065. How "Setting Boundaries" Led To Him Leaving (Kylie Borg Interview)

Kylie Borg was in a toxic relationship and, as often is the case, she did not realise it. Little by little, things got worse, until one day she set her boundaries - and stood by them. So what did her ex do?

When confronted with boundaries, toxic people usually insist, but when they can't break them down, they often end up leaving.

Kylie shares her story, how she realised something was amiss, how she coped, and how setting boundaries without realising that her partner was toxic led to him deciding to leave the relationship.

Join us for a fascinating conversation about blindspots and how "wanting to help someone" makes us vulnerable to narcissists and toxic people.

Visit Kylie's website here: https://kylieborg.com

Index:

00:00:00 Intro and clips

00:01:40 Welcoming Kylie Borg

00:02:42 Back story

00:06:40 It is tempting to try to solve a narcissist's problems - and they exploit this!

00:12:20 Summary Transactional Analysis

00:17:20 Narcissists like to knock people down

00:26:30 Their goal is to fight

00:31:10 They claim YOU are the problem

00:41:40 Dealing with the constant threat of conflict

00:55:20 How did you move forward?

01:09:27 Tips for co-parenting

01:16:45 How did it end?