I used to be drawn to a “project”: men who I dated for their potential.  That was my virgo-ish-ness on full display.  I’ve unlearned my overthinking, hyper-critical, project seeking mannerisms and replaced them with some more self-actualized behaviors.  But those lessons came from dating men like “Tony”.  Luckily, I caught this lesson before it was too late.

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