A woman told me her clever system for choosing the least-used stall in a public restroom, which reminded me that we’re more alike, and more different, than we imagine—because her system for outwitting the public is the same system that everyone else uses, too.

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Listeners suggest apps that help them to become happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative—and more organized with photographs.

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A delightful story from the ancient world describes a contest between two artists that was decided in a surprising way.

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For the Happier Podcast Book Club, we talk to Duke Divinity School professor Kate Bowler about her moving, funny, thought-provoking new memoir, “No Cure for Being Human”

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A thought-provoking collection of proverbs from poker-players offers wisdom even to people who aren’t playing poker.

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We discuss how we can make a choice (like an actor), how we can do a favor for our future selves, and we talk to Liz Lange about her podcast “The Just Enough Family,” where she explores her family’s spectacular successes, dramatic losses, and deep secrets.

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A friend didn’t want to spend Thanksgiving with his family, but he did it anyway. Happiness doesn’t always make us feel happy.

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How do you stay happy when you suddenly decide it’s time for you and your daughter to move to a new town? And how do you make that decision in the first place? We talk to Elizabeth’s writing partner and co-host of the “Happier in Hollywood” podcast about how she made tough choices, managed logistics, dealt with strong emotions, and stayed healthy during a time of transition.

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We talk about why it can be helpful to consider, “Maybe this isn’t a bug, it’s a feature”; we discuss a hack for helping someone get situated in a new position, and we talk to Maya Shankar about how to deal with life’s big challenges.

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Author John Green’s reflection on the moment when he realized that he was no longer comforted by his teddy bear is a reminder that although we do outgrow much of the comfort we get from a warm, soft teddy bear, perhaps we don’t wholly outgrow it.

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