Fives often feel like outsiders, but what if the group we’ve always longed for already exists?

In this episode, we invite two longtime friends to join us for a candid conversation about what it’s really like to be friends with a Five. From hilarious stories to hard truths, we explore the highs and lows of maintaining deep, long-term friendships—especially when you tend to live in your head.

We reflect on shared histories, missed connections, and the emotional work required to sustain meaningful relationships over time. If you've ever struggled with investing in friendships, drifting apart from people you care about, or wondering whether you're too much (or not enough), this one is for you.

IN THIS EPISODE:

🔹 Friendship from the Outside In — What it’s like to be friends with a Five, from the perspective of a Seven and a Two.
🔹 Drifting, Reconnecting, and Reconstructing — Why friendships with Fives often fade and rekindle, and what holds them together long-term.
🔹 Anxiety, Energy, and Avoidance — How social anxiety, overthinking, and energy management affect how Fives show up in friendships.
🔹 From Judgement to Acceptance — How shared religious backgrounds shaped our self-righteousness, shame, and eventual emotional growth.
🔹 The Power of Being Seen — Why honest feedback from close friends is vital—and how it can transform your relationship with yourself.

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