Ask a Matchmaker

How to Have Hard Conversations Early in Dating ft. Colette Fehr


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Hard conversations in relationships, attachment styles, anxious vs avoidant dynamics, and emotional disconnection are at the center of this week's Ask A Matchmaker. Matchmaker Maria sits down with therapist and author Colette Fehr to explain why couples fight about small things like Duolingo, texting back, or Valentine's Day flowers when the real issue is feeling unheard or unimportant. They break down how to stop people pleasing, how to say "that hurt me" clearly, and why serious conversations should never happen over text. Colette shares tools from her book The Cost of Quiet, including her emotional Mad Libs method for speaking up without pushing your partner away. They also tackle anxious and avoidant attachment patterns and whether separate bedrooms, like Keke Palmer suggested, can actually work in a healthy relationship.

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Producer: Venetia Geras https://www.venetiageras.com/

Studio: WTF Media Studios https://www.wtfmediastudios.com/home

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