If you’re having sex with a partner and they don’t cum, do you feel inadequate? Not cumming during intercourse is usually something we associate with cis, hetro women, but it happens to a number of guys as well. It can leave the guy feeling unsatisfied and leave their partner feeling like they’re not good enough. Especially when guys are assumed to cum all the time.

You’ll hear from a couple of guys who just can't cum during penetrative sex, and from a sex therapist on how this problem works and how you might be able to fix it.