Nikki Hume is an art teacher at an international school in Manila. She taught for 9 years in the states before teaching abroad and attributes her two burnout experiences with helping her to learn very valuable life lessons. Today, Nikki discusses teacher burnout and how it relates to her own experiences teaching internationally. 

 

Educator burnout has a variety of root causes, but one of the largest is a lack of proper work life balance and well-established boundaries. Nikki explains that in international schools there is actually even less of a clear divide between school and personal life, because there is more of an expectation for teachers to be socially involved with their colleagues. Unless you put in significant effort to make outside friends, the majority of your friendships will likely be with other teachers. Another issue causing burnt out teachers is that there is often a lack of clarity on job responsibilities from day to day. Teachers may burn out simply because they are overwhelmed by the amount of demands being put on them that are technically outside of their job description.

 

As the world changes, so too do the expectations and requirements for teachers. Kids have different needs than they did in the past and there is a lot of pressure on educators to take on an emotional caregiver type role in addition to their educational role. By establishing strong boundaries and being very intentional about upholding them, teachers can prevent burnout and keep doing what they love.

 

Quotes

• “If you love teaching and you don't want to burn out from it, you don't want to make a full career change, then you have to protect yourself.” (18:42-18:52 | Nikki) 

• “Colleagues aren't just your colleagues in the international world.” (21:15-21:18 | Nikki)

• “It's a lack of an understanding of collaboration and what that means for teachers working within teams, and teachers connecting also to administrative support.” (26:36-26:49 | Nikki)

• “There's times where the expectations for what your role is on that day is not clear.” (28:15-28:20 | Nikki)

• “The one thing teachers say is there's never enough time. There's never enough time in the school day, in their own day sometimes to get all the things done. And so I wonder if we just let teachers do their job, what is in their job description, and not keep adding to the plate without taking something else off, would that idea of expectations shift?” (28:38-29:08 | Nikki)

• “Everyone's definition of collaboration is different.” (33:46-33:48 | Nikki)

• “The world has also shifted and the things that kids need is very different. Sometimes I can’t relate to it, so I just have to be empathetic to it.” (44:15-44:24 | Nikki)

 

Links

Connect with Nikki Hume: 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nikki-hume-3b90b632/

 

XOXO,

C

 

If you know that it’s time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you’ve been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait

 

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From learning body signals to learning about the link between energy expenditure and finances, over 100 guests have opened up and shared their burnout stories. In today’s #straightfromcait episode, Cait Donovan, host and burnout speaker, shares burnout recovery tips from 2 guests from each season of FRIED, including lessons from guests like Ashley Rose, Maggie Reyes, Simone Craig, Dr. Valerie Ryan, and more.

 

Ashley Rose was the first guest ever on FRIED. She and Cait spoke about how childhood trauma creates a greater risk of burnout as an adult. Next, Cait recalls the episode with Maggie Reyes about how there can be a physical component to burnout. You can do all the therapy you want, but if something is physically wrong like a thyroid deficiency or anemia, you will not be able to fully recover without addressing it first. Cait goes on to share more stories from past podcast guests, delving into topics like addiction and codependency, the patriarchy, and the neuroscience of burnout.

 

There is a lot of valuable information provided throughout the six seasons of FRIED thanks to over 100 guests opening up and sharing their stories of burnout recovery. With tips about being more in touch with your body, following the breadcrumbs to make small changes, surrendering control, and more, you can be sure to learn something that will resonate with your own experiences.

 

Quotes

• “Burnout was part of the story, but part of her burnout was this physical portion. And I think that's so important to remember in a world that is telling us constantly that trauma is the root of all of our problems.” (6:46-6:57 | Cait) 

• “Follow the breadcrumbs. Look to the smallest little hints of what you should be doing next and follow those and allow them to slowly transform you, instead of trying to make this big massive change. Because big massive changes take big massive energy that you just don't have right now.” (7:25-7:42 | Cait)

• “Codependence is this way that we give to other people so much until there's nothing of us left, until we are completely lost. This is such a common thing in burnout.” (10:21-10:31 | Cait)

• “When you don't have systems in place to make your life easier, you're spending extra energy figuring everything out fresh every time you do it. Which means that you are blocking the energy that you need to have available for creativity, for joy, for fun, for things that are not get this task done kind of energy.” (15:29-15:48 | Cait)

 

Links 

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/ashley-rose

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/maggie-reyes

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/dr-valerie-rein

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/simone-craig

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/melanie-moberg

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/shonte-javon-taylor

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/jim-young-ceo-dad-burnout-emotional-gold-digging-and-why-relationships-matter

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/casey-davidson-alcohol-use-overwork-and-the-societally-accepted-addiction-that-feeds-them-both

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/dan-sykes-the-somatic-fanatic-talks-the-power-of-curiosity-for-nervous-system-training

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/nneka-roberts-using-systems-to-create-more-time-mental-space-creativity-and-money

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/newton-cheng-i-burned-out-in-corporate-and-stayed-this-is-how

XOXO,

C

 

If you know that it’s time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you’ve been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait

 

https://friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/quiz

 

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Aesha Tahir is the founder of Tone and Strengthen, a corporate wellness company, as well as an author and exercise physiologist. Her book, Unhunched: Discovering Wellness Through Posture, is set for release this Spring. Today, Aesha shares how posture impacts the stress system and burnout recoverability. 

 

Aesha is no stranger to burnout after having experienced it twice. Her first experience led her to the ER, fearful that she was having a stroke when her left foot went completely numb. It turned out that her stressful highly sedentary corporate lifestyle coupled with being a wife and mother was causing sciatica. She spent 12 hours at work slouching and all day stressing out about her responsibilities while ignoring her body’s signals for help until she literally had no choice but to listen. When she had her second child, Aesha decided to step back from work and got more active. Within six months of being more active, her back pain was gone even though she was caring for a newborn. Being pain free was not the only benefit either. As Aesha worked on her posture and stopped slouching and unknowingly taking a submissive stance, people began to compliment her and view her as more confident.

 

Body language accounts for 93% of all communication. So it is important to set yourself up for success through having good posture. Slouching puts stress on your nervous system and causes it to activate flight or fight mode, increasing your risk for burnout. Tune into today’s episode of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast for a conversation with Aesha Tahir on how posture affects the stress system and what steps you can take to improve it today.

 

Quotes

• “A lot of times we are not aware of what's happening within our bodies.” (9:17-9:21 | Aesha)

• “When I started working out regularly, and I removed the excessive stress from my life, now I had the room to understand and be in tune with my body.” (9:53-10:06 | Aesha)

• “93% of the communication is through body language. So, is your body language set up for success or not?” (15:32-15:40 | Aesha)

• “When we have this rounded shoulder posture or hunched over posture, literally we are collapsing our lungs and our diaphragm.” (20:12-20:19 | Aesha)

• “When you have poor posture the stress center in our brain, which we call the red nucleus, responds to the physical poor posture and activates the sympathetic nervous system.” (30:49-31:05 | Aesha)

• “You can use your posture, your body language, for success, not just physically, not just to be pain free, but also to step into the greatness of your own being.” (40:15-40:30 | Aesha) 

 

Links

https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are/comments

www.toneandstrengthen.com

https://www.instagram.com/tone_and_strengthen/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/aeshatahir/

https://unhunched.ck.page/ecf6947f70

 

Convertible Desk: https://www.amazon.com/VIVO-Converter-Adjustable-Workstation-DESK-V028KB/dp/B0BGYGTSR5/ref=pd_ci_mcx_mh_mcx_views_0?pd_rd_w=ZG4Z5&content-id=amzn1.sym.1bcf206d-941a-4dd9-9560-bdaa3c824953&pf_rd_p=1bcf206d-941a-4dd9-9560-bdaa3c824953&pf_rd_r=3SZ9QRR6YD717QCZKHBP&pd_rd_wg=3jvQv&pd_rd_r=b73baebf-13dd-43b5-81cd-ef276cdd273a&pd_rd_i=B0BGYGTSR5

XOXO,

C

 

If you know that it’s time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you’ve been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait

 

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If you used to have an exercise routine before burning out, you may be wondering when it is safe to start exercising again. The truth is that it differs for everyone, and you know your body better than anyone else. Learning to listen to your body and make adjustments based on what it is telling you is key for burnout recovery. In today’s #straightfromcait episode, Cait Donovan, host and burnout speaker, shares tips for incorporating exercise into your burnout recovery.

 

Movement is critical for your overall health. Resting is a big part of recovery too, but that does not mean sitting around doing nothing all day every day. Start incorporating movement back into your life slowly and see how it goes. Don’t try to do a high intensity workout or a big run right away as those things are likely to overuse your energy stores and cause you to crash harder. Just adding in a short ten or twenty minute morning walk can make a huge difference. Energy building exercises like Tai Chi and Yin Yoga can be excellent tools to add movement back into your day without pushing your body too far. 

 

Everyone’s body is different, so only you can really know how much exercise your body is ready to take on. Listening to your body and getting really in tune with how it is feeling is the best thing you can do for your overall burnout recovery. Start by going slow, checking in with your body after every movement, and making sure you are getting enough fuel through what you are eating. 

 

Quotes

• “The best time to do this 10 or 20 minute walk is as close to sunrise as possible, that way you are starting the proper cascade of hormones in your body right from the get go.” (7:19-7:31 | Cait)

• “Pushing it with exercise when you're feeling strong is a good thing to do, that's a healthy thing to do. But when you're burned out, it can be a little bit tricky, because it overuses your energy.” (10:25-10:33 | Cait)

• “In order to exercise efficiently and to use the energy well, and for your body to get stuff out of it, you should have quality food.” (13:47-13:54 | Cait)

• “Keep moving any way that you can. Add more when you feel up for it, scale back if it exhausts you, and check in with your fuel sources.” (15:22-15:33 | Cait)

• “Listening to what your body is telling you is the most critical factor in your recovery.” (15:39-15:44 | Cait)

 

Links 

 

XOXO,

C

 

If you know that it’s time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you’ve been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait

 

https://friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/quiz

https://instagram.com/carolynbrownie

https://instagram.com/isabelsmithnutrition

https://instagram.com/themetabolismmakeover

https://drinklmnt.com/

 

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Lauren Baptiste is the founder of Acheloa Wellness. She is approaching her 10 year burnout anniversary and attributes much of her healing to the practice of Ayurveda. Today, Lauren shares the magic of small steps for burnout recovery that helped her get to this point. 

 

When Lauren began to burnout, her body reacted in very serious ways. She ended up covered head to toe in hives and needed to go to the emergency room. Even covered in hives, her boss expected her to bring her computer to the hospital and to report for work the next morning. Lauren’s doctor explained that she was burned out and needed to make changes before her health got worse. As she realized how much stress impacts health, Lauren discovered Ayurveda, the study of life and longevity. It has been around for around 3 to 5,000 years and is an Indian practice grounded in Chinese medicine. Ayurveda provided tools for Lauren to make small, simple changes to her day that would ultimately lead to her burnout recovery. These changes included things like waking at sunrise to really take advantage of her morning and incorporating daily moments of gratitude.

 

It takes time to become burned out, and recovery can take just as long, or even longer. Instead of being frustrated by how long recovery is taking, know that there are small steps you can take right away that will help you. Tune into today’s episode of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast for a conversation with Lauren Baptiste on the magic of small steps for burnout recovery. 

 

Quotes

• “I learned that day that I had burnout. The doctor came back. He said to me, ‘Lauren, you're dealing with stress. You need to change something. Otherwise you're going to come back to me with much bigger problems one day’.” (9:41-9:55 | Lauren)

• “I knew in those first formidable years of corporate, it's kill or be killed. And I didn't realize that I was the one killing myself.” (20:45-20:53 | Lauren)

• “When I think of an exit strategy from burnout, it's understanding that it took years to get into this and it can take years to get out of it.” (29:10-29:22 | Lauren) 

• “If we can prep our body the best way possible, it does have an effect on our overall well being. It does give us the best poker hand possible to win this game of burnout.” (41:52-42:06 | Lauren) 

 

Links

Connect with Lauren Baptiste:

www.acheloawellness.com

https://instagram.com/acheloawelness

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauren-baptiste/

3 Steps to Set Healthy Boundaries: https://www.dropbox.com/s/gxrsodqox89jd0v/Acheloa%20Wellness%20-%20Freebie%20-%203%20Steps%20to%20Set%20Healthy%20Boundaries.pdf?dl=0

Self Massage:

Self Massage Customizing Your Self Massage

 

XOXO,

C

 

If you know that it’s time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you’ve been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait

 

https://friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/quiz

 

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During your burnout recovery, you will likely still not be at your original energy level for a while. It takes a different amount of time for everyone, but in Cait’s experience the average time frame has been around 18 months.  In today’s #straightfromcait episode, Cait Donovan, host and burnout speaker, shares 8 tips for helping to get your energy back during recovery.

 

Doing too much all at once can cause you to do more harm than good for your recovery. Start with choosing one thing to work on, and then once it becomes a habit you can move on to the next. A good place to start is seeing your doctor for blood work, or if you can afford it going to a functional medicine practitioner. If you have an underlying medical issue like anemia or low Vitamin D, you will not be able to feel energized regardless of how much mindset work you do. Another simple tip to improve your energy is to drink more water. Just adding one additional glass of water each day is a great way to keep yourself from becoming dehydrated, especially if you add in some electrolytes. 

 

Overdoing it is part of what causes burnout in the first place, so be patient with yourself during recovery. Be honest and take a step back if you find yourself doing too much. Start with small actionable steps like drinking more water or improving your posture and slowly work up to doing more as your energy returns.

 

Quotes

• “If your vitamin D or B12 are low, or if you’re anemic or your thyroid is off, you're not going to feel rested and or energized no matter how much mindset work you do.” (2:02-2:14 | Cait)

• “You can't have energy without water. If you aren't drinking enough, and you know who you are out there, add one more glass a day.” (3:44-3:52 | Cait) 

• “Check in and be honest about whether or not you're overdoing it, please. Because when you start to feel better, you might be inclined to work like you used to. And you might just not be able to do that yet. If you're overworking, you'll need to take a step back somehow. Learning how to rebalance your life is part of recovery, and it's impossible to feel rested when you're always overworked.” (5:14-5:36 | Cait)

 • “Did you know that when you're sitting in a crappy position all day and you don't breathe fully and therefore you don't use energy well, you're basically creating an inefficient machine?” (5:40-5:50 | Cait)

• “If you aren't moving because exercise still feels like it's too much, you might need to shift your mindset around what exercise means.” (6:29-6:37 | Cait)

• “Be patient with yourself, please. The desire to push yourself beyond your energetic means is a piece of what drew you to burnout in the first place.” (7:43-7:52 | Cait)

 

Links 

https://instagram.com/carolynbrownie

https://instagram.com/isabelsmithnutrition

https://instagram.com/themetabolismmakeover

https://instagram.com/lalunehealing

https://www.youtube.com/@SpringForestQigongYouTube

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/riley-jarvis-the-big-secrets-of-exceptional-sleep-with-the-sleep-consultant

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/carolyn-brown-love-where-you-live-beautify-your-home-and-drink-your-damn-water

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/isabel-smith

https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/elizabeth-collins-the-burnout-witch-talks-leaky-gut-tarot-and-optimal-blood-work

https://drinklmnt.com/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&gclid=Cj0KCQiA3eGfBhCeARIsACpJNU9X5rms3Ys7g762nRUemppIJhQg3yl1Uiv6-UzrHte5xRkyD_4ZjwAaAuY7EALw_wcB

 

Want to book Cait as a speaker? https://caitdonovan.as.me/inquiry

XOXO,

C

 

If you know that it’s time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you’ve been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait

 

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Ewa Błaszczak is a mentor for leaders and teams, an author, professional speaker, and coaching mentor to host Cait Donovan. Recently she wrote a book in Polish that began as a TED talk about the toxicity of sarcasm and developed into a deep dive on how to detoxify communication. 

 

Communication toxins are a natural defense mechanism that developed in response to our reptilian brain’s need for psychological safety and early humans’ reliance on one another to survive. When you are in a toxic environment, you are likely to fight others through your communication choices, whether by using sarcasm, ignoring people, or being overly critical. These dangerously toxic communication mechanisms reduce the psychological safety of not only yourself, but also those around you and can lead to burnout. It is impossible for trust to thrive in a toxic environment, so removing those toxins is pivotal for healthy relationships to grow.

 

Pay close attention to the language you use with yourself. When you improve the way you communicate with yourself, it will have a positive impact on how you communicate with others. Tune into today’s episode of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast for a conversation with Ewa Błaszczak about how to heal burnout by detoxing your communication. 

 

Quotes

• “There's a specific thing that makes our relationships crumble, that makes our lives literally miserable, and these are communication toxins.” (18:38-18:47 | Ewa)

• “We lack psychological safety. We are warring with ourselves and others constantly.” (19:09-19:16 | Ewa) 

• “If you are subject to sarcasm on a daily basis, your immune system gets compromised for the next four years and it causes all those autoimmune diseases.” (23:20-23:33 | Ewa)

• “We have to pay close attention to how we treat ourselves on a daily basis.” (36:39-36:45 | Ewa)

• “Start with yourself and start with monitoring your own inner communication, because once you change the way you communicate with yourself, there will be less pain and you'll be less vulnerable.” (38:37-38:49 | Ewa)

• “We are all wounded and toxicity is a natural defense mechanism not to feel our own pain.” (41:46-41:56 | Ewa)

• “There's no trust in a toxic environment. There's no possibility that the trust is going to thrive.” (48:17-48:23 | Ewa)

 

Links

Connect with Ewa Błaszczak:

https://ewablaszczak.com

https://www.akashicreadings.eu/

https://gottman.com 

https://www.ted.com/talks/ewa_blaszczak_let_s_put_an_end_to_sarcasm

 

XOXO,

C

 

If you know that it’s time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you’ve been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait

 

https://friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/quiz

 

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The steps for healing from burnout are different from what is required to prevent burnout. When you are burnt out and experiencing chronic stress, the part of your brain responsible for executive functioning actually loses neurons. This means that you may struggle more with memory loss and keeping up with all of the day to day responsibilities that come with adulting. In today’s #straightfromcait episode, Cait Donovan, host and burnout speaker, shares her tips for healing a burnt out brain.

 

In order to heal your brain and regain executive functioning skills, you should aim to make progress slowly. You cannot undo 20 years of chronic stress in three weeks and expect your brain to function like new. It takes time to heal and it is best to start small. No one can completely focus and be productive when they are hungry, thirsty, tired, or need to use the bathroom. Even just fixing things like your sleep patterns, making it a habit to eat regularly, and letting yourself pee when you need to are huge for building a healthy foundation.

 

Chronic stress often leads to burnout, and burnout actively shrinks the part of your brain that handles executive functioning. Healing your brain will take time and intentionality. Start small with activities like brain games on your phone to help improve memory and devoting time to foundational self-care. 

 

Quotes

• “The steps that are required to heal from burnout are different than those that are needed to prevent burnout.” (1:46-1:52 | Cait)

• “The part of your brain that is responsible for executive functioning loses neurons with chronic stress.” (3:21-3:26 | Cait)

• “You're gonna make the most progress with your burnout recovery when you are aiming for things that are just slightly out of your current ability. What I see happening all the time in burnout recovery is that people want to rewind 20 years of stress and damage in three weeks and get back functions that are too many steps ahead of where they are.” (5:31-5:53 | Cait) 

• “If you do everything for children, then that interferes with their executive functioning development because they're not being asked to task their brain to learn a new thing.” (8:46-8:56 | Cait)

• “Executive functioning skills are at their best when we are at our best.” (9:23-9:28 | Cait) 

• “We never expect a young child or a student to be able to grow and learn when they're tired and hungry. Why are you expecting yourself to?” (10:13-10:22 | Cait)

 

Links 

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AKGrmY8OSHM (Non Sleep Deep Rest)

https://insighttimer.com

https://instagram.com/themetabolismmakeover

XOXO,

C

 

If you know that it’s time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you’ve been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait

 

https://friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/quiz

 

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Recovering from burnout requires you to be okay with being uncomfortable. Rest is actually incredibly productive, and even though you might feel restless or guilty about sitting still it is vital for recovery. In today’s #straightfromcaitandsarah episode, Cait Donovan, host and burnout speaker, and Sarah Vosen, FRIED burnout coach, answer your most common burnout questions from the FRIED Facebook group.

 

If you are expending too much time and energy and not receiving enough resources back, this will contribute to burnout. You can’t go into burnout recovery the same way as you tackle other issues, because it requires an entirely different approach. When your resources are depleted, you need to rest in order to refill those resources. Your body is likely to start sending signals in the form of various ailments and symptoms if you ignore the signs for too long and refuse to rest. 

 

When you are experiencing signs of burnout, it is time to stop and take a break. Allow your body to rest and check in on your routine to see where you may be able to change things. Often you will find yourself running on autopilot and doing things a certain way when there may be a simpler way to do them that enables you to expend less resources.

 

Quotes

• “Recovery requires a different way of being, a different way of doing, a different mode of operation.” (3:35-3:40 | Sarah)

• “A lot of burnout recovery happens in these spaces where you learn to sit with feeling uncomfortable.” (6:59-7:07 | Cait)

• “When you are faced with the choice of guilt or resentment, choose guilt every time; because resentment eats at you.” (8:09-8:21 | Cait)

• “The guilt isn't the problem. The avoidance of the guilt is the problem.” (10:09-10:12 | Cait)

• “When we're burnt out, we have depleted our resources oftentimes, especially time and  energy, and we're giving too much. And we're giving too much out to things that aren't refueling our resources. So pausing for a second and a break is a good time to do this, to take an inventory of what am I spending my time, money, and resources, energy on? And what can I stop giving to?” (16:09-16:40 | Sarah) 

• “Rest is receiving resources.” (17:52-17:55 | Cait) 

• “Any symptom from head to toe can be part of a burnout scenario.” (30:52-30:56 | Cait)

 

Links 

 

https://bearaby.com

https://caitdonovan.as.me/sarah 

https://facebook.com/groups/friedtheburnoutpodcast

 

XOXO,

C

 

If you know that it’s time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you’ve been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait

 

https://friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/quiz

 

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Kute Blackson is an inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a group of 100 of the world’s foremost authorities in the personal development industry. He learned about the power and the magic of surrender when his mother was diagnosed with stomach cancer and his time with her became more precious than ever before. 

 

Surrender is a powerful tool for transformation and is an important part of burnout recovery. Humans are naturally hardwired to surrender, but as we grow up, we become resistant to it. We tend to forget that the ego is simply a pattern of behavior and not actually who we truly are. When we mistake ego for personal identity, surrender can feel like death instead of being seen for what it really is, a chance to let go and fully accept life for what it is. 

 

Resisting surrender is exhausting and can lead to burnout. When we fully accept surrender for what it is, we can grieve and then move forward. Tune into today’s episode of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast for a conversation with Kute Blackson about the magic of surrender.

 

Quotes

• “When I began to surrender and accept that she may not live, maybe this is it, it’s as though it transformed me because every moment became sacred.” (7:08-7:22 | Kute)

• “It was so profound, because I would sit in chemo sessions with my mother holding her hand in such gratitude for this moment that I had with her. I would sit in the park with her, all the things that I deemed a waste of time, because I was busy saving the planet, that I didn't have time to just sit and take a walk in the park with my mother because it was just not productive was so precious for the first time like it could be the last moment. And so the process of surrendering transformed my relationship to the moment, my relationship to her.” (7:47-8:23 | Kute) 

• “Surrender is the most powerful thing that we can do as human beings.” (11:58-12:01 | Kute)

• “Surrender is when we stop trying to force or manipulate life to fit our limited idea of how we think it should be and how we think a relationship should be. It's letting go of who we think we should be, and how we think life should be so that we take the limitations off of life so that we can be truly open and available to the highest unfolding that is seeking to happen.” (15:08-15:37 | Kute)

• “When we surrender, that’s when the magic happens.” (15:44-15:47 | Kute) 

• “Surrender is our natural state. That's what I just want people to get. Surrender is in fact hardwired into our physiology.” (24:10-24:19 | Kute)

• “Surrender is a death and when we allow ourselves to fully, fully, fully accept, then we can fully grieve. And when we fully grieve that’s when we're able to let go.” (41:10-41:21 | Kute)

 

Links

 

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Connect with Kute Blackson:

Website: www.kuteblackson.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kute-blackson-35755519/

Book:  www.themagicofsurrender.com

 

XOXO,

C

 

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