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Comedian and Shooters Gotta Shoot podcast host Erica Spera stops by to talk sex and dating while having herpes and the most common things people get wrong about the extremely common STI. We learn how she got it, the succinct and effective way she tells people she has it, the support group she started for it, and why herpes is not as big of a deal as we've all been taught to think. Finally Remy talks about the STI's she has had and we end with some tall guy vs. short guy tips from Erica.

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This week we're talking to gorgeous gay icon, Matthew Camp. We learn how he became one of the original pioneers of Instagram modeling as well as co-owner queer clothing company Daddy Couture (with Rebecca More-D*cks of the notorious C*ck Destroyers). We also chat about his wildly successful OnlyFans and adult films. We talk about coming out, Go-Go dancing in NYC, Matthew's late mentor, and the importance of having people who believe in you.

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We're talking pregnancy during a pandemic with hilarious comedians and new parents Giulia Rozzi and Will Miles. We discuss having a newborn during Covid, pre-birthing classes via Zoom, delivering a baby with a mask on, and Giulia's experience as an 'older' mother. We discuss Chrissie Tiegen's recent pregnancy loss and dig into the insensitive Twitter backlash that ensued afterwards. Finally Will and Giulia tell us about how their sex life has changed since having a baby, their work-life balance, and how Covid can actually have a positive effect on being a new parent.

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This week we are joined by Tik Tok heart throb and self-proclaimed 'Starry-eyed Storyteller,' Chris Barnett. This model/actor, turned TikTok sensation is best known for his POV videos, and his 'Vintage Acting Challenges'. We discuss how he feels about people falling love with him on the internet because of his acting and how different he is from his characters. We talk DracoTok, thirsty comments, and the myriad of wild fan requests that Chris gets. ("Redo this video but with your shirt cut in half!" "OK!") Finally, he tells us about his love life during Covid, why he won't start an OnlyFans, and the many reasons he considers himself a 'Walking Red Flag'.

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How Cum: Cumming Out Day LIVE FORUM (October 11)

feat. PAIGE COLE, ASHLEY GAVIN + GARA LONNING

That's right, a cheating episode. Tune in as we dive behind the scenes of one of the most controversial online dating sites, Ashley Madison and talk to members and staff about why various people cheat and have affairs. We hear the unique story of Bobby Goldman, a widow (70s) who turned to the website after her husband (a Broadway and Academy award-winning writer) died.

Bobby tells us why she prefers married men to single ones and how she turned her experience of dating 6 men at once into the successful Off Broadway show, The Curvy Widow. We chat with member "Nikki" (40s) who joined just over two years ago with her husband's knowledge and is technically a "hotwife" as her husband encourages her to have sexual relationships with other men because it excites him.

Finally we are also joined by Isabella Mise, Communication Director of Ashley Madison, about the ins and outs of the website, their response to the 2015 data breach, and her own views on cheating.

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Recommendations:

The Last Five Years (Movie)

The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife (Book)

New York Times Article on Bobby (here.)

For our 100th episode we are joined by Remy's good friend, former Sugar Baby and frequent user of 'Seeking Arrangements,' "Amanda" who takes us on fabulous sugar dating adventures and explains why she no longer works in sex. We discuss how "Regular Dating" differs from "Sugar Dating", and the precautions you should take when looking into becoming a sugar dater. She tells us about how she became comfortable accepting gifts, what it is like to be flown out to Vegas, and why she wouldn't sugar anywhere but New York. We learn about how often she came with her paying dates as well as some insider information on average rates within the field. Finally, Amanda divulges how a leap of faith led her to meet her new amazing boyfriend!

TW: SA

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This week we are joined by Los Angeles screenwriter and standup comedian, Sarah Afkami. Sarah has just wrapped on a Lionsgate project called "The Look" airing on Starz soon. We chat about Sarah's gender identity, fear of transitioning, and alter-ego "Mendy." We talk strap-ons, body dysphoria, and the isolation of pansexuality as well as how Sarah's early sexuality with women was interpreted by Sarah's parents. Finally, Sarah defines the non-binary paradigm and Remy explain the Bella Thorne Only Fans Scandal / how it is putting sex workers' income in jeopardy.

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Founder of @CatCallsofNYC Sophie Sandberg comes on to talk about the various types of street harassment and how her grassroots initiative (which started as a class project) has exploded into a global effort with over 200 Catcallsof-- Instagram accounts.

TW: Harassment + SA

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Movies to watch: On The Basis of Sex

Comedian Lucas Connolly comes all the way from New York for this outrageously funny and didactic episode. He regales us with stories about being one of the earliest 'queerspawn;' growing up with four moms in Laramie Wyoming. We talk about Lucas' hooking up with guys just to make sure he wasn't gay, his Craigslist virginity loss story and a concerning trend he came across on Tik Tok.

Finally, him and Remy discuss the differences in discussion of body image and plastic surgeries in their households, fantasize about the "Genital Olympics," and wonder whether they are 'hot enough' to make it in comedy.

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We are talking to Sexologist and Activist Michelle Hope about what it means to get into "good trouble." We discuss protesting, actionable items for allies, understanding generational trauma, and the importance of voting from the bottom.

Michelle teaches us about body autonomy, a terrifying history of the US using BIPOC women's bodies to develop birth control and medical tools, the complexities of drinking and consent, and feminism vs. intersectional feminism.

We also hear about how working in a strip club shaped Michelle's views of female sexuality and talk about the ways in which she has healed from physical and emotional trauma.

Trigger Warning: r*pe and racial slurs

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*This week please DONATE to Beirut charities after their tragic explosion

Homework from the episode-- check out:

Eloquent Rage by Brittany Cooper

White fragility- Robin DiAngelo

"Misogynoir"- Kimberly Crenshaw

The Girls Guide to Sex Education

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

White fragility