We have this idea in our society that if we physically leave, we're done. Out of sight, out of mind. Neat and tidy! Sometimes that’s true, but not when there is attachment. In fact, we may find ourselves drawn back in for the 50th time, and feel quite bad about it.

We often don't see our own emotional unavailability, only the other person's inability to give us what we want. We get stuck in an unending circle of feeling trapped by our own feelings and this teeny tiny hope deep inside that it might be different this time. It induces anxiety, which just covers up what lies beneath: fear. Living in this place will never lead to a fulfilling relationship.

Attachment comes from a desire to validate, which is probably something you didn’t receive growing up… so you’re on the hunt. Disappointment lingers in the background, so you avoid situations where you may end up there and head for them at the same time (contradiction, right?).

Unfortunately we repeat this attachment (not just romantically) until we give OURSELVES value. Listen in on how to not form another wall, detach and get to the bottom of what has you stuck in this rotisserie of hell.