Good Movement Draws Good Movement

In today's episode, I’m talking to Amber Trejo, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in complex trauma and attachment, about what might be under the perfectionism, shame, and self-loathing. Amber explains how complex trauma often forms when there was never a true baseline of safety growing up, how, while it can be painful to realize we might hurt our kids, the repair matters FAR more than perfection, and so much more.

Healing from complex trauma and things like perfectionism, shame, and self-loathing doesn’t start with “being better,” it starts with awareness, curiosity, and support. Whether that’s therapy, learning, or simply beginning to ask yourself gentler questions, please know you are not broken, and you are NOT alone!

In this episode, we cover:

1. Amber’s journey into understanding & working with complex trauma
2. What complex trauma (C-PTSD) is + how growing up without a baseline of safety impacts the nervous system
3. The key difference between PTSD and complex trauma
4. How emotional neglect often goes unrecognized, even in childhoods that felt “good”
5. Why shame is central to complex trauma + how it often shows up
6. How complex trauma affects relationships, conflict & nervous system capacity
7. Why repair matters more than perfection in parenting
8. How to support yourself + loved ones when navigating complex trauma

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/under-the-perfectionism

Connect with Amber:

1. Follow on Instagram @integrativetraumatherapist
2. Connect on Facebook
3. Follow on TikTok
4. Check out her website
5. Send her an email at [email protected]

Connect with Terryn:

1. Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
2. Check out my website
3. Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

1. You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
2. Join The Draw
3. Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you
4. Check out my merch shop
5. Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
6. Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
7. Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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In today's episode, I'm talking about what happens when the thing isn’t the thing. In rural and ag spaces, especially, we’re really good at shoving feelings down and pushing through. What’s underneath that “thing” is usually a whole pile of unacknowledged stuff (stress, exhaustion, grief, burnout, and more).

Recognizing this gives us so much freedom. It helps us stop shaming ourselves for our reactions, stop personalizing other people’s emotions, and create space to get curious about what’s really going on.

In this episode, I cover:

1. How the “thing” that triggers us is often just the surface-level moment
2. A real-life ranch example of displaced frustration between Tom and me
3. What’s usually underneath the “thing”
4. How recognizing when the thing isn’t the thing helps us and others
5. Why this awareness creates space for curiosity, boundaries & more grounded communication
6. How remembering that the thing isn’t the thing allows us to extend grace & compassion

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/when-the-thing-isnt-the-thing

Connect with Terryn:

1. Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
2. Check out my website
3. Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

1. Join The Draw
2. Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you
3. Check out my merch shop
4. Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
5. Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
6. Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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I'm excited to welcome Lydia Van Aken to the podcast today!

In today's episode, we're talking about getting out of your head and into the run. Lydia shares how our emotions, beliefs, and nervous system state directly affect our horses (whether we’re aware of it or not). Building a strong connection requires self-awareness, intentionality, and learning how to regulate yourself FIRST.

We also talk honestly about the cultural messages many of us grew up with in ag and rural communities, how suppressing emotions actually impacts our bodies, overthinking, and more. If you’re stuck in fear, frustration, or setback, stop focusing only on what’s wrong. Look for the opportunity, because ultimately, whatever you focus on will grow!

In this episode, we cover:

1. Lydia’s rodeo journey + how this led her into performance coaching & working with the mental side of athletics
2. How the human athlete’s mindset directly impacts the equine athlete
3. Why self-awareness is key to building trust and connection with a horse
4. How suppressing emotions often leads to overwhelm and breakdown later
5. Why getting into the run requires stepping out of overthinking & trusting muscle memory
6. Why too much information can pull athletes out of their bodies and into their heads
7. The power in finding opportunity & growth within your challenges

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/getting-out-of-your-head

Connect with Lydia:

1. Follow on Instagram @breakinggroundcoaching
2. Connect on Facebook
3. Check out her website
4. Send her an email at [email protected]

Connect with Terryn:

1. Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
2. Check out my website
3. Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

1. Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you
2. Check out my merch shop
3. Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
4. Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
5. Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm talking about the beliefs that keep us from asking for help. Asking for and receiving help is something I’ve been working on in my own life for quite some time now. It’s something that many of us struggle with (especially in agriculture).

The truth, though? Not asking for help keeps us isolated, and honestly, that’s not benefiting anyone. As I continue working on this in my own life, I’ve realized that asking for and receiving help doesn’t mean I’m weak or “less than.” I’m letting connection happen, and that’s a beautiful thing!

I want to encourage you to think about YOUR beliefs that may be keeping you from asking for help. You might be surprised at how good it feels when someone helps you (and how much they love it, too)!

In this episode, I cover:

• Why asking for & receiving help has been such a challenge for me + many others in rural spaces
• A recent example from my own life of almost turning down help + what it revealed
• Results from my recent Instagram poll about how likely we are to ask for help
• 5 core beliefs that hold many of us back from asking for help
• How generational conditioning & learned survival patterns shape the ways we avoid or decline help
• The difference between healthy independence & isolating ourselves
• A powerful reframe I’m now leaning into when asking for help
• 3 reflection prompts for you to explore

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/asking-for-help

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you
• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Check out my merch shop
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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In today's episode, we're talking about the growing pains of boundaries, help, and working together. While we complement each other in day-to-day work (and our relationship overall), we definitely still butt heads. 

We've had arguments that feel funny now (like a certain Jack Russell terrier that almost ruined our relationship)! Working cattle has taught us about reading energy, adjusting expectations, and giving each other space when necessary.

Maybe you have some growing pains with boundaries, asking for help, or something else in your life. Either way, you're so not alone, and we hope this lighthearted Q&A helps you feel a little more seen!

In this episode, we cover:

• How Tom and I complement each other in day-to-day ranch work + spots where we still butt heads
• The growing pains of boundaries in marriage
• Our argument from years ago that now feels funny
• The cattle-working lesson that shows up in our marriage
• Why both asking for help AND receiving help still feels challenging
• A meaningful moment of finally accepting help that made a big difference

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/growing-pains-of-boundaries

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you 
• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Check out my merch shop
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm calling out the quiet crisis in rural mental health. So many of us in agriculture have had to numb ourselves just to get through the day. 

But that numbness didn't come out of nowhere. It came from surviving, and it's NOT sustainable. We can't pretend it isn't costing us something!

If you're listening today and you're carrying something heavy, please know that you don't have to wait until it breaks you. Reach out and let someone share the load with you, because you're NOT meant to do this alone!

In this episode, I cover:

• The alarming & heartbreaking suicide statistics impacting rural America
• Why “toughness” and numbness aren’t working + what rural communities need MORE of
• How to start honest conversations that go deeper than surface-level check-ins
• What we CAN do to support rural mental health + create real, safe spaces for ourselves & others

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/rural-mental-health

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you
• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Check out my merch shop
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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In today's episode, Danielle Kruse and I are talking about life after loss in rural America.

Danielle and her husband had built a life in northwest Iowa, raising babies and crops and building a farm alongside his parents. Like so many rural families, there was pride, responsibility, and pressure. What Danielle didn't know was that her husband was quietly battling a drinking addiction he kept hidden from nearly everyone, and he eventually took his own life.

Life after loss changes everything, but Danielle is proof that it doesn't have to erase your future. You can keep going while still grieving, and you can choose honesty over silence. You can ask for help, even when it feels foreign. And you CAN build something solid and steady for the future.

In this episode, we cover:

• Danielle’s path from healthcare to farm wife & now running the farm with her in-laws
• Her husband’s hidden drinking addiction, shame & circumstances surrounding his death
• Why asking for help feels impossible when you’re numbing or afraid of being a burden
• Danielle’s experience with grief and anger, and the reality that closure is often a myth
• How she and her in-laws strengthened their relationship while keeping the farm going
• The support system that helped her navigate life after loss
• Her kids’ resilience and the role therapy played for all of them
• The financial + operational learning curve she faced stepping into farm responsibilities
• Danielle’s commitment to honesty, hard conversations & letting go of others’ opinions
• The stability & support she finds in her part-time ultrasound career

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/life-after-loss

Connect with Danielle:

• Follow on Instagram @dlkruse
• Connect on Facebook
• Follow on TikTok @danielleleekruse

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change
• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Check out my merch shop
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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In today's episode, I'm talking about what to do if you can't tell what your body is saying. If you've spent years in survival mode (especially in agriculture), disconnecting from your body isn't a failure; it's a skill you learned to get through hard seasons. 

Pushing through, overriding needs, and ignoring cues, that's how many of us survived. Of course, it feels confusing to suddenly be asked to "listen to your body" when you have NO idea how to do that!

If you're wondering how to reconnect with what your body is saying, start with awareness. I promise, it's never too late to relearn what your body is trying to tell you! 

In this episode, I cover:

• Why so many of us genuinely have NO idea what our bodies are trying to tell us
• How we learn to override body cues in survival mode
• Why we put logic on a pedestal, but ignore sensations & emotions
• What happens when we ignore body signals for too long
• My personal story of what chronic override in the body can look like
• Why feeling requires SAFETY first
• How to start tuning in through non-judgmental awareness & curiosity
• How to read your body like you read cattle
• Why awareness is the first step that creates the next right action

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/what-your-body-is-saying

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Listen to my private podcast, The Draw
• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Check out my merch shop
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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In today's episode, I'm diving into the question: "What if anger isn't bad, it's just misunderstood?" Believe me, I used to be that person who felt guilty the instant anger showed up. 

Anger doesn't disappear just because we pretend it's not there. It builds, simmers, and eventually leaks out in ways we don't plan for. Anger is just information about how our bodies are feeling off, unsafe, or out of alignment (kind of like how our cattle show us when the pressure isn't right).

Ultimately, anger isn't "bad" or the enemy - it's a compass pointing us toward truth, alignment, and authenticity. When we listen to it, we gain clarity, stronger boundaries, deeper relationships, and a whole lot more connection!

In this episode, I cover:

• What anger actually is + why it’s valuable information
• How guilt and shame differ + why shame often shows up with anger
• What suppressed anger turns into
• How anger was modeled for us growing up + that shaped our avoidance of it
• Why healthy anger supports boundaries, clarity & authenticity
• Simple tools to help you work with anger

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/what-if-anger-isnt-bad

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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There's been such a powerful ripple effect from episode 105, Comfortably Numb: When Calm Becomes Disconnection. After sharing more about it on social media, so many of you reached out with your own experiences of looking "fine" on the outside but feeling anything but that on the inside. 

In today's episode, I'm talking about being "comfortably numb" and what healing feels like on the other side. Healing doesn't make life easy, but it makes us capable. 

If you're longing to move from numb to calm and learn what healing feels like on the other side, I would be honored to walk with you inside 1:1 Good Movement Guidance! You never have to do this work alone, friend.

In this episode, I cover:

• The difference between appearing “calm” and actually being disconnected or numb
• How I used busyness, people-pleasing, and toxic positivity to avoid discomfort
• My physical symptoms that showed up from long-term internal tension
• What has majorly improved for me since I’ve focused on healing
• How feeling anger, setting boundaries, and expressing honesty now feel good & grounding
• Practices & key mindset shifts that have helped me reconnect with myself
• Reflection questions to check in with yourself 

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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/what-healing-feels-like

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at [email protected]

Resources & Links:

• Connect with Jada
• Join 1:1 Good Movement Guidance
• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting