Why are our closest relationships so often a source of more stress than solace? Whether the relationship is with a romantic partner, a parent, a child, a friend or a colleague, the dynamic is so often the same - you'd like the relationship to change for the better, yet nothing you try seems to work.

Clinical psychologist Nicole LePera, creator of the global online community The Holistic Psychologist, joins the podcast to help us revolutionise our relationships.

Her new book How to Be the Love You Seek is a guide to breaking frustrating patterns of loneliness, disconnection and resentment and learning how to build security and share compassion with others. If you enjoy this episode of the show, you can pick up a copy from our bookshop.org page and help support our local independent bookseller partner, Primrose Hill Books.

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