Why do narcissists seem to lash out when you're at your happiest? Why do they ruin birthdays, holidays, family events, or moments of personal success? 

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If you've ever found yourself asking “Why can’t they just let me enjoy this?”, this episode is for you.

In this deep-dive episode, we unpack the disturbing reality behind why narcissists can’t stand your joy. Whether it’s your graduation, a promotion, a peaceful family gathering, or simply a quiet moment of contentment, narcissists have a way of inserting chaos, guilt, or drama—ensuring that the spotlight shifts back to them.

We’ll explore:

• The narcissist’s pathological envy and need to undermine you
• How they weaponise special moments to create emotional confusion
• The psychological reason your joy feels threatening to them
• The difference between support and sabotage in toxic dynamics
• Common tactics: disappearing acts, passive-aggressive comments, arguments out of nowhere

“They see your joy as a reminder they can’t feel theirs.”

Narcissistic sabotage isn’t random—it’s a patterned behaviour used to reassert control and destabilise you emotionally. These moments of sabotage are often followed by gaslighting, blame-shifting, or false apologies that keep you questioning yourself and walking on eggshells.

You’ll also hear real-world examples from my counselling practice, helping you identify red flags and understand the deeper emotional manipulation at play.

“They won’t let you have the moment—unless it serves them.”

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who has ever felt emotionally ambushed during what should’ve been their happiest moments. I’ll help you see through the manipulation and take the first steps toward emotional freedom.

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