We are physiologically wired to be connected, and people who are insecurely attached (avoidant or anxious) tend to be very self-sufficient. At least that's the impression they give, but once you get beneath their independent exterior, you may find they are just as needy, messy and wanting of help as anyone else.

If you have such a tough exterior, how can anyone else get in? Where is that opportunity for connection? Why do you wear independence like a crown of strength? This perceived self-confidence is not really confidence. Confidence means being comfortable in your body at all times. Remember, how people appear and how they feel can be two totally different things.

When we don't feel safe and fear the emotional vulnerability that comes with asking for help, we call it self-sufficiency and take pride in being Mr. or Ms. Independent. Learn how asking for help or accepting it when it's offered is actually the bravest thing you can do.

As one of the most quoted dating experts in the country for the last ten years, David Wygant has been prominently featured in thousands of media outlets including E! Entertainment Television, Fox News, Dateline NBC, ABC News, MTV, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, USA Today, and The Los Angeles Times. He is one of the leading writers for Yahoo! Personals, and is one of the few dating coaches who works with both men and women.

Join me for a feisty conversation about dating, and learn more about the “regular guy” behind helping singles transform their love lives. He is a straight-shooter whose unique approach is based on his own dating experiences.

David’s website, www.davidwygant.com, includes a daily blog for both men and women, video blogs, podcasts and an array of products and coaching services.

As one of the most quoted dating experts in the country for the last ten years, David Wygant has been prominently featured in thousands of media outlets including E! Entertainment Television, Fox News, Dateline NBC, ABC News, MTV, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, USA Today, and The Los Angeles Times. He is one of the leading writers for Yahoo! Personals, and is one of the few dating coaches who works with both men and women.

Join me for a feisty conversation about dating, and learn more about the “regular guy” behind helping singles transform their love lives. He is a straight-shooter whose unique approach is based on his own dating experiences.

David’s website, www.davidwygant.com, includes a daily blog for both men and women, video blogs, podcasts and an array of products and coaching services.

As one of the most quoted dating experts in the country for the last ten years, David Wygant has been prominently featured in thousands of media outlets including E! Entertainment Television, Fox News, Dateline NBC, ABC News, MTV, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, USA Today, and The Los Angeles Times. He is one of the leading writers for Yahoo! Personals, and is one of the few dating coaches who works with both men and women.

Join me for a feisty conversation about dating, and learn more about the “regular guy” behind helping singles transform their love lives. He is a straight-shooter whose unique approach is based on his own dating experiences.

David’s website, www.davidwygant.com, includes a daily blog for both men and women, video blogs, podcasts and an array of products and coaching services.

Are you trying to be stronger than you really feel? Some face it daily, not knowing how to put the pieces inside them back together. It requires great vulnerability to show your cards because then people will know you’re not perfect, right?

Being “broken” is something so many feel, but never truly confront. They put on a brave face and think, “If I don’t tell anyone I’m broken, maybe I won’t be”. This podcast reveals how to stop the façade. You don’t have to pretend--it’s ok to feel broken because it’s the only way you’ll find your way back to being whole.

Are you trying to be stronger than you really feel? Some face it daily, not knowing how to put the pieces inside them back together. It requires great vulnerability to show your cards because then people will know you’re not perfect, right?

Being “broken” is something so many feel, but never truly confront. They put on a brave face and think, “If I don’t tell anyone I’m broken, maybe I won’t be”. This podcast reveals how to stop the façade. You don’t have to pretend--it’s ok to feel broken because it’s the only way you’ll find your way back to being whole.

Are you trying to be stronger than you really feel? Some face it daily, not knowing how to put the pieces inside them back together. It requires great vulnerability to show your cards because then people will know you’re not perfect, right?

Being “broken” is something so many feel, but never truly confront. They put on a brave face and think, “If I don’t tell anyone I’m broken, maybe I won’t be”. This podcast reveals how to stop the façade. You don’t have to pretend--it’s ok to feel broken because it’s the only way you’ll find your way back to being whole.

Insecure attachment and dating. Looking for love when you’re in your head will most likely end in disaster, or at the very least a connection that has very little to do with healthy, happy loving kindness. This podcast offers some tools for those with insecure attachment issues around dating. Have you found a soulmate more than once in a short period of time? Or what about when you finally detach yourself from a toxic relationship and you're just numb? Until…

You meet somebody who brings out those warm, wonderful feelings of anxiety because they're an avoidant. Dating when you have insecure attachment issues leads you down the wrong path--a path many others also walk.

Having the clarity to know if someone is emotionally available (and the ability to turn that mirror on yourself) isn’t an easy task. The key is making yourself available, feeling your feelings and speaking your truth. Doing so will open doors that you thought were walls, and allow you to love and be loved.

Insecure attachment and dating. Looking for love when you’re in your head will most likely end in disaster, or at the very least a connection that has very little to do with healthy, happy loving kindness. This podcast offers some tools for those with insecure attachment issues around dating. Have you found a soulmate more than once in a short period of time? Or what about when you finally detach yourself from a toxic relationship and you're just numb? Until…

You meet somebody who brings out those warm, wonderful feelings of anxiety because they're an avoidant. Dating when you have insecure attachment issues leads you down the wrong path--a path many others also walk.

Having the clarity to know if someone is emotionally available (and the ability to turn that mirror on yourself) isn’t an easy task. The key is making yourself available, feeling your feelings and speaking your truth. Doing so will open doors that you thought were walls, and allow you to love and be loved.

Insecure attachment and dating. Looking for love when you’re in your head will most likely end in disaster, or at the very least a connection that has very little to do with healthy, happy loving kindness. This podcast offers some tools for those with insecure attachment issues around dating. Have you found a soulmate more than once in a short period of time? Or what about when you finally detach yourself from a toxic relationship and you're just numb? Until…

You meet somebody who brings out those warm, wonderful feelings of anxiety because they're an avoidant. Dating when you have insecure attachment issues leads you down the wrong path--a path many others also walk.

Having the clarity to know if someone is emotionally available (and the ability to turn that mirror on yourself) isn’t an easy task. The key is making yourself available, feeling your feelings and speaking your truth. Doing so will open doors that you thought were walls, and allow you to love and be loved.