Ali & Roark think you’ll enjoy this podcast only if you’re smart, cool, and can hold a conversation. Did that statement make alarm bells go off? It should, because it’s an example of negging! (And to be clear, we would never say that for real, we love you all!) This week’s topic is negging: the back-handed compliment aka an insult that unfortunately permeates dating. But first, Ali & Roark start the episode with their updates – including an epic phone-throwing moment on Roark’s part. Next, they recap the insanity of FBoy Island episodes 4 through 6. Finally, they talk about all the ways negging can appear in dating – from subtle to blatant and from dating profile to within a long-term relationship – and how to be aware of it and avoid those who do it.

Timestamps: FBoy Island recap begins at around 23:00; Topic Talk begins at around 40:45.

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Have you ever asked yourself: do they like me? If so, it may because you’re receiving mixed signals. Ali & Roark are here to discuss what it feels like when someone you’re dating is running hot and cold. They answer listener questions about the confusion of having a strong in-person connection but lukewarm texting; and what it’s like to date someone who behaves like you’re in a relationship but tells you they don’t want one. But first, Ali & Roark give their own personal updates as well as start a new segment where they discuss the HBO Max show FBoy Island. Timestamps: FBoy Island talk begins at around 22:10; Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 43:20. If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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This week, Ali welcomes on Ilana Dunn of Seeing Other People (@seeingotherpeople) to co-host while Roark takes the bar. Ali has about a million personal updates this week ranging from ghosts to phone throwing moments. Then, Ali & Ilana get into how friendships impact dating relationships. For example: how to handle friends who don’t like your new person, and how to handle it when you don’t like your friend’s new person.

Topic Talk begins at approximately 25:00

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Ali & Roark are back to answer as many of your questions as possible in another Grab Bag Episode! But first, both share personal updates and discover Roark has a lot in common with Ali's exes. They read a *chef's kiss* listener submitted Phone Throwing Moment, and this week's Weird or Nah triggers what will inevitably be a podcast mainstay: Ali's Anger. Then, in this lightning round they tackle: using a childhood photo on your dating profile, meeting the parents, when lack of exclusivity may signal they aren't interested, and if we ever feel too comfortable being single. Grab Bag Questions begin at approximately 28:40 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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Have you ever been lovebombed? Would you like us to describe it to you? Well, Ali & Roark are here to do just that. Before Topic Talk, both Ali & Roark have dating updates to share this week! Then, they define lovebombing and talk about how tricky it can be to separate it from genuine affection and interest. Both share their own experiences being lovebombed and address how to set effective boundaries when you notice lovebombing behaviors.

Topic Talk begins at approximately 23:30

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I think we got a situation, here! Well, a situationship that is. Ali & Roark delve into the messy topic of relationships that aren’t quite relationships, but they’re also totally relationships. We said it was messy! As usual, Ali & Roark share their personal updates including Ali’s fun first date and Roark’s CRIME story. Then, they tell stories of their own experiences with situationships and answer listener questions about them like how you can avoid getting into one, and how to voice your needs when you want more.

Topic Talk begins at approximately 26:20

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Ali & Roark finally finish the first date trilogy and address after the first date. How do you tell if you’re into someone enough for a second date? Who should send the first text? Should the text say thank you or something else? How much texting between dates is appropriate? Who should set up date two? They address all these questions and more!

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Ali & Roark have wanted to do an episode focused on LGBTQIA+ dating for a while now, and Pride Month felt like the perfect time! As always, they start with their updates. Ali is *accidentally* perpetrating CRIME and has an all-time phone throwing moment and Roark ran into an ex at a coffee shop. Then, they have two amazing guest segments. First, Ariella Serur, @queerdatingcoach on Instagram, comes on the pod to have both an insightful and fun conversation. Ariella tells Ali & Roark all about her work as (you guessed it) a queer dating coach. They discuss how queer daters don’t have a “map” or “playbook” of norms like heteronormative daters do, and Ariella shares her “four quadrants” for how to meet people. Then, Ali & Roark welcome in Roark’s friend Nicole, @nic_nak_cooks. Nicole is a gay woman dating in LA and brings wild stories from the dating front lines.

Timestamps: Ariella’s interview begins at around 23:20; Nicole joins at around 1:10:00

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Ali & Roark have an emotional discussion this week as they tackle grief in dating. As always, they start the episode with their own dating updates and delve into a canine-related “weird or nah.” The conversation about grief begins at around 25:30, and given that this can be a difficult topic, they both understand if this is an episode you’d prefer to skip. During “Topic Talk,” Ali opens up about her own personal journey since her dad’s death in 2018. She shares what it is like to talk to a new partner about it and how she’s come to understand new needs and boundaries. Roark talks about being on the receiving end of that kind of disclosure and they both discuss how to best support those going through grief. If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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Ali & Roark thought discussing the first date would be two episodes, but turns out it is a trilogy! In Episode 14 they covered everything before the date and in an upcoming episode they will tackle after the first date. But first, in this episode, they answer a bunch of listener questions about going on the first date itself. Topics include: how to keep a conversation going and how to end a date before it becomes a marathon hang. 

Timestamp: Topic Talk begins at about 25:00

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