Rock-solid confidence, sex you genuinely enjoy, and healthier relationships all start with actually knowing yourself. This week, Em & Cass are talking with Laura Rubin, a creative coach, journaling expert, and founder of AllSwell Creative. She’s led breakthrough writing workshops for tens of thousands of people, been covered by The New York Times, Washington Post, Vogue, and Forbes, and built a career blending neuroscience and mindfulness to prove that writing by hand actually rewires how you think and feel. She joins Em and Cass to share how journaling can become the catalyst for confident decisions, healthier relationships, and better conversations in bed.If you're thinking...<ul><li>“I always start a journal, go hard for a week, and quit.” Laura's got a 4-minute practice that will literally rock your world and make journaling feel practical and accessible. </li><li>“I don't even know what I would write about." Laura shares specific prompts to help you navigate your trickiest intimacy moments (when you don’t like how you look naked, when you have no idea what turns you on, when you can’t tell what’s yours vs. what you’ve been told to want). </li><li>“Isn’t this just more wellness bullshit?” Laura didn't come here to BS. She's sharing the science-backed, FREE methods to actually change your life both in the bedroom and beyond.</li><li>“Will this actually change anything in my sex life or my relationships?” Yes. Press play already.</li></ul> Connect with Laura and AllSwell Creative on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/allswellcreative" rel="nofollow">Instagram</a> and on her <a href="https://allswellcreative.com/" rel="nofollow">website</a>.Follow us on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/honeydewmepodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@honeydewmepodcast" rel="nofollow">TikTok</a> @honeydewmepodcast. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Rock-solid confidence, sex you genuinely enjoy, and healthier relationships all start with actually knowing yourself. This week, Em & Cass are talking with Laura Rubin, a creative coach, journaling expert, and founder of AllSwell Creative. She’s led breakthrough writing workshops for tens of thousands of people, been covered by The New York Times, Washington Post, Vogue, and Forbes, and built a career blending neuroscience and mindfulness to prove that writing by hand actually rewires how you think and feel. She joins Em and Cass to share how journaling can become the catalyst for confident decisions, healthier relationships, and better conversations in bed. If you're thinking...“I always start a journal, go hard for a week, and quit.” Laura's got a 4-minute practice that will literally rock your world and make journaling feel practical and accessible. “I don't even know what I would write about." Laura shares specific prompts to help you navigate your trickiest intimacy moments (when you don’t like how you look naked, when you have no idea what turns you on, when you can’t tell what’s yours vs. what you’ve been told to want). “Isn’t this just more wellness bullshit?” Laura didn't come here to BS. She's sharing the science-backed, FREE methods to actually change your life both in the bedroom and beyond.“Will this actually change anything in my sex life or my relationships?” Yes. Press play already. Connect with Laura and AllSwell Creative on Instagram and on her website. Follow us on Instagram and TikTok @honeydewmepodcast. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Rock-solid confidence, sex you genuinely enjoy, and healthier relationships all start with actually knowing yourself. This week, Em &amp; Cass are talking with Laura Rubin, a creative coach, journaling expert, and founder of AllSwell Creative. She’s led breakthrough writing workshops for tens of thousands of people, been covered by The New York Times, Washington Post, Vogue, and Forbes, and built a career blending neuroscience and mindfulness to prove that writing by hand actually rewires how you think and feel. She joins Em and Cass to share how journaling can become the catalyst for confident decisions, healthier relationships, and better conversations in bed.If you're thinking...<ul><li>“I always start a journal, go hard for a week, and quit.” Laura's got a 4-minute practice that will literally rock your world and make journaling feel practical and accessible.&nbsp;</li><li>“I don't even know what I would write about." Laura shares specific prompts to help you navigate your trickiest intimacy moments (when you don’t like how you look naked, when you have no idea what turns you on, when you can’t tell what’s yours vs. what you’ve been told to want).&nbsp;</li><li>“Isn’t this just more wellness bullshit?” Laura didn't come here to BS. She's sharing the science-backed, FREE methods to actually change your life both in the bedroom and beyond.</li><li>“Will this actually change anything in my sex life or my relationships?” Yes. Press play already.</li></ul> Connect with Laura and AllSwell Creative on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/allswellcreative" rel="noopener noreferrer">Instagram</a> and on her <a href="https://allswellcreative.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">website</a>.Follow us on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/honeydewmepodcast/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@honeydewmepodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">TikTok</a> @honeydewmepodcast. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: <a href="https://redcircle.com/brands" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy &amp; Opt-Out: <a href="https://redcircle.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

289. The 4-Minute Practice That Will Change Your Sex Life, Relationships, and Confidence with Laura Rubin

Last week, a top couples therapist presented us with the research. This week it’s just us, no therapist in the room, trading what has actually worked in our own long-term relationships (and what has very much not). Cass gets into her current trying-list for keeping sex alive when she's tired, parenting, and has nothing left. Em gets into how she ruined sex for herself in past relationships without even realizing it. Cass opens up for the first time, with her husband’s permission, about his bipolar diagnosis and the “my person wouldn’t do that” story she had to let go of to stay married. For anyone who felt called tf out by last week's episode and wants the unqualified besties version.What you’ll learn:<ul><li>The two “secrets” we’re actually using to keep our relationships alive and thriving (tbh therapists might not agree lol)</li><li>Cass’s current trying-list for keeping sex alive 10 years into her long-term love (pink pill, non-sexual touch, accountability for her desire, and actually using the resources we talk about)</li><li>Why using sex as a repair tool is the fastest way to kill it, and what to use it for instead</li><li>How to tell when you’ve slipped into a story about your partner (“they don’t get me,” “my person wouldn’t do that”) and how to quit before it ruins your relationship</li><li>Our actual rules for what you can and can’t tell your friends about fights with your partner</li><li>The habits we each need to kick to feel like adults in our relationships (one of us is lazy, one of us is a control freak)</li><li>The very petty list of what the men we’ve slept with need to start doing to qualify as grownups</li></ul> Follow us on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/honeydewmepodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@honeydewmepodcast" rel="nofollow">TikTok</a> @honeydewmepodcast. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Last week, a top couples therapist presented us with the research. This week it’s just us, no therapist in the room, trading what has actually worked in our own long-term relationships (and what has very much not). Cass gets into her current trying-list for keeping sex alive when she's tired, parenting, and has nothing left. Em gets into how she ruined sex for herself in past relationships without even realizing it. Cass opens up for the first time, with her husband’s permission, about his bipolar diagnosis and the “my person wouldn’t do that” story she had to let go of to stay married. For anyone who felt called tf out by last week's episode and wants the unqualified besties version. What you’ll learn:The two “secrets” we’re actually using to keep our relationships alive and thriving (tbh therapists might not agree lol)Cass’s current trying-list for keeping sex alive 10 years into her long-term love (pink pill, non-sexual touch, accountability for her desire, and actually using the resources we talk about)Why using sex as a repair tool is the fastest way to kill it, and what to use it for insteadHow to tell when you’ve slipped into a story about your partner (“they don’t get me,” “my person wouldn’t do that”) and how to quit before it ruins your relationshipOur actual rules for what you can and can’t tell your friends about fights with your partnerThe habits we each need to kick to feel like adults in our relationships (one of us is lazy, one of us is a control freak)The very petty list of what the men we’ve slept with need to start doing to qualify as grownups Follow us on Instagram and TikTok @honeydewmepodcast. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Last week, a top couples therapist presented us with the research. This week it’s just us, no therapist in the room, trading what has actually worked in our own long-term relationships (and what has very much not). Cass gets into her current trying-list for keeping sex alive when she's tired, parenting, and has nothing left. Em gets into how she ruined sex for herself in past relationships without even realizing it. Cass opens up for the first time, with her husband’s permission, about his bipolar diagnosis and the “my person wouldn’t do that” story she had to let go of to stay married. For anyone who felt called tf out by last week's episode and wants the unqualified besties version.What you’ll learn:<ul><li>The two “secrets” we’re actually using to keep our relationships alive and thriving (tbh therapists might not agree lol)</li><li>Cass’s current trying-list for keeping sex alive 10 years into her long-term love (pink pill, non-sexual touch, accountability for her desire, and actually using the resources we talk about)</li><li>Why using sex as a repair tool is the fastest way to kill it, and what to use it for instead</li><li>How to tell when you’ve slipped into a story about your partner (“they don’t get me,” “my person wouldn’t do that”) and how to quit before it ruins your relationship</li><li>Our actual rules for what you can and can’t tell your friends about fights with your partner</li><li>The habits we each need to kick to feel like adults in our relationships (one of us is lazy, one of us is a control freak)</li><li>The very petty list of what the men we’ve slept with need to start doing to qualify as grownups</li></ul> Follow us on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/honeydewmepodcast/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@honeydewmepodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">TikTok</a> @honeydewmepodcast. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: <a href="https://redcircle.com/brands" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy &amp; Opt-Out: <a href="https://redcircle.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

288. Just Between Us: Our (Unqualified) Secrets to a Thriving Sex Life & Relationship

Zach Brittle is a Gottman-certified couples therapist in Seattle, host of Marriage Therapy Radio, and author of the upcoming book Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes. He's been happily married for 27 of 30 years (as in he GETS IT and has actually done the work) and has interviewed hundreds of couples, which means when he talks about relationships, he's not guessing. He joins Em and Cass for a no-bullshit conversation about what actually makes long-term love work.What you'll learn:<ul><li>How to actually build a thriving long-term relationship (and the two things most couples get wrong)</li><li>Why "spontaneous sex" is a lie you've been mourning for no reason, and what to replace it with</li><li>The exact sex negotiation one of his couples swears by (and how to steal it)</li><li>Why learning the difference between physical intimacy that isn't sexual and sexual intimacy that isn't physical will completely change your sex life</li><li>How to spot negative sentiment override in your own relationship (and why it's turning every "how was your day" into a fight)</li><li>The one mindset shift that will change everything: why your relationship is NOT a zero-sum game, and nobody has to lose for you to win</li></ul> Find Zach at @marriagetherapyradio on Instagram, listen to Marriage Therapy Radio every Tuesday, and pre-order Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes out in April. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Zach Brittle is a Gottman-certified couples therapist in Seattle, host of Marriage Therapy Radio, and author of the upcoming book Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes. He's been happily married for 27 of 30 years (as in he GETS IT and has actually done the work) and has interviewed hundreds of couples, which means when he talks about relationships, he's not guessing. He joins Em and Cass for a no-bullshit conversation about what actually makes long-term love work. What you'll learn:How to actually build a thriving long-term relationship (and the two things most couples get wrong)Why "spontaneous sex" is a lie you've been mourning for no reason, and what to replace it withThe exact sex negotiation one of his couples swears by (and how to steal it)Why learning the difference between physical intimacy that isn't sexual and sexual intimacy that isn't physical will completely change your sex lifeHow to spot negative sentiment override in your own relationship (and why it's turning every "how was your day" into a fight)The one mindset shift that will change everything: why your relationship is NOT a zero-sum game, and nobody has to lose for you to win Find Zach at @marriagetherapyradio on Instagram, listen to Marriage Therapy Radio every Tuesday, and pre-order Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes out in April. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Zach Brittle is a Gottman-certified couples therapist in Seattle, host of Marriage Therapy Radio, and author of the upcoming book Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes. He's been happily married for 27 of 30 years (as in he GETS IT and has actually done the work) and has interviewed hundreds of couples, which means when he talks about relationships, he's not guessing. He joins Em and Cass for a no-bullshit conversation about what actually makes long-term love work.What you'll learn:<ul><li>How to actually build a thriving long-term relationship (and the two things most couples get wrong)</li><li>Why "spontaneous sex" is a lie you've been mourning for no reason, and what to replace it with</li><li>The exact sex negotiation one of his couples swears by (and how to steal it)</li><li>Why learning the difference between physical intimacy that isn't sexual and sexual intimacy that isn't physical will completely change your sex life</li><li>How to spot negative sentiment override in your own relationship (and why it's turning every "how was your day" into a fight)</li><li>The one mindset shift that will change everything: why your relationship is NOT a zero-sum game, and nobody has to lose for you to win</li></ul> Find Zach at @marriagetherapyradio on Instagram, listen to Marriage Therapy Radio every Tuesday, and pre-order Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes out in April. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: <a href="https://redcircle.com/brands" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy &amp; Opt-Out: <a href="https://redcircle.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

287. "Is My Sex Life Supposed to Feel Like This?" Zach Brittle on Long-Term Relationships, Scheduled Sex & What Actually Works

“My ex told me I have a wide vagina. Am I normal?” That’s this week’s listener confession. And after six years of reading listener messages, we can tell you with certainty that some version of “is my vagina normal?” is the single most-asked question we get. SO HERE WE GO. We dive into the medical facts (we looked them up), the biology, and the much bigger issue we need to be addressing: why men go straight for comments about our bodies when they want to hurt us and how to stop letting it get to you.We Cover:<ul><li>The medical truth on “wide set vaginas” (spoiler: Mean Girls lied, it isn’t a real term, and here’s what Dr. Jennifer Wider actually says about vaginal diameter)</li><li>Why your physiology (aka AROUSAL) might be the reason he felt “less friction” </li><li>The reason insulting a woman’s body is a shitty man's go to when they want to hurt you</li><li>The reframe every vagina owner NEEDS to internalize... your vagina is normal, your labia are normal, your taste and smell are normal, all of it</li><li>What to actually do if there IS a real size mismatch in a relationship (there are a thousand solutions, we cover a few)</li><li>AND why even if you DO have a wide vagina it literally doesn't matter, and you are perfection personified </li></ul> Follow us on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/honeydewmepodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@honeydewmepodcast" rel="nofollow">TikTok</a> @honeydewmepodcast.If you're in the Portland, OR area don't forget to join our "Portland, OR Girlies" group chat in our Instagram bio! Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

“My ex told me I have a wide vagina. Am I normal?” That’s this week’s listener confession. And after six years of reading listener messages, we can tell you with certainty that some version of “is my vagina normal?” is the single most-asked question we get. SO HERE WE GO. We dive into the medical facts (we looked them up), the biology, and the much bigger issue we need to be addressing: why men go straight for comments about our bodies when they want to hurt us and how to stop letting it get to you. We Cover:The medical truth on “wide set vaginas” (spoiler: Mean Girls lied, it isn’t a real term, and here’s what Dr. Jennifer Wider actually says about vaginal diameter)Why your physiology (aka AROUSAL) might be the reason he felt “less friction” The reason insulting a woman’s body is a shitty man's go to when they want to hurt youThe reframe every vagina owner NEEDS to internalize... your vagina is normal, your labia are normal, your taste and smell are normal, all of itWhat to actually do if there IS a real size mismatch in a relationship (there are a thousand solutions, we cover a few)AND why even if you DO have a wide vagina it literally doesn't matter, and you are perfection personified Follow us on Instagram and TikTok @honeydewmepodcast. If you're in the Portland, OR area don't forget to join our "Portland, OR Girlies" group chat in our Instagram bio! Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

“My ex told me I have a wide vagina. Am I normal?” That’s this week’s listener confession. And after six years of reading listener messages, we can tell you with certainty that some version of “is my vagina normal?” is the single most-asked question we get. SO HERE WE GO. We dive into the medical facts (we looked them up), the biology, and the much bigger issue we need to be addressing: why men go straight for comments about our bodies when they want to hurt us and how to stop letting it get to you.We Cover:<ul><li>The medical truth on “wide set vaginas” (spoiler: Mean Girls lied, it isn’t a real term, and here’s what Dr. Jennifer Wider actually says about vaginal diameter)</li><li>Why your physiology (aka AROUSAL) might be the reason he felt “less friction”&nbsp;</li><li>The reason insulting a woman’s body is a shitty man's go to when they want to hurt you</li><li>The reframe every vagina owner NEEDS to internalize... your vagina is normal, your labia are normal, your taste and smell are normal, all of it</li><li>What to actually do if there IS a real size mismatch in a relationship (there are a thousand solutions, we cover a few)</li><li>AND why even if you DO have a wide vagina it literally doesn't matter, and you are perfection personified&nbsp;</li></ul> Follow us on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/honeydewmepodcast/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@honeydewmepodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer">TikTok</a> @honeydewmepodcast.If you're in the Portland, OR area don't forget to join our "Portland, OR Girlies" group chat in our Instagram bio! Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: <a href="https://redcircle.com/brands" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy &amp; Opt-Out: <a href="https://redcircle.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

290. Listener Confession: "My Ex Boyfriend Told Me I Have A Wide Vagina..."

Dirty talk can feel… intimidating. What do you say? When do you say it? What if it comes out weird, awkward, or just not you? In this solo episode, we’re breaking down how to talk dirty in a way that actually feels natural, fun, and authentic to YOU. 
We cover:
<ul>
 <li>
Why dirty talk feels so hard for so many people. How shame, pressure, and the idea of needing to “perform” can make it feel intimidating instead of fun.</li>
 <li>
What dirty talk actually is (and what it’s not). Why it’s not about saying the “perfect” explicit line, and how it can be playful, romantic, confident, or even a little silly.</li>
 <li>
How to start dirty talk without feeling awkward. Simple, low-pressure ways to ease into it.</li>
 <li>
Real-life dirty talk examples you can actually use. Easy phrases like saying what you like, sharing fantasies, narrating sensations, and giving compliments that feel natural and doable.</li>
 <li>
How to make dirty talk feel authentic to YOU. Why you don’t need to be a different person or “sexier version” of yourself, and how to find what genuinely turns you on.</li>
 <li>
Confidence hacks to get out of your head during sex. Using humor, trying on a persona if it helps, and focusing on fun instead of performance.</li>
 <li>
What to do when dirty talk goes wrong (because it will). How to laugh it off, recover in the moment, communicate after, and keep the experience light instead of shutting down.</li>
 <li>
A simple dirty talk framework to fall back on. Using sensations, actions, and emotions as an easy formula when you don’t know what to say.</li>
 <li>
Why dirty talk is a learned skill (not something you’re born good at). How practice, repetition, and lowering the stakes can completely change your confidence over time. </li>
</ul>
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 Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Dirty talk can feel… intimidating. What do you say? When do you say it? What if it comes out weird, awkward, or just not you? In this solo episode, we’re breaking down how to talk dirty in a way that actually feels natural, fun, and authentic to YOU. We cover: Why dirty talk feels so hard for so many people. How shame, pressure, and the idea of needing to “perform” can make it feel intimidating instead of fun. What dirty talk actually is (and what it’s not). Why it’s not about saying the “perfect” explicit line, and how it can be playful, romantic, confident, or even a little silly. How to start dirty talk without feeling awkward. Simple, low-pressure ways to ease into it. Real-life dirty talk examples you can actually use. Easy phrases like saying what you like, sharing fantasies, narrating sensations, and giving compliments that feel natural and doable. How to make dirty talk feel authentic to YOU. Why you don’t need to be a different person or “sexier version” of yourself, and how to find what genuinely turns you on. Confidence hacks to get out of your head during sex. Using humor, trying on a persona if it helps, and focusing on fun instead of performance. What to do when dirty talk goes wrong (because it will). How to laugh it off, recover in the moment, communicate after, and keep the experience light instead of shutting down. A simple dirty talk framework to fall back on. Using sensations, actions, and emotions as an easy formula when you don’t know what to say. Why dirty talk is a learned skill (not something you’re born good at). How practice, repetition, and lowering the stakes can completely change your confidence over time. Dirty Talk Cheat Sheet FREEBIE! Learn more about 1:1 coaching HERE!⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Get Honeydew Me Merch HERE!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dirty talk can feel… intimidating. What do you say? When do you say it? What if it comes out weird, awkward, or just not you? In this solo episode, we’re breaking down how to talk dirty in a way that actually feels natural, fun, and authentic to YOU.&nbsp;
We cover:
<ul>
 <li>
Why dirty talk feels so hard for so many people.&nbsp;How shame, pressure, and the idea of needing to “perform” can make it feel intimidating instead of fun.</li>
 <li>
What dirty talk actually is (and what it’s not).&nbsp;Why it’s not about saying the “perfect” explicit line, and how it can be playful, romantic, confident, or even a little silly.</li>
 <li>
How to start dirty talk without feeling awkward.&nbsp;Simple, low-pressure ways to ease into it.</li>
 <li>
Real-life dirty talk examples you can actually use.&nbsp;Easy phrases like saying what you like, sharing fantasies, narrating sensations, and giving compliments that feel natural and doable.</li>
 <li>
How to make dirty talk feel authentic to YOU.&nbsp;Why you don’t need to be a different person or “sexier version” of yourself, and how to find what genuinely turns you on.</li>
 <li>
Confidence hacks to get out of your head during sex.&nbsp;Using humor, trying on a persona if it helps, and focusing on fun instead of performance.</li>
 <li>
What to do when dirty talk goes wrong (because it will).&nbsp;How to laugh it off, recover in the moment, communicate after, and keep the experience light instead of shutting down.</li>
 <li>
A simple dirty talk framework to fall back on.&nbsp;Using sensations, actions, and emotions as an easy formula when you don’t know what to say.</li>
 <li>
Why dirty talk is a learned skill (not something you’re born good at).&nbsp;How practice, repetition, and lowering the stakes can completely change your confidence over time.&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<a href="https://drive.google.com/file/d/1r2oC7RWqlcHVZMp6M2jZhOoJnhTe2TW-/view?usp=sharing" rel="noopener noreferrer">Dirty Talk Cheat Sheet FREEBIE!</a>
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Honeydew Me is a podcast dedicated to helping all humans have great sex, feel good in their bodies, and find the confidence to embrace their most authentic selves. Emma &amp; Cass strive to have honest, shame- free, and relatable conversations that help you in and outside the bedroom. We can&#39;t wait to hang!

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Honeydew Me is a podcast dedicated to helping all humans have great sex, feel good in their bodies, and find the confidence to embrace their most authentic selves. Emma & Cass strive to have honest, shame- free, and relatable conversations that help you in and outside the bedroom. We can't wait to hang!

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