The "forgetting curve" principle shows that your partner is likely to forget 50% within an hour, 70% within 24 hours, and 90% within a week. So if this is true, why on earth would we expect our partner to remember something we express ONE time: like a want/need?! Since human memory can't be relied on and your partner likely has a lot on their mind/plate, then we need to partner with them by effectively providing gentle, loving reminders.

But what about nagging?! Someone asked this on our Instagram post.

In this episode we distinguish between "nagging" your partner and healthy "assertiveness."

Assertiveness is empowering, and a skill we all can get better at in a relationship.

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