Good Movement Draws Good Movement

In today's episode, I'm talking about the hidden wounds behind the Four Horsemen of Communication. I really want to peel back the layers further and look at the wounds beneath the behaviors. 

Stonewalling (my personal default + the one for many of you as well) is often the body's cry for safety. Our nervous system is overwhelmed and shutting down because we just can't take any more.

These patterns once helped you survive, but they don't have to run the show anymore. When you're ready to explore what healing looks like in your life, I'd love to walk with you through it!

In this episode, I cover:

• Why the four horsemen often stem from deeper emotional wounds
• How criticism seeks safety through control or perfection when love once felt performance-based
• How contempt masks deep hurt or shame
• Why defensiveness is a fear response rooted in not feeling safe to be wrong or misunderstood
• Why stonewalling is the body’s “shutdown” mode when emotions or conflict feel unsafe
• Realizing that these patterns once protected you, but won’t allow you to truly heal

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/hidden-wounds

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Schedule a free 30-minute consult call
• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm talking about boundaries that grow capacity. 

Many of us grew up believing we were responsible for everyone else's emotions. We learned to stay quiet, stay polite, and keep everyone happy. Unfortunately, those patterns often show up later as burnout, resentment, or the quiet ache of always being available for everyone but ourselves.

Boundaries don't have to mean permanence or walls that never come down; they're more like fences with gates. Boundaries that grow capacity can be uncomfortable at first, but over time, that discomfort turns into peace and regrowth.

In this episode, I cover:

• How to recognize when your body is signaling the need for a boundary
• Why so many of us were conditioned to feel responsible for other people’s emotions
• How guilt, burnout & resentment often show up when boundaries are missing
• The difference between compassion and carrying someone else’s emotional load
• Why boundaries are more like fences with gates than walls or distance
• How boundaries help grow your capacity + protect your energy
• The connection between boundaries & healing (for you and your loved ones)

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/boundaries-that-grow-capacity

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Episode 36: Boundaries Are Kind
• Episode 93: Family Dynamics and Emotional Healing with Paige Dulaney
• Episode 102: Stop Carrying Everyone Else’s Healing: Do the Work for You First
• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

I'm honored to welcome my friend, Will Hudson, to the podcast today!

Will's story starts like many others in ranch country: long hours, responsibility at a young age, and a deep desire to prove himself. But somewhere along the way, approval from others became his fuel, and drinking became the way to feel "good enough." 

In today's episode, we're diving into what being seen and staying sober has really entailed for Will. What started as a party habit in high school and college grew into something that quietly followed him home, into marriage and fatherhood. His story is one of redemption, humility, and hope. He is proof that healing doesn't make us weak; it makes us whole!

In this episode, we cover:

• Will’s journey from ranch manager to rediscovering his faith, purpose & sobriety
• How drinking became tied to seeking approval and self-worth
• The moment Will’s wife’s ultimatum changed everything + what life looks like on the other side of addiction
• The role of Wild Courage + the power of being witnessed without judgment or fixing
• How faith, community & emotional honesty reshaped Will’s marriage and relationships
• The unexpected ways inner healing has improved Will’s connection with horses & work on the ranch
• Why true strength means showing up, being seen, and doing the hard inner work

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/staying-sober

Connect with Will:

• Follow on Instagram @wlazyh
• Send him an email at [email protected]

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate
• Seth Dahl and the Emotionally Whole Family
• Listen to The Wild Courage Podcast
• Episode: Will Hudson, from a Branding trap to Brotherhood
• Learn about Wild Courage Fire Nights
• Join 1:1 Good Movement Guidance
• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

Relationships are built in the day-to-day: the small exchanges, the tone of our words, and the way we handle conflict when things start to go sideways. 

In today's episode, I'm diving into the Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse (and what to do instead). Sounds a bit dramatic (I know), but what's even more fascinating is that every single one of these horsemen has an antidote!

If you find yourself on the receiving end of these patterns, remember: you still have power. Stay curious about what might be happening underneath the reaction, because every relationship will face conflict. What matters most is how we HANDLE it.

After all, good movement in relationships looks like choosing presence over reaction, connection over protection, and grace over blame!

In this episode, I cover:

• The Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse + what they reveal about communication
• How criticism starts from a valid need but turns into a personal attack
• Why contempt is the biggest predictor of divorce
• How defensiveness fuels conflict instead of protecting you
• What stonewalling looks like + why it often signals overwhelm
• The antidotes for each horseman + how to use them in real time
• What to do when you’re on the receiving end
• Why awareness is the first step toward creating better connections & repairing

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/four-horsemen-relationship-apocalypse

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
• Join the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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In today's episode, I'm talking about what happens when calm becomes disconnection. What we often call calm isn't really calm at all. On the outside, it looks steady and strong, but inside? It can feel tight, numb, or completely disconnected - it's what I like to call "comfortably numb."

This is what so many of us in agriculture are taught - be tough, hold it together, and keep going (no matter what). But when calm becomes disconnection, we lose touch with ourselves AND the people around us.

True calm comes from a regulated nervous system. It's the kind of peace that allows you to think, feel, connect, and actually be present.

In this episode, I cover:

• What true calm really means + how it differs from disconnection
• Why we often mistake being calm for being disconnected
• How to recognize the physical & emotional signs of true calm vs. shutdown
• Practical ways to come back from a freeze or shutdown + reconnect with yourself and others

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/when-calm-becomes-disconnection

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Join the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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In today's episode, I'm sharing why it doesn't have to be major to matter. Sometimes we downplay our pain because it doesn't look like a single, defining moment. We compare our experiences to others, dismissing our own hurts as "not that bad." 

But trauma isn't measured by the size of the event - it's about what happens INSIDE of us. Pain doesn't have to be major to matter - choosing to name it isn't wall wing, but will allow you to find true HEALING!

In this episode, I cover:

• Why pain doesn’t have to come from a major traumatic event to matter
• How the little hurts & unmet needs can build up over time + affect us later
• What shapes our individual capacity to handle pain
• What happens when we keep dismissing the small stuff

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/major-to-matter

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Join the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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In today's episode, I'm talking about going from fear-based compliance to trust-based respect. For so long, respect has been tied to compliance. 

True respect isn't taught through commands or punishments; it's cultivated! When we shift from fear-based control to trust-based respect, everything changes. Respect isn't about demanding quiet - it's about making space for someone's whole self to show up.

Maybe we don't need to bring back the kind of respect we once taught. Maybe it's time to redefine it, and create respect that grows roots, deepens relationships, and truly LASTS!

In this episode, I cover:

• Why true respect is something we cultivate, not something we can force or teach
• What our horse revealed about the difference between fear-based compliance & trust-based respect
• Key contrasts between fear-driven obedience & trust-built respect
• Reflection questions + practical steps to help you shift from fear to trust in your own life

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/trust-based-respect

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Join the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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In today’s episode, I’m talking about why you need to stop carrying everyone else’s healing and do the work for you first. I personally had to learn the hard way that you can’t step into doing the inner work and healing for other people. If you try, it’s not going to unfold the way you hoped!

You’re not meant to carry everyone else’s healing on your back. As you’re working through your own “stuff”, you become a steady presence for those around you. It shows others what’s possible, and gives them permission to explore their own healing!

When you choose to do the work for you first, you’ll find that good movement always draws more good movement. If you’re ready to dip your toe into this work, the doors to the Good Movement Collective are open TODAY. I’d love to welcome you in and walk with you on this journey, friend!

In this episode, I cover:

• Why it’s vital that your own healing comes first
• Why you’re NOT responsible for carrying everyone else’s inner work
• What it really looks like to begin healing yourself first
• How the Good Movement Collective can support you on this journey

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/do-the-work-for-you-first

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• How We Heal - IG Reel
• Join the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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In today’s episode, I’m talking about one intentional breath and why it was MY first step toward emotional healing. Back in October 2020, life felt like pure chaos. The ranch workload was heavier than ever, and I didn’t realize the toll it was taking on me until things finally slowed down. 

That’s when the anxiety, chest tightness, and overwhelm hit HARD. Out of desperation, I tried one deep, intentional breath (a big inhale and a long, slow exhale), and to my surprise, the tension began to release! 

That tiny act showed me I could actually shift how I felt right there in the moment. Taking one intentional breath can be calming, healing, and transformational. I’d love to hear if you try this in your everyday life, and how you feel afterward!

In this episode, I cover:

• What led me to discover intentional breathing as a first step toward healing
• Why our breath is the one area we CAN control + why this matters
• How intentional breathing affects the nervous system & other parts of the body
• Long-term benefits of practicing breathwork regularly
• Simple moments when you can pause and use intentional breathing
• Some easy breathing tools & exercises you can try right away

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/one-intentional-breath

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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In today’s episode, we’re celebrating the 100th episode with a ranch Q&A and real talk with Tom and me (yep, Tom had to be here for episode 100)! 

We’re keeping things fun and laid-back for this one. You’ll hear us dive into questions about Tom and his emotions, how we try to help OUR kids navigate their feelings, lessons we’re still learning about communication and grace, our favorite parts of ranching, and more.

Since this is the 100th episode, I’m also doing a special giveaway to celebrate (make sure to listen until the end for details on that)!

I’m truly grateful to have you here - this podcast wouldn’t exist without you. Here’s to drawing good movement for many more episodes to come!!

In this episode, we cover:

• What shifted for Tom when it came to handling emotions (especially anger)
• How we approach helping our kids navigate their feelings
• The best ways to teach new skills to young people
• Our perspective on raising kids while ranching
• Our best piece of marriage advice for young ranching couples
• Our favorite (and least favorite) parts of ranch life
• Dream vacation ideas + what makes travel meaningful for us
• A special giveaway to celebrate 100 episodes

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/real-talk-with-tom

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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