Freedom from Attachment

Staying in a state of intensity when in an insecurely attached relationship can be exhausting, and it doesn’t even produce the desired results. Do you gauge what your mate does, then push him/her into doing what you want to create that perfect picture in your head? Not only is it a drain on your energy; it doesn’t work. It’s not about controlling others—it’s about finding emotional control by being honest with yourself and what you truly want. Stop trying so hard and learn how to relax by focusing internally, keeping your energy in your body. It feels much better than waiting for something from someone who may never give you what you want. Stop the cycle of intensity followed by disappointment, and instead learn to RELAX.

Staying in a state of intensity when in an insecurely attached relationship can be exhausting, and it doesn’t even produce the desired results. Do you gauge what your mate does, then push him/her into doing what you want to create that perfect picture in your head? Not only is it a drain on your energy; it doesn’t work. It’s not about controlling others—it’s about finding emotional control by being honest with yourself and what you truly want. Stop trying so hard and learn how to relax by focusing internally, keeping your energy in your body. It feels much better than waiting for something from someone who may never give you what you want. Stop the cycle of intensity followed by disappointment, and instead learn to RELAX.

We overachievers tend to put a lot of effort into everything we do, holding tightly to the outcome without even knowing why. Meaning, if I work hard enough, I can turn that perfect picture in my head of the “right way” to live into reality. Living a life of ease and fulfillment is actually difficult for many of us because we’re so stuck on the outcome… whether it’s validation or a Band-Aid for loneliness or financial success.

We turn easy into hard. So how do you flip that around? Stop forcing everything; look at what you’re actually trying to achieve and WHY. A lot of us say we want a happy relationship or successful business or a promotion at work, but do we know WHY we want those things? We need to understand our motivation, otherwise we’re working hard toward a fulfillment that never comes. Look at where you feel you owe someone for something. That focus on the external is why you’re left feeling empty when you hit your goals, not understanding why having the “perfect” job doesn’t actually bring happiness. You’re working your ass off toward something you may not even truly want… something that is the opposite of your true desire. But you keep trudging along thinking hard work equals reward, never mind the fact that you’re working toward something that doesn’t fulfill you emotionally or spiritually. Tune in to find out why understanding what you want is so important, and how that leads to creating more ease in your life.

We overachievers tend to put a lot of effort into everything we do, holding tightly to the outcome without even knowing why. Meaning, if I work hard enough, I can turn that perfect picture in my head of the “right way” to live into reality. Living a life of ease and fulfillment is actually difficult for many of us because we’re so stuck on the outcome… whether it’s validation or a Band-Aid for loneliness or financial success.

We turn easy into hard. So how do you flip that around? Stop forcing everything; look at what you’re actually trying to achieve and WHY. A lot of us say we want a happy relationship or successful business or a promotion at work, but do we know WHY we want those things? We need to understand our motivation, otherwise we’re working hard toward a fulfillment that never comes. Look at where you feel you owe someone for something. That focus on the external is why you’re left feeling empty when you hit your goals, not understanding why having the “perfect” job doesn’t actually bring happiness. You’re working your ass off toward something you may not even truly want… something that is the opposite of your true desire. But you keep trudging along thinking hard work equals reward, never mind the fact that you’re working toward something that doesn’t fulfill you emotionally or spiritually. Tune in to find out why understanding what you want is so important, and how that leads to creating more ease in your life.

We overachievers tend to put a lot of effort into everything we do, holding tightly to the outcome without even knowing why. Meaning, if I work hard enough, I can turn that perfect picture in my head of the “right way” to live into reality. Living a life of ease and fulfillment is actually difficult for many of us because we’re so stuck on the outcome… whether it’s validation or a Band-Aid for loneliness or financial success.

We turn easy into hard. So how do you flip that around? Stop forcing everything; look at what you’re actually trying to achieve and WHY. A lot of us say we want a happy relationship or successful business or a promotion at work, but do we know WHY we want those things? We need to understand our motivation, otherwise we’re working hard toward a fulfillment that never comes. Look at where you feel you owe someone for something. That focus on the external is why you’re left feeling empty when you hit your goals, not understanding why having the “perfect” job doesn’t actually bring happiness. You’re working your ass off toward something you may not even truly want… something that is the opposite of your true desire. But you keep trudging along thinking hard work equals reward, never mind the fact that you’re working toward something that doesn’t fulfill you emotionally or spiritually. Tune in to find out why understanding what you want is so important, and how that leads to creating more ease in your life.

We overachievers tend to put a lot of effort into everything we do, holding tightly to the outcome without even knowing why. Meaning, if I work hard enough, I can turn that perfect picture in my head of the “right way” to live into reality. Living a life of ease and fulfillment is actually difficult for many of us because we’re so stuck on the outcome… whether it’s validation or a Band-Aid for loneliness or financial success.

We turn easy into hard. So how do you flip that around? Stop forcing everything; look at what you’re actually trying to achieve and WHY. A lot of us say we want a happy relationship or successful business or a promotion at work, but do we know WHY we want those things? We need to understand our motivation, otherwise we’re working hard toward a fulfillment that never comes. Look at where you feel you owe someone for something. That focus on the external is why you’re left feeling empty when you hit your goals, not understanding why having the “perfect” job doesn’t actually bring happiness. You’re working your ass off toward something you may not even truly want… something that is the opposite of your true desire. But you keep trudging along thinking hard work equals reward, never mind the fact that you’re working toward something that doesn’t fulfill you emotionally or spiritually. Tune in to find out why understanding what you want is so important, and how that leads to creating more ease in your life.

We overachievers tend to put a lot of effort into everything we do, holding tightly to the outcome without even knowing why. Meaning, if I work hard enough, I can turn that perfect picture in my head of the “right way” to live into reality. Living a life of ease and fulfillment is actually difficult for many of us because we’re so stuck on the outcome… whether it’s validation or a Band-Aid for loneliness or financial success.

We turn easy into hard. So how do you flip that around? Stop forcing everything; look at what you’re actually trying to achieve and WHY. A lot of us say we want a happy relationship or successful business or a promotion at work, but do we know WHY we want those things? We need to understand our motivation, otherwise we’re working hard toward a fulfillment that never comes. Look at where you feel you owe someone for something. That focus on the external is why you’re left feeling empty when you hit your goals, not understanding why having the “perfect” job doesn’t actually bring happiness. You’re working your ass off toward something you may not even truly want… something that is the opposite of your true desire. But you keep trudging along thinking hard work equals reward, never mind the fact that you’re working toward something that doesn’t fulfill you emotionally or spiritually. Tune in to find out why understanding what you want is so important, and how that leads to creating more ease in your life.

When I started talking more openly about my Insecure Attachment issues, people would ask how I dealt with the fear that comes from being so vulnerable. Opening your heart is not a mental task, and it can’t be approached that way. It comes from seeing yourself as you truly are—flawed, loveable and desiring of love. With an open heart, you’ll also become more aware of your walls, and actually feel them, which is essential if you want to tear them down.

If you’re a smarty pants like me, you can talk yourself in and out of things very quickly. It’s your brain taking over because emotions are scary. But if you do tune into your feelings, they always provide a clue to where and when you shut down. Learn how to quiet your mind and feel empowered even when you’re scared shitless. It’s how you’ll stop feeling helpless toward changing your situation.

When I started talking more openly about my Insecure Attachment issues, people would ask how I dealt with the fear that comes from being so vulnerable. Opening your heart is not a mental task, and it can’t be approached that way. It comes from seeing yourself as you truly are—flawed, loveable and desiring of love. With an open heart, you’ll also become more aware of your walls, and actually feel them, which is essential if you want to tear them down.

If you’re a smarty pants like me, you can talk yourself in and out of things very quickly. It’s your brain taking over because emotions are scary. But if you do tune into your feelings, they always provide a clue to where and when you shut down. Learn how to quiet your mind and feel empowered even when you’re scared shitless. It’s how you’ll stop feeling helpless toward changing your situation.

When I started talking more openly about my Insecure Attachment issues, people would ask how I dealt with the fear that comes from being so vulnerable. Opening your heart is not a mental task, and it can’t be approached that way. It comes from seeing yourself as you truly are—flawed, loveable and desiring of love. With an open heart, you’ll also become more aware of your walls, and actually feel them, which is essential if you want to tear them down.

If you’re a smarty pants like me, you can talk yourself in and out of things very quickly. It’s your brain taking over because emotions are scary. But if you do tune into your feelings, they always provide a clue to where and when you shut down. Learn how to quiet your mind and feel empowered even when you’re scared shitless. It’s how you’ll stop feeling helpless toward changing your situation.