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It's a penis and balls episode! Ben is back to talk about why him and Remy don't bang often anymore, the famous 90's toy he used to masturbate with as a child, and a genital surgery he might need to undergo in the future. Gavriel tells us about the time they had emergency testicular torsion surgery and Ben almost faints; twice.

We also uncover a rampant lie that Ben has been telling about his own "virginity loss" story, Ben reveals to the Cumpanions how he blew up his hand this week and Remy accidentally blurts out one of the weirdest time-traveling fantasies of all time.

Trigger Warning: Injuries, surgeries, and beatboxing

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*And join us at our Zoom Comedy Show August 16th which will benefit The Okra Project

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The Kassimir sisters reunite (after recently separating) and discuss the reason for Remy's bittersweet move out of NYC/ Nanny's apartment and Charlotte's plans for the future. They take a trip down memory lane talking childhood diaries, video games they've played for years (Paper Mario, Zelda), and what they plan to do with their matching Deathly Hallows tattoos now that they live on opposite coasts. Remy's cat Grace also makes a cameo to let everyone know how she is settling into life in Oregon.

Finally, one of our teammates shares a very exciting Cumgratulations!

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Rec*mmendations to watch: Disclosure (Netflix)

Remy, Robyn and Gavriel are answering more of your submitted questions and taking a trip down memory lane to learn all about how every team member became part of the crew.

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This month is disability awareness month! We recommend watching Crip Camp and Love on the Spectrum on Netflix

We're honored by the presence of TWO of our favorite sex-meme creators this week; Lorrae Jo of @SluttyGrlProbs and the woman behind @Whorgasmic, Arielle Kaplan. We're talking jizz, the Gizzney collection, feminisim + the patriarchy, being poly, balls, different ways people wipe after pooping, Nick Cannon, and like so many other things. It's a lot learning and a lot of fun.

TW: sexual assault, violence and r*pe

CW: Heteronormative language

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Anybody else been having the craziest dreams lately? We have and needed to dig into why. We are talking dreams and nightmares with Dylan Selterman, Senior Lecturer in the Psychology Department at the University of Maryland and manager of the DREAM Lab (Dreams, Relationships, Emotions, Attractions and Morality) there. We discuss what certain types of dreams mean-- if anything, our recent sex dreams, Cumpanion submitted dreams, and how dreams we have while sleeping can affect our relationships with people in our awake lives. We learn about lucid dreaming and how to start doing it and finally Dylan tells us about his recent study and invites all of us to participate in scientific research about dreams during the coronavirus/COVID-19 pandemic here.

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Our first Ballroom episode! Sydney Baloue (AKA Syd Xtravaganza) is a ballroom archivist and historian as well as a producer of HBO Max's Legendary who joins us to define Ballroom Culture and discuss how it is crossing over to the mainstream. We define Ballroom terms; the different categories of Vogue, Dip vs. Deathdrop, Shade vs. Reading, and the various types of Queens. We talk 'Realness' and Trans identity in ballroom, how sex and sexuality are expressed in ballroom, and finally Sex Work, lack of protection, and discrimination in the ballroom community. This week we encourage Cumpanions to donate to The Okra Project and For the Gworls. DM your receipts for a personalized video!

Not familiar with Ballroom? We encourage you to watch Paris is Burning if you haven't already before you listen.

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This week Remy is joined by some members of the extremely international How Cum team, Robyn Kennedy and Gavriel! We're getting to know the team and answering YOUR submitted Cumpanion questions! Gavriel is a sexual wellness coach and our new producer bringing you research cumming all the way Israel. Robyn, our social media maven cums to us from New Zealand and offers amazing insight that only our resident Gen-z Kiwi could! We're talking everything from mismatched libidos, the difference between coercion and consent, deep-throating techniques for those who want to do it, what to do when your jaw hurts, dating while asexual, and finally Remy's Ultimate Guide to going down on a vulva. You DON'T want to miss this one.

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Our Harry Potter episode is finally HERE! Our favorite researcher (the magical Charlotte Kassimir) is back to talk witchcraft + wizardry with her sister Remy and the two hosts of the Potterhood podcast, comedians Will Poznan Neko White! These four Potterheads talk sex and romance in the Wizarding World; Which couples did we wish we'd seen hook up? Who at Hogwarts would be the best in bed? Are wizards using contraceptives and if so, what does THAT spell look like? Also, Charlotte shares a Cameo that she got from the incredibly gorgeous James Phelps (Fred Weasley) for her 27th birthday, and we get a behind the scenes fun fact about filming. Finally we discuss J.K. Rowling's recent and wildly insensitive tweets towards trans people, the backlash she has faced, and why it takes time to form a sincere apology.

CW: Transphobia, heteronormative language, JK Rowling

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Remy and Ben talk about Remy's sexuality and how Ben feels about dating someone who is not entirely straight! Woohoo! Then we go back in time to May 2019 in NYC at Charlotte's apartment and Remy has a grand ole' time with comedian couple Cas Humes and Nasser Khan right before their big move to LA and eventual marriage. We discuss not wanting kids, Nasser and Cas tell us about their similarities from being raised in conservative Christian and Muslim households, and Remy reveals how a trip to Ripley's Believe it Or Not may have awoken her sexuality, believe it or not. We also talk humping inanimate objects as kids, Harry Potter erotica fan fiction, and the weird movies we ALL watched.

Note: A few months after this episode Cas Humes cames out with They/Them pronouns. Cumgrats!

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Also, scroll down to the bottom for a list of great BLM and LGBTQ charities to donate to!

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Charities to Donate to for BLM/LGBT:

• The Bail Project, a nonprofit that aims to mitigate incarceration rates through bail reform.
• Black Visions Collective, a black, trans, and queer led social-justice organisation and legal fund based in Minneapolis-St.Paul.
• The National Bail Fund Network has a directory of community bail funds to which you can donate, along with a COVID-19 rapid response
• A Gas Mask Fund for black youth activists in Mineapolis
• The NAACP Legal Defense Fund, which supports racial justice through advocacy, litigation, and education.
• Communities United Against Police Brutality, which operates a crisis hotline where people can report abuse; offers legal, medical, and psychological resource referrals; and engages in political action against police brutality.
• Northstar Health Collective, a St. Paul–based organization that provides health services and support at protests.
• The ACLU, which provides legal services and support for a broad range of people with civil rights complaints.
• Free Them All for Public Health, which aims to free incarcerated people amid the coronavirus pandemic, is raising money for people who have been arrested during New York City protests over the weekend. What doesn't go toward local bail will reportedly be sent to other cities, and COVID Bailout NYC.
• The Atlanta Solidarity Fund is raising bail and bond money for jailed protestors in Atlanta.
• No New Jails NYC aims to keep the city from constructing new jails, and to instead divert funds that currently go toward the police and incarceration toward housing, ending homelessness, mental health, and other community support systems.
• The Know Your Rights Camp, an organization founded by Colin Kaepernick that provides education and training in black and brown communities, set up a legal fund for Minneapolis protestors.
• Fair Fight, an organization founded by Stacey Abrams that aims to end voter suppression and equalize voting rights and access for fairer elections.

• The Pride Fund to End Gun Violence is a Political Action Committee (PAC) that supports candidates who will act on sensible gun policy reforms while championing LGBTQ safety and equality. Founded in the wake of the Pulse nightclub shooting in Orlando, America's deadliest mass shooting in modern history, the Pride Fund to End Gun Violence took action to rally the LGBTQ community and allies in a call for common sense gun reforms. On their website, they note that LGBTQ individuals suffer more hate crimes than any other protected group, which makes disarming hate a crucial LGBTQ issue.

• The National Center for Transgender Equality is the nation's leading social justice advocacy organization winning life-saving change for transgender people. They work at the local, state, and federal level to advance transgender equality. Their services also include resources for trans people on navigating legal issues such as changing the name and gender on their identification documents and an About Transgender People resource hub, where family members and other allies can go to find information to learn about and support the transgender people in their lives.

• Equality Federation is the movement builder and strategic partner to state-based organizations advocating for LGBTQ people. From Equality Florida to Freedom Oklahoma to Basic Rights Oregon, we amplify the power of the state-based LGBTQ movement. They collaborate on issues such as workplace equality and anti-transgender bathroom bans, in addition to intersectional issues such as reproductive justice and immigration, to ensure that LGBTQ people of all ages and walk of life have fair and equal opportunity to thrive. By training and supporting strong local leadership, they ensure that LGBTQ leaders on the ground in their states can fend off attacks and advance protections for LGBTQ people in their legislatures.

• GLSEN (pronounced "glisten") is a the leading national education organization that works to transform K-12 schools into safe and affirming environments and ensure that LGBTQ students are able to learn and grow in a school environment free from bullying and harassment. 8 out of 10 LGBT students are still harassed at school each year because of who they are, but GLSEN is working to change that through researching and developing evidence-based solutions, and providing resources for educators to use in their school communities.

• The LGBTQ Victory Fund is the only national organization dedicated to electing openly LGBTQ people to all levels of government. Victory Fund was founded in 1991, when less than 50 openly LGBTQ individuals held elected office at any level across America. Today they provide campaign, fundraising, and communications support to LGBTQ candidates with the goal of increasing representation and passing pro-equality legislation.

• NQTTCN is a healing justice organization that works to transform mental health for queer and trans people of color. They provide a community for resource sharing, connection, and learning among queer and trans people of color committed to improving mental health for their communities. The organization also operates a Mental Health Fund for Queer and Trans People of Color, which provides financial assistance in order to increase access to mental health support and address the economic barriers many queer and trans people of color face within the healthcare system.

• Transgender Law Center is the largest national trans-led organization advocating self-determination for all people. They are a multi-disciplinary organization that uses litigation, policy advocacy, education, movement building, and direct service to meet the needs of transgender communities. Their programs include the Detention Project, which works to end the abuses transgender people experience in prisons, jails, immigration detention, and at the hands of law enforcement, the Legal Resistance Network, which provide pro bono legal services, the Transgender Immigrant Defense Effort, which provides legal services to transgender immigrants, and more.

• The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ young people under 25. The Trevor Project was founded in 1998 by the creators of the Academy Award®-winning short film TREVOR, and since then, hundreds of thousands of young people in crisis have reached out to The Trevor Project's multiple in-person and online life-saving resources, including 24-hour mental health hotline, webchat, and text message services.

• The Gill Foundation is one of the nation's leading funders of efforts to secure full equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people. The foundation offers grant funding to nonprofits that work to advance equality through research, education, policy, and the legal system. Their focus lies in securing change to administrative policies at the state level. Founded in 1994 by philanthropist Tim Gill, the foundation has since invested more than $335 million in programs and nonprofit organizations throughout the country.

• The It Gets Better Project is a nonprofit organization dedicated to uplifting, empowering, and connecting LGBTQ youth across the globe. In 2010, Dan Savage and his partner, Terry Miller, started a global movement with these three words. It began as a widespread social media campaign to provide hope, encouragement, and community to LGBTQ youth, and has now evolved into a major platform, reaching millions of young people each year. Their ultimate goal remains the same: showing LGBTQ youth that although growing up isn't easy, no one has to do it alone.

Protesting Safely:

What to wear

• Nondescript, solid colour, layered clothing, cover identifying tattoos
• Goggles and mask
• Heat resistant gloves
• Hair tied up
• Emergency contacts written down

What to bring

• Water for drinking and tear gas
• Snacks
• Cash/change and ID
• Washcloth
• Bandages and first aid supplies
• Ear plugs
• Protest signs

Don't Bring

• Cellphone without first turning off Face/Touch ID, going on airplane mode, and disabling data
• Jewelry
• Anything you don't want to be arrested with
• Contact lenses

Remy and comedian Jay Jurden (The Tonight Show, Comedy Central, HBO's High Maintenance) discuss fluid sexualities, coming out, equality and how to come together for BLM during this unprecedented Pride month. We also re-live our horniest bi-sexual realizations and Jay rattles off a great list of male butts in movies. You'll laugh, you'll learn, you'll love it.

CW: Discussions on exclusion

Follow Jay on Instagram @JayJurden + download his album

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Charities to Donate to for BLM/LGBTQ+:

• The Bail Project, a nonprofit that aims to mitigate incarceration rates through bail reform.
• Black Visions Collective, a black, trans, and queer led social-justice organisation and legal fund based in Minneapolis-St.Paul.
• The National Bail Fund Network has a directory of community bail funds to which you can donate, along with a COVID-19 rapid response
• A Gas Mask Fund for black youth activists in Mineapolis
• The NAACP Legal Defense Fund, which supports racial justice through advocacy, litigation, and education.
• Communities United Against Police Brutality, which operates a crisis hotline where people can report abuse; offers legal, medical, and psychological resource referrals; and engages in political action against police brutality.
• Northstar Health Collective, a St. Paul–based organization that provides health services and support at protests.
• The ACLU, which provides legal services and support for a broad range of people with civil rights complaints.
• Free Them All for Public Health, which aims to free incarcerated people amid the coronavirus pandemic, is raising money for people who have been arrested during New York City protests over the weekend. What doesn't go toward local bail will reportedly be sent to other cities, and COVID Bailout NYC.
• The Atlanta Solidarity Fund is raising bail and bond money for jailed protestors in Atlanta.
• No New Jails NYC aims to keep the city from constructing new jails, and to instead divert funds that currently go toward the police and incarceration toward housing, ending homelessness, mental health, and other community support systems.
• The Know Your Rights Camp, an organization founded by Colin Kaepernick that provides education and training in black and brown communities, set up a legal fund for Minneapolis protestors.
• Fair Fight, an organization founded by Stacey Abrams that aims to end voter suppression and equalize voting rights and access for fairer elections.

• The Pride Fund to End Gun Violence is a Political Action Committee (PAC) that supports candidates who will act on sensible gun policy reforms while championing LGBTQ safety and equality. Founded in the wake of the Pulse nightclub shooting in Orlando, America's deadliest mass shooting in modern history, the Pride Fund to End Gun Violence took action to rally the LGBTQ community and allies in a call for common sense gun reforms. On their website, they note that LGBTQ individuals suffer more hate crimes than any other protected group, which makes disarming hate a crucial LGBTQ issue.

• The National Center for Transgender Equality is the nation's leading social justice advocacy organization winning life-saving change for transgender people. They work at the local, state, and federal level to advance transgender equality. Their services also include resources for trans people on navigating legal issues such as changing the name and gender on their identification documents and an About Transgender People resource hub, where family members and other allies can go to find information to learn about and support the transgender people in their lives.

• Equality Federation is the movement builder and strategic partner to state-based organizations advocating for LGBTQ people. From Equality Florida to Freedom Oklahoma to Basic Rights Oregon, we amplify the power of the state-based LGBTQ movement. They collaborate on issues such as workplace equality and anti-transgender bathroom bans, in addition to intersectional issues such as reproductive justice and immigration, to ensure that LGBTQ people of all ages and walk of life have fair and equal opportunity to thrive. By training and supporting strong local leadership, they ensure that LGBTQ leaders on the ground in their states can fend off attacks and advance protections for LGBTQ people in their legislatures.

• GLSEN (pronounced "glisten") is a the leading national education organization that works to transform K-12 schools into safe and affirming environments and ensure that LGBTQ students are able to learn and grow in a school environment free from bullying and harassment. 8 out of 10 LGBT students are still harassed at school each year because of who they are, but GLSEN is working to change that through researching and developing evidence-based solutions, and providing resources for educators to use in their school communities.

• The LGBTQ Victory Fund is the only national organization dedicated to electing openly LGBTQ people to all levels of government. Victory Fund was founded in 1991, when less than 50 openly LGBTQ individuals held elected office at any level across America. Today they provide campaign, fundraising, and communications support to LGBTQ candidates with the goal of increasing representation and passing pro-equality legislation.

• NQTTCN is a healing justice organization that works to transform mental health for queer and trans people of color. They provide a community for resource sharing, connection, and learning among queer and trans people of color committed to improving mental health for their communities. The organization also operates a Mental Health Fund for Queer and Trans People of Color, which provides financial assistance in order to increase access to mental health support and address the economic barriers many queer and trans people of color face within the healthcare system.

• Transgender Law Center is the largest national trans-led organization advocating self-determination for all people. They are a multi-disciplinary organization that uses litigation, policy advocacy, education, movement building, and direct service to meet the needs of transgender communities. Their programs include the Detention Project, which works to end the abuses transgender people experience in prisons, jails, immigration detention, and at the hands of law enforcement, the Legal Resistance Network, which provide pro bono legal services, the Transgender Immigrant Defense Effort, which provides legal services to transgender immigrants, and more.

• The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ young people under 25. The Trevor Project was founded in 1998 by the creators of the Academy Award®-winning short film TREVOR, and since then, hundreds of thousands of young people in crisis have reached out to The Trevor Project's multiple in-person and online life-saving resources, including 24-hour mental health hotline, webchat, and text message services.

• The Gill Foundation is one of the nation's leading funders of efforts to secure full equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people. The foundation offers grant funding to nonprofits that work to advance equality through research, education, policy, and the legal system. Their focus lies in securing change to administrative policies at the state level. Founded in 1994 by philanthropist Tim Gill, the foundation has since invested more than $335 million in programs and nonprofit organizations throughout the country.

• The It Gets Better Project is a nonprofit organization dedicated to uplifting, empowering, and connecting LGBTQ youth across the globe. In 2010, Dan Savage and his partner, Terry Miller, started a global movement with these three words. It began as a widespread social media campaign to provide hope, encouragement, and community to LGBTQ youth, and has now evolved into a major platform, reaching millions of young people each year. Their ultimate goal remains the same: showing LGBTQ youth that although growing up isn't easy, no one has to do it alone.

Protesting Safely:

What to wear

• Nondescript, solid colour, layered clothing, cover identifying tattoos
• Goggles and mask
• Heat resistant gloves
• Hair tied up
• Emergency contacts written down

What to bring

• Water for drinking and tear gas
• Snacks
• Cash/change and ID
• Washcloth
• Bandages and first aid supplies
• Ear plugs
• Protest signs

Don't Bring

• Cellphone without first turning off Face/Touch ID, going on airplane mode, and disabling data
• Jewelry
• Anything you don't want to be arrested with
• Contact lenses