In this “Just Melissa” episode, Melissa (she/her) goes back nearly 20 years, sharing how a decade of reliance on external validation to fill her up left her feeling empty and unworthy. With the help of her therapist and a tool she calls the “Self-Review,” she was finally able break out of this cycle, and feel confident in her own worth and value. Melissa outlines the specific “Self-Review” process her therapist taught her, shares how she uses the practice in her own life, and walks you through exactly how to stop living and dying by the opinions of others, and feel true self-confidence in every area of your life.For show notes visit:  whole30.com/podcast Continue the conversation with me @melissa_hartwig on Instagram. If you have a question for Dear Melissa or a topic idea for the show, leave me a voicemail at (321) 209-1480. Do the Thing is part of ‘The Onward Project,’ a family of podcasts brought together by Gretchen Rubin—all about how to make your life better.  Check out the other Onward Project podcasts, Happier with Gretchen Rubin, Side Hustle School, and Happier in Hollywood. If you liked this episode, please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and tell your friends to Do the Thing!Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices