. Boundaries are essential for healing after narcissistic abuse, but they can feel like unfamiliar territory when you’ve spent so much time walking on eggshells or putting someone else’s needs ahead of your own.

In today’s episode, we’ll break down what boundaries really are (hint: they’re not about being selfish, despite what a narcissist might say!) and why they’re critical for your recovery. We’ll talk about the common struggles survivors face when setting boundaries, like fear of conflict, guilt, or not knowing where to start.

I’ll share actionable tips for creating healthy boundaries—whether it’s with a narcissistic ex, a toxic family member, or even in new relationships—and how to stick to them without backing down. We’ll also discuss how to handle the inevitable pushback from a narcissist and why their reaction doesn’t define your worth.

If you’re ready to take your power back, protect your peace, and finally put yourself first, this episode is your guide. Let’s dive into the “how” of setting boundaries and start building the life you deserve.

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