Freedom from Attachment

Previous podcasts on insecure attachment have covered a few themes. The good news is it is not a life sentence! It requires a completely different kind of commitment to work through its auto-pilot ways. It can be insidious because it shows up in so many scenarios... leaving us wondering if we're in control of what we want.

Insecure attachment is at the core of the following:

• I am perfectly happy in my single life, then I meet someone and I lose my mind.

• Why can't I leave? Or let go of an old love?

• Why can’t I commit?

• Why do I walk on eggshells?

• Why am I living my Plan B life?

All of these are founded in not having secure connections, the ones we didn't make when we were young, still affecting us as we get older. I could identify myself in each of those statements at different points of my life. What about you?

A relationship based in attachment is not grounded in reality. You NEED their validation—their attention—them to rescue you from you…you need the intensity, the excitement and the really low feelings too—you want the rollercoaster and you tell yourself whatever is necessary to make it happen. Insecure attachment is painful, want to know where it starts, your style and how to navigate your relationships and life based on it? Listen in.

A relationship based in attachment is not grounded in reality. You NEED their validation—their attention—them to rescue you from you…you need the intensity, the excitement and the really low feelings too—you want the rollercoaster and you tell yourself whatever is necessary to make it happen. Insecure attachment is painful, want to know where it starts, your style and how to navigate your relationships and life based on it? Listen in.

It’s amazing how so many of us do not get our true value. When we haven’t learned how to develop it ourselves, we look to others to provide it for us. Throw in the feelings of attachment (“I can't let go” or “I might die”) and it can add up to a lot of excuses about why we don’t take action toward what we say we want. This is a painful place to be. We all feel different, weird or misunderstood at times, and while we are each unique individuals with different circumstances, these feelings are universal. It’s when you need validation from someone else that you’re NOT different, weird or misunderstood, that you stay stuck. Especially when you’re seeking it from someone who won’t give it to you.

Learn how to gain self-worth and move toward a place of true love and joy, feeling your own value. Because no one can give it to you but you.

It’s amazing how so many of us do not get our true value. When we haven’t learned how to develop it ourselves, we look to others to provide it for us. Throw in the feelings of attachment (“I can't let go” or “I might die”) and it can add up to a lot of excuses about why we don’t take action toward what we say we want. This is a painful place to be. We all feel different, weird or misunderstood at times, and while we are each unique individuals with different circumstances, these feelings are universal. It’s when you need validation from someone else that you’re NOT different, weird or misunderstood, that you stay stuck. Especially when you’re seeking it from someone who won’t give it to you.

Learn how to gain self-worth and move toward a place of true love and joy, feeling your own value. Because no one can give it to you but you.

If you've been stuck and not able to let go, and want to move on more than anything...this meditation will help you get there. I have added energetic healing into the words and quality of this audio. It is meant for you to feel safe, releasing old negative thoughts and opening up space for creativity. In the meditation you should feel you've reached a space where you energetically are in alignment with what you want to attract. Learn how to bring the meditation into your daily life with one simple tool.

If you've been stuck and not able to let go, and want to move on more than anything...this meditation will help you get there. I have added energetic healing into the words and quality of this audio. It is meant for you to feel safe, releasing old negative thoughts and opening up space for creativity. In the meditation you should feel you've reached a space where you energetically are in alignment with what you want to attract. Learn how to bring the meditation into your daily life with one simple tool.

We have this idea in our society that if we physically leave, we're done. Out of sight, out of mind. Neat and tidy! Sometimes that’s true, but not when there is attachment. In fact, we may find ourselves drawn back in for the 50th time, and feel quite bad about it.

We often don't see our own emotional unavailability, only the other person's inability to give us what we want. We get stuck in an unending circle of feeling trapped by our own feelings and this teeny tiny hope deep inside that it might be different this time. It induces anxiety, which just covers up what lies beneath: fear. Living in this place will never lead to a fulfilling relationship.

Attachment comes from a desire to validate, which is probably something you didn’t receive growing up… so you’re on the hunt. Disappointment lingers in the background, so you avoid situations where you may end up there and head for them at the same time (contradiction, right?).

Unfortunately we repeat this attachment (not just romantically) until we give OURSELVES value. Listen in on how to not form another wall, detach and get to the bottom of what has you stuck in this rotisserie of hell.

We have this idea in our society that if we physically leave, we're done. Out of sight, out of mind. Neat and tidy! Sometimes that’s true, but not when there is attachment. In fact, we may find ourselves drawn back in for the 50th time, and feel quite bad about it.

We often don't see our own emotional unavailability, only the other person's inability to give us what we want. We get stuck in an unending circle of feeling trapped by our own feelings and this teeny tiny hope deep inside that it might be different this time. It induces anxiety, which just covers up what lies beneath: fear. Living in this place will never lead to a fulfilling relationship.

Attachment comes from a desire to validate, which is probably something you didn’t receive growing up… so you’re on the hunt. Disappointment lingers in the background, so you avoid situations where you may end up there and head for them at the same time (contradiction, right?).

Unfortunately we repeat this attachment (not just romantically) until we give OURSELVES value. Listen in on how to not form another wall, detach and get to the bottom of what has you stuck in this rotisserie of hell.

A short meditation or I call it just getting yourself out of a negative headspace and into a space of gratitude. Gratitude is what brings more to us and the more you feel grateful for what you have and all of your experiences, the more abundance is drawn your way!