If hope is your reason to do nothing, that’s delusion. But what is hope? Do you need it? The second half of the episode gets a little dark, but hopefully it’ll be helpful to hear. 

Help is available right away.

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALK - website

Trans Lifeline: 1-877-565-8860 - website

Links:

FSP 2025: We're Stronger Than the Fire

Is This a Coup?

An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing (Emily on Youtube)

Monty Python - Dead Parrot (Youtube)

FSP 2020 episode 8: The Monitor

No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, PHD (book)

Rae McDaniel

Do you have a box of stuff you've carried between moves and never dealt with? Yeah, I totally don't have 100 of those. This week, Amelia declutters a Dreaded Doom Box. And then Emily and Amelia go a little deeper on decluttering.

Today! Amelia is going live on Youtube on Fridays starting, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here:

https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject

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Links:

Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean

https://www.aslobcomesclean.com

This Is Your Brain on Music: THE SCIENCE OF A HUMAN OBSESSION

By Daniel J. Levitin

Take Your House Back Course

Kay Patterson - The Organized Soprano

Emily and Amelia are both doing some variation on low-buy/no-buy this year. There are many good reasons to do so, and many good ways to make it work for you. All that and bonus toaster oven and kitchen counter commiseration! 

Amelia is going live on Youtube starting next Friday, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here.

Links:

Project for Awesome

Wax Oil Wick

Amelia takes the lead this week with a history of Autism and how it’s intertwined with Fascism. It gets dark, but not explicit.

Links:

Asperger's Children: The Origins of Autism in Nazi Vienna

FSP 2020 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome

This American Life: 81 words

Hannah Gadsby: Douglas

Emily’s NYT profile

You probably have too much stuff. Most of us have too much stuff. And that’s not even taking into account the emotions we feel about having too much stuff. Luckily, Emily has done the research. Let’s make your space more ventral.

Links:

Saturn Ion (Wikipedia)

FSP 2025 Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101

Freshwave (the stuff in the buckets)

Dana K. White

Cas Aarssen (Youtube)

Kay Patterson (Youtube)

Goodbye, Things (the silent to do list)

KonMari method

FSP 2020 Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex

Everyone masks to make it easier to live in the world. Emily and Amelia discuss theirs, and have some insights about times when things were particularly difficult.

Content warning, there are some dark thoughts and mentions of suicidal ideation in the form of a Zombie Leprechaun around the 50 minute mark. No one was harmed. Please take care.

Editor’s note: There is some extremely cathartic laughter at the end.

Amelia’s video from the beginning of this episode

Follow Amelia's Youtube channel here

Autistic masking

Cat-Q Scale

Charles Entertainment Cheese

FSP 2020 Episode 04: The Abyss

The Come As You Are podcast

Apple Podcasts • Spotify

Who in your life gives you the permission and support to take the time that you need? If you can’t think of anyone else, let it be us.

Links:

Cynthia Erivo sings I'm Here - The Color Purple

(The pose is at about 4:40)

Cynthia Erivo sings "I'm Here" for the final time on Broadway

Emily’s TED talk - The truth about unwanted arousal

Confidence and joy are the keys to a great sex life | Emily Nagoski | TEDxUniversityofNevada

The Burnout workbook

(Did you know there's a workbook??)

The Burnout workbook audiobook

(and an audiobook of the workbook??)

Dana K. White - How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind

FSP 2020 Episode 33: Because: Unbreakable

Kimmy Schmidt - ten seconds at a time

Shrinking (apple tv+)

Laura Vanderkam - Off the Clock: Feel Less Busy While Getting More Done

FSP 2020 Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger?

You are enough. Because all you can be is 100% of who you are.

But you’re also filled with tiny organisms that fart.

Links:

Burnout (our book)

Starling murmuration 2020 (youtube video)

High Conflict by Amanda Ripley

My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem

Coca-Cola's 'Hilltop' Ad ("I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing") (youtube)

Brandon Sanderson's "The Stormlight Archive" series

(Amelia's excerpt is from book 5.)

The Bubble of Love (FSP2020 episode 11)

Dorsal. Sympathetic. Ventral. It’s all about your nervous system’s sense of safety.

Links:

Vagus Nerve

Exteroception

Interoception

Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us by Stephen W. Porges and Seth Porges

Deb Dana's website - includes definitions of Polyvagal Theory terms

Glimmers

Borders Books and Music (RIP)

FSP2020 episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (of four)

website : podcast feed

FSP2020 episode 49: How to Dreams

website : podcast feed

Turns out you can be identical twins and experience gender really differently from one another. Emily and Amelia discuss. 

Content warning: There’s some talk about fascism and Mussolini’s sex life.

Links:

Come Together - The Gender Mirage (chapter 10)

Kakistocracy

Sari van Anders

Anne Fausto-Sterling

ALOK

Will and Harper (Netflix show)