How To Be Awesome At Everything

By Lindsay DickhoutBusiness

How To Be Awesome At Everything episodes

March 31, 2023 253. Awesome Interview With The Nurse That Helped Saved My Husband
Today on the podcast is our real life lifesaver.

Karina, the ICU nurse that did life saving CPR on my husband when he went into cardiac arrest 10 months ago at Hoag Hospital.

If it wasn't for Karina showing up and giving everything that she had that day and being so great at what she does… the outcome could have been different. It's crazy because Craig had the most severe type of cardiac arrest- called VFIB and had no pulse pretty much immediately so he was in the absolute best place he could have been for this to happen.

And it all happened SO FAST. In this episode, Karina and I talk about that day and what it was like from her perspective. How she remembers seeing me in the hallway screaming for help and how she was surprised that Craig was so blue in color, so quickly. I ask her all the questions about what it is like to have such a heavy job and how you can work through the trama that you experience and still go out in the world and be happy.

There were so many incredible doctors and nurses that helped us over this 2 week period through operations and set-backs and organs failing and all the things that come with it. You just can't express your gratitude in words. But man, I try!

There are so many cool lessons and takeaways from this conversation. And I'm just honestly so grateful for the opportunity to get to know Karina and spotlight her as the true hero that she is.

Key points:

-If someone you love needs your help medically, whether it is an emergency or something urgent or more long term, you have to be tough and think of yourself as their quarterback.

-If there weren't brave people like her - willing to put themselves in this extreme situation to see the most traumatizing things that can happen to humans, over and over, and still show up and go to therapy and work through it so they can keep helping people is amazing.

Here are some of the questions that Lindsay asks her…

-First up, I'd love to understand how it works with you and your team. The day you changed our lives, I was holding my husbands hand in the ICU when he went into cardiac arrest. The nurse that was in the room and I yelled for help before the monitors were going off. Then I heard CODE BLUE through the hospital speaker. I was like oh my god that's for us. How do you guys get notified to respond and are you stationed in the ICU?

-How do you decide who does what in your team?

-Do you have an idea of the medical condition of most patients or are you sort of walking into the crisis and have to be briefed real quick?

-What do you remember from the day with Craig? I know you have such busy days and crazy stories all the time I'm sure. Just curious as to what his situation was like from your perspective.

-I can't imagine the weight that comes from your job.

You seem to have a happy and full life with family and friends… traveling and doing lots of fun things.

Is it hard to get that mental headspace sometimes with the weight of your job?

-How has it changed you? Does it make you afraid to do things for example because you see accidents or does it make you more emotional or more tough than most people?

-Do you see yourself being in this role or a similar role for a long time?

If not, what else would you like to do?

-How often do you get to hear how the good stories turn out? The people that go on and live and thrive because of the work that you do? Do you hear about enough of that to balance out the sadness of what you also must experience?

Ping Lindsay on IG with any questions you have after listening to this episode. @LindsaysCloud

CHEERS TO OUR REAL LIFE LIFESAVER!

1 hr
March 17, 2023 252. How To Be Awesome At Living The Life That Makes You Feel Most Alive
This is a little wake-up, shake-up podcast about living the life that makes you feel the most alive. That means… getting out of auto pilot for some parts of your life and changing things up. Really looking at what you're doing each day and how you're spending your time. What makes you feel most alive and what makes you feel most drained? We have way more control than we think we do about how we design our lives. Now, different people in different circumstances have obstacles to overcome or a path that's just harder than other people to get there. But, you are in control. You can change your perspective. You can change your situation. If you're not waking up most days, really jazzed about the day and what you're about to do… it's time to shake things up. Because we're not here to have regrets at age 90. When you're out of balance, and you're going through the motions and you aren't really LIVING for the majority of your days… I have a reset hack for you. A few things that Lindsay talks about: -Let's decide today is going to be a shake up day. -If you are in a rut or overwhelmed or underwhelmed…. We need to interrupt your patterns and automatic nature of how you go through your day. -I joke that my least favorite word is "fine" because it's so neutral. I'd rather be mad than fine. At least there is some emotion there. -In my life, I feel like this when I'm in the car too much - driving my kids all over. I personally don't feel alive on the freeway. When there is too much of it, I know I need to adjust before I feel like my days are just on repeat and where do the hours even go. -I have friends that I know have the same feelings about their corporate job. Sometimes it happens in marriage or if you're at college and not pursuing what you want. Or maybe you have decided you didn't make the choices you wanted and now you are past the time to make those choices - I'm just a big believer in - the right time is NOW and it's never really actually too late to start the thing. Whatever it is. -I'm going to share quotes from some of my favorite people on this topic at the end. -But for me, I need a hack. Something that I can do when I start to feel like this. So here it is for this! -Lyrics to one of my favorite songs… Living by Dierks Bentley Some days you just breath in Just try to break even Sometimes your heart's Poundin' out of your chest Sometimes it's just beatin' Some days you just forget What all you've been given Some days you just get back Yeah, some days you're just alive Some days you're livin' Some days you're livin' Like you never die Blue's a little bluer up in the sky You're high's a little high You feel that fire you've been missing Some days you're living It'a beautiful world sometimes I don't see so clear Some days you start singin' And you don't need a reason Sometimes the world's just right Your clear eyes ain't even blinkin' Got a heart full of grateful For all you've been given Some days you just get by Yeah, some days you're just alive Some days you're livin' (ooh) mm hmm Some days you're livin' (ooh) yeah Livin' like you'll never die -Take yourself out of the day to day and look at your life as if you were a drone. Get out of your own head and world and look at your days and life and see what's working and what's off. -We all have small moments like this - and sometimes bigger life shake up moments when we feel like we've taken the wrong path. -Make a list - brain dump! -Episode 210 is about losing numbing habits- essential listen after this one! Mel Robbins talks about… every day when you wake up - you decide who you're going to be. -And I think, the lens you are going to see things through. -If you don't decide who you are going to be, your habits, your old patterns and the stress of the day will decide for you. -You take control of the day and of your life when you set your intention for the day. -Every day you get to wake up who you're going to be and what you're going to do. -It's the first step in taking control and deciding who you are going to be today. -We have to believe in a future that we can't experience yet -But you have thought about enough so you can see it in your mind -You have to think about it enough to where it starts to feel real -It's easier to stay comfortable than get uncomfortable -It's easier to stay with what you know because you don't know what's around the corner - that's why some change is so hard. Dr. Joe Dispenza quotes: -"The biggest barrier to change is our own limiting beliefs." -"You have the power to create the life you want. You just have to believe it's possible." -"Your thoughts and emotions create your reality. So if you want to create a better reality, you need to start with your thoughts and emotions." -"Your personality creates your personal reality. Your personality is made up of how you think, act, and feel. So if you want to change your personal reality, you need to change your personality." Mel Robbins quotes: -"The only thing standing between you and the life you want is the story you keep telling yourself that you can't have it." -"It's not about being fearless, it's about acting in spite of fear." -"You are not a victim of your circumstances. You are a product of your choices." -"Your life is happening right now. Make it amazing!"
30 min
March 13, 2023 251. How To Be Awesome At Making Mailbox Money
I'm adding in more entrepreneur podcast episodes because I think - aside from all the other stuff we talk about on this podcast - protecting your happy headspace and moving your body, getting sunlight, plenty of sleep and nutrition… making more money can positively change your life because you get life freedom which equals happiness. So today, we're talking about my favorite type of money to make- mailbox money. Because you work really hard for a period of time on a project, then.. you let it fly and get paid- usually for a long time if not forever. Mailbox money is term to describe passive income meaning you aren't trading your time for money. Which is the smartest way to do it - hence my favorite. There are lots of ways to make passive income - from real estate investments or rental properties… but in this podcast, we are focusing ways that you can make passive income - without a big investment and that you can do from home. You don't have to have a business background or a certain degree… you just have to have a great idea and the willingness to work hard and keep doing the hard things over and over until they work. We're talking specifically about selling digital products and affiliate marketing. Which are so much more exciting than they sound! -Here are a few things Lindsay talks about in this podcast! What are digital products? Things like online courses, digital downloads, e-books -So you take something that you know really well, something you are an expert on, and create a digital something that people can buy to learn more. You just have to be a few steps beyond other people! What are you great at? What could you teach? Could be something you spent 10 years learning- or something you just know really well. -The best and most successful ones are ones where you can identify your audience, so you can maximize people who are searching for it - and use Google Adwords to target them, in addition to social media. And ones that are a specific niche work great- you don't want to be too broad. -And! Affiliate marketing links! Like To Know it/ Reward Style Amazon Affiliates -Link anything on the internet and get paid! -It takes time to build but it's long game -Some of this is straight passive income - like you do a blog post and post it and then it lives on - but other things are mostly passive income as I call it - where you remind people about it and post on it and it. You'r working smart and getting commission on things you recommend to people. -Think about who you follow and why. Who you follow that if they post something - you're likely to buy it! -Find your own angle! -Here's why I'm so excited about the things. My team and I have created a blueprint and we've used it to help build lifestyle brands for the women that I mentor and let me tell you - it is FIRE! And it works in all industries. Once I saw this working I was like whoa I need to really set this up so women can see what's possible. I do a 3 month lifestyle brand building package where we do it like this - (And you could do this yourself too!) 1st month- Start podcast Create a website 2nd month- Create online course Set-up affiliate marketing 3rd month- Create media deck Create social media strategy Professional signatures for emails Email templates for reach out -This all builds your lifestyle brand- to do whatever you want with. -Use a podcast to drive interest! -Another podcast episode coming soon all about how to make money from a podcast specifically. Another topic I love! To work with Lindsay and her team- check out www.HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com Or email [email protected] Or ping her on insta @LindsaysCloud CHEERS TO MAKING AWESOME MAILBOX MONEY!
42 min
March 08, 2023 250. How To Be Awesome At Florida Theme Parks
Today, I'm sharing all the best tips for when you are headed to the theme parks in Florida. We just got back from a week in Orlando and I learned so many things about the parks and the area and the hotels…. I'm so excited to share. Whether you have a trip coming up, or you're thinking about going to Orlando, this podcast episode has all the info you need to know. We're talking rides, food, heat, timing, planning, clothing, strollers and more. The Universal parks and the Disney parks… Universal City Walk and Disney Springs… so much FUN to get into- let's go!
43 min
March 01, 2023 249. How To Be Awesome At Doing The Hard Thing Consistently
How To Be Awesome At Doing The Hard Thing Consistently.. oftentimes without seeing results or many results… but continuing to do it anyway. It's what I think is actually the secret to being successful at most things. Most people try the thing - whatever that is - sending sales emails, lifting weights, eating healthy, starting a side business, tuning out anything negative, losing weight… but don't keep going it long enough. First we need to make sure the goal is the right goal for you. After that, we're set… we just have to keep doing the things, over and over, that we know will get us there. To be able to have a very clear focus on what needs to be done and have the mental toughness to not quit when you don't see immediate results. Here's how you do it - you set-up a system to focus on and enjoy the process rather than focus on the end goal of trophy or reward. Today's podcast is all about how to consistently do the hard things. Because here's the thing - if you commit and really give full effort and do it long enough - it would be completely unrealistic to not see progress and growth. I'm telling you the secret sauce in getting what you want is doing the hard thing over and over and over again, even when you don't see results yet. It's the ability to avoid distraction, ignore outside noise, delay gratification and keep doing the hard things required to make awesome things happen. I've worked with so many very successful entrepreneurs and now I'm having daily calls with women who are really building and growing and progressing personally and professionally and the common denominator is not an intense early morning routine or inherited money to invest or a high level academic education. While those can sometimes be a factor, it's more the ability of these women to wake up and keep doing the hard thing. Same goes with fitness or lifting weights. For most of us, it takes so damn long to see results. So it's not easy to keep going. It's hard to do hard things without seeing or feeling the reward as soon as we want. Here are some of the key points Lindsay talks about in this episode: -Keep getting uncomfortable -Enjoy the process - even when it's painful -Realize that it would be unrealistic to think you won't see change and progress if you keep going. Most people quit before they even have a chance. -Head down, blinders on. Your opinion is the only one that matters right now and it doesn't matter what other people are doing. -Listen to David Goggins and Andrew Huberman for more in depth on this -Expect discomfort and embrace it. It's all about managing expectations. Goggins says "embrace the suck" -Create a solid plan -Build it into your schedule or routine -Decide and commit - there's no decision to be made - just need to execute -Hold yourself accountable -Hard work becomes harder when you're doing it for the result or reward or end goal -Andrew Huberman is a neuroscientist and professor at Stanford University -Andrew Huberman talks about a Stanford study - kids liked to draw and gave them a reward - like a sticker when they drew. Then they stopped giving them the sticker- then they were less likely to draw because they didnt get the reward anymore. When we receive rewards - or give ourselves rewards- we associate less pleasure to it. -According to Huberman, dopamine is released in response to experiences that are pleasurable or rewarding, such as eating delicious food or achieving a goal. Dopamine helps to reinforce these behaviors, making it more likely that we will repeat them in the future. -If you get a peak in dopamine from a reward - it lowers baseline -Makes you do it for the rewards -Growth Mindset - striving is the end goal - we are always growing- we never reach the destination - we are focused on the effort itself. -Learning to access the rewards from the EFFORT not the result. -Tell yourself - this effort is awesome -Forcing yourself to stick to a hard workout -You can evoke a dopamine release from the challenge you are in -If you are focused only on the goal - you enjoy the process less and makes it more painful -Dopamine increases the amount of energy we have and sharpness of mind -The feeling of effort is the mental reward. -Tell yourself- I know this doesn't feel good - but I love it. -In the moments of the biggest suck - this is painful and because it's painful it will increase my baseline dopamine later - but also I know in this moment I am doing it by choice and because I love it. -David Goggins talks about turning the effort into the reward. -Allows you to stay focused and not get distracted. -Learning to spike dopamine from effort itself - not before or after is key! Cheers to all the hard things! And doing them over and over again!
28 min
February 21, 2023 248. How To Be Awesome At Shopping For Healthy Foods
Today we are talking about healthy grocery store shopping tips! So many thoughts and ideas for you on how to really shop for foods to make meals and snacks that fuel your body and give you energy and that are satisfying and delish to you. For so many years I would roam the grocery store not really knowing which items contained clean ingredients and were the highest quality without GMOs or MSG or seed oils or excessive sugar… some the things we want to avoid. I've invested so much time and money into getting my very non-formal education in nutrition and just overall mental and physical health and how what we put in our bodies, affects everything about us. Let's pow wow about all things healthy at the grocery store! IDEAS! Do delivery!! This way you are intentional about what you get and don't forget the essentials. Plus you spend less. When going in person or shopping online- think about shopping around the perimeter. Get a few go-to healthy meals that you cook each week so it is less overwhelming. Focus on protein! This is what fills you up and gives you energy! Lean proteins and healthy fats! Low sugar is key! No seed oils. For grains and breads! Use the Bobby Approved app. Learn to read labels. Consider food testing to see what you may be allergic or sensitive to. Buy organic when possible and avoid GMOs. Eggs & milk- organic and pasture raised Chicken- organic (pasture raised or free-range even better) Beef- organic and grass fed Fish- wild caught Track what makes you feel great and what makes you feel sluggish or bloated. Use the 80/20 rule! Life is to enjoy! Eat and drink and celebrate! 80% of the time clean, 20% less restricted and more of what you really feel like. Find healthy swaps to things you love - muffins or cookies. Eat at home more - eat out less. Bring your own dressings or desserts out with you. Don't be embarrassed, it's fun! Choosing healthy foods at the grocery store is the first step to eating healthier overall. You set yourself up to WIN and feel great doing it. No dieting, no going hungry… it's a lifestyle of choosing foods that fuel your body and make you feel AWESOME!!
29 min
February 03, 2023 247. How To Be Awesome At Dealing With Adult Bullies
We spend a ton of time on this podcast talking about ignoring negativity, and avoiding toxic people.

But what about when you're in a situation where someone targets you repeatedly. Maybe they are intimidating or controlling, unruly or condescending or shaming. We're talking about adult bullying. Something that 30% of adults say that they have experienced.

Lindsay is sharing the story about why she's recently done a deep dive into this and how one of her best friends was being bullied for so long and finally enough was enough and it was time for us, her friends, to stand up to her bully too.

We are likely to deal with some sort of adult bullying in our lives so we need strong strategies for how to deal with it.

This is an uplifting talk about standing up to people who try to push you around or shame you or are constantly condescending.

When to ignore them, when to confront them and ways to take control of the situation.

Nobody deserves to be bullied and even though we know it is usually a THEM problem not an US problem, we still have to deal with it. That's what we're hashing out today.

Lindsay explains that she is not an expert of course - but her job is to bring up topics she thinks are important to pause life and focus on.

This deep dive started because of one of Lindsay's good friends being bullied by an adult - for a long time. It came to a point where enough is enough.

Here are some of the things that Lindsay talks about:

-Examples of bullies:

Colleague

Boss

Neighbor

Family member

Someone in your social circle

Bullying can come in many forms!

-someone who targets you repeatedly

-someone who to be intimidating or controlling, unruly or condescending or shaming.

-Keep your distance from bullies

Avoid engagement unless you have to

Avoid it if you can, sometimes they will just stop or go away

-Don't react!

Ignore them 3 times and they will stop

They are trying to push your buttons

They get the advantage when you react and lose your cool

90% of bullying stops if you don't react to them 3 times in a row

You are feeding them if you react. That's the whole point- that's what they want.

-Take your insecurities and get comfortable with them.

If someone or people try to pick on you about specific things.

It takes the power away from people who try to bully you.

What can you change?

What can you not change but you can change how you think about it?

Maybe I'm not in the financial place I want to be now but life is long and I'm on my way.

You might have the insecurities your whole life so you might as well deal with them now. If it's

Ya I'm not the smartest at that … or the best at that skill… but I am really good at a lot of other things.

Become secure in what you are not secure with.

-Write it down!

Even if you never need it or use it!

It can be beneficial in SO MANY ways.

Especially if it's a family member - journalling what happened and when and how you felt will help you track the problem over time.

And worst case if you need to report it to a supervisor or HR or the police.

Start a journal just for this. There is no downside.

Don't leave it out - keep it secure. Pop emails or screenshots in a folder if needed.

They can make you feel crazy- you will see all your evidence and history. No mind manipulation here.

-If you need to stand up to them- be assertive

If you must interact, be strong and assertive.

If you must interact with them regularly, make sure you are the one that sets the tone of the relationship.

-Set-up consequences

If it's a situation that works for this, set boundaries.

This works mainly with friends or family.

This behavior is not acceptable, if it continues, you will not be welcome in our circle.

-Master things that give you confidence to give you control

--Don't be shitty because someone else was!

Don't get even

Because then you are acting shitty like them

And then you can become a bully

-Personal strength and confidence - TED TALK

Kevin Ward

It is the true safe space.

Because you can take that everywhere.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O_4uB-j-zgQ

CHEERS to protecting your headspace and not letting adult bullies in!!

31 min
February 01, 2023 246. Your Awesome Blueprint For Starting A New Project
Lindsay talks about how she talks to people all the time within her consulting program that want to start a business and they have this great idea but they feel like they don't know where to start. It's easy to feel overwhelmed or to doubt yourself, and before you know it, you've had this idea that you've done nothing with for months or years. If you have an idea for a business or side business, this podcast is for you! And to be honest, we think in the world we are living in now, we all should! There are so many ways you can make a career or side money from a business you start from home. That's what we are diving into today! We have the BEST layout for how to overcome the hurdles and get moving towards starting your new project. Here are some of the tips Lindsay goes over: -Clearly define what you want to do. Don't dabble, don't try to do many things. Commit that this is the season of this project. -Learn everything there is to know about it. Become an expert. -Find other people who have gone down a similar path and map out how this could look for you. Look for people who are just a few steps ahead of where you are and use that as inspiration. -Make the complicated not so complicated. -Believe with hard work and consistency, you can do. It might take 2 years when you want it to take 2 months, but you will get there. -Wake up and eat the frog. Do one hard or big thing FIRST thing in the day. Don't start being reactive to your emails or what people need from you. Get up, now your priorities and execute. -Eliminate negativity and noise. It doesn't serve you. We are not in the business of taking criticism from people who are watching from the stands while we are out on the field. For more information on working with Lindsay, please visit ww.HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com CHEERS to starting your new AWESOME project!
24 min
January 23, 2023 245. How To Be Awesome At Making FUN A Priority
When was the last time you said…. my goal today is to have FUN! Even on days when you aren't going out for your perfect day or on vacation. On normal, ordinary days… making it a priority to have fun. If you're anything like me… it can be very easy to get hyper focused on to do lists and goals… which I also think is very important.. but if having FUN isn't a high priority in your daily life, it's easy to wrap up the day or the week or even the month, without having very many fun moments. I have 2 TOP 3 lists that I write down each morning after I brush my teeth. What 3 things do I want to get done today? And what 3 feelings are a priority today? And fun is heavy in the rotation. In this episode we are talking all about how you can insert FUN into your days and especially on your weekends. We are talking about when FUN is a priority, you have way more of it. -Realizing we don't have to wait for our favorite holiday or a special party to have a really good laugh or a super fun day. -You have to make it a priority! -Do more things that you love! -With people you love to do them with! -When you have fun as a priority in your mind, you think to stop in an ordinary moment. -When you're scrolling online, look for creative things to do! Ways to be adventurous! -Try new foods. -Get outside and explore new places. -Spend lots of time with the most fun people you know. -Say YES to things you might normally say NO to. -Don't WAIT for fun! It's often not as fun as you think it will be anyway! -The most fun often happens in the spontaneous and unplanned moments. -Don't let age stop you! You can do a version of any activity at any age. -Play is essential! -Switch up your routine. -Smile more. -Leave time to be spontaneous -Put something on your calendar each month that you wouldn't normally do. -Do things you would normally watch. -See a comedy show. -Dance. -Make plans so you have options! Dinner and movies and adventures. Lots of plans then flexible! -TIME is the one thing that we can never get back. Not in a negative way- in a super positive one! CHEERS to having more FUN!!
32 min
January 17, 2023 244. How To Be Awesome At Seeing The Best In People
How To Be Awesome At Seeing The Best In People You know when you react badly to something or you're just in a funk and say something that comes out totally rude… And the person that you're interacting with gives you a pass. Like just tells you - I get, totally ok. And you're just so relieved and feel the stress of it escaping your body. It is a great thing to do for someone else. Now we aren't talking about letting people walk on us or forgiving everything right away, we are talking about understanding that we don't always know all the things that someone else is going through. And to be able to be compassionate and understanding is an awesome thing. To be able to ignore things that don't matter or let go of a rude comment that was said and see the best in people. There is so much good that comes from it- for what you put out in the world and how you make other people feel… but also for controlling the amount of stress that you let into your world. The goal of this podcast is to set you up to see the best in people. So you're a bit more understanding, give people a pass, and control the headspace that you live in. Often times our culture sets us up to attack people if they say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing . This podcast is the opposite, it's about focusing on the very best in people. And know you don't know the rocks in their shoes. Even if it's not what feels natural that's the best part. -You find what you are looking for. If you're looking for something to complain about, you'll find. -The lens you put on when you leave the house is the way you see things. -Give people a pass, you never know what they are going through. -You have the power to forgive someone or react in a way that is unexpected. -You control if something gets you fired up. -Rather than light someone up, why not forgive them, THEN adjust how you interact with them in the future. -Gary Vee says.. Being nice is always ROI positive Being abrasive can win in the sort term, but not in the long term. -Guess what? Things travel so much faster than they used to. 20 years ago, if you were a jerk in San Diego, you could move to San Francisco and start over. Now, it follows us. -Don't be less of a person because someone else was. -As you push yourself to be a better human being, better things start happening to you. -The next time you're in a situation where you're like how do I react to this situation? Lean into seeing the best in people. Know you likely don't know the full story and it's always better to come in with understanding and compassion. CHEERS to being awesome at seeing the best in people!
25 min

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The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how…