How to Love Your Body: The Official UNdiet Online Podcast

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are talking about a phrase that we learned from Bri Campos, a body image educator/ LPC  - follow her on Instagram at @bodyimagewithbri 

So what does it mean to “sit in the suck”?

Well - you may have noticed that this UnDiet work (intuitive eating, body image, body acceptance/ trust) can be hard. It is hard! 

A few things that may happen when it gets hard… 

When things get hard it can be really easy for humans to do anything to get rid of the uncomfortable feelings - to turn to coping mechanisms that may feel like distractions instead of processing and healing the emotions. 

Another thing that happens - no shame or blame - but when it gets hard our brains can start to tell us this UnDiet work isn’t safe, it doesn’t work, etc and all the catastrophic feelings come flooding in - someone may consider going back on a diet because they need the control (false control that is). 

There could be a bad body image day - where you are looking in the mirror and you just feel defeated, angry, sad, etc … you aren’t thinking “I need to go on a diet again” but you dive right into trying to push the feelings away and try and reframe your thoughts - try to “just be positive.” 

Shifting your mindset, reframing, and thinking differently is liberating AND here’s why you may feel like it never is getting easier no matter how much reframing you do …

You aren’t acknowledging the “suck.” --- You quickly either go to “this IE/ UnDieting doesn’t work, might as well diet”....Find yourself in a spiral of catastrophic thoughts that ruin your entire day and berate yourself for everything or on the other end --- you avoid the hard feelings, say “it’s fine”  - push it away and don’t think about it - you say something positive and it’s done. But it doesn’t ever feel very good. 

When it feels so hard - there is so much power in sitting in the suck. You don’t have to do anything. You don’t have to force yourself to reframe your thoughts (just yet), you don’t have to be anything or do anything, expect anything from yourself other than allowing yourself to acknowledge that this work is hard - to validate all these feelings you are having and just be okay with sitting with these hard feelings. You don’t need to push them away or pretend like it’s all good - you don’t need to cover it up with mindless scrolling on Instagram etc...

It’s about sitting in it, feeling it, and just saying gosh this is hard, this isn’t fair, I hate this, I hate these feelings, and that’s okay. It’s okay to feel it all without having an agenda to dive into “fixing” it.

The next time you are feeling one of these really hard moments - allow it. Take a moment to be still and breathe. 

Here are somethings you can say to yourself: 

-This is so hard. And it’s okay that it’s hard. There is nothing I need to do or fix.

-This work is hard, these feelings are hard. And that’s okay. 

-I’m so uncomfortable with these feelings. And that’s okay. 

-I have no idea what’s going to happen. I feel scared. And that’s okay. 

-I’m anxious when I feel like I don’t have control. And that’s okay. 

-I feel X (insert anything you resonate with). And that’s okay. 

Say anything that allows you to feel like it’s okay to feel what you are feeling without an action you need to take to fix it.

YES. It’s so important to also process feelings, take action, and heal/ transform - and that is very much a part of this work. 

And don’t skip over “sitting in the suck” - it’s part of the process, it’s part of the healing, it’s part of the transformation. 

Reminder, there is no timeline and you get to choose if you want to do any of this - you choose your process. Who says you HAVE to heal and be free around food and your body? You don’t have to do anything if you don’t want to - 

You have the power in how you take on The UnDiet. You can feel empowered to sit in the suck, and feel empowered to move out of the suck and onto the processing, healing, and transformatio

Welcome to How to Love Your Body. On today’s episode we are going to be talking about how the fear of weight gain doesn’t actually control your weight (lose, gain, stay the same)- even though it feels like it does. 

When we say, fear of weight gain, what do we mean? 

It means: 

-You are constantly aware of what food you are eating. If it’s “healthy” or “unhealthy.”-You always feel like eating food has a reward or consequence - if you eat nutritious healthy “light” food, you will be rewarded with weight loss (or at least not weight gain). If you eat unhealthy processed food / desserts / carbs etc then you face the consequence of weight gain. 

-You make choices with the diet brain instead of your intuition. 

-Even if you allow the food and you physically are eating it - you have mental restriction, meaning you have lots of shame, judgement, guilt, and a feeling that you shouldn’t be eating what you’re eating. 

-There’s an undertone of fear, self hate, judgement, shame rather than love/ peace, self respect/ acceptance, and trust surrounding food and your body. 

So - what does this fear actually do? 

It blocks you from truly getting to a place of peace and freedom around food and your body. It blocks your intuition. 

Using your intuition is such a big part of this work in IE and UnDieting - and the fear of weight gain is standing right in the way - your intuition is just on the other side. Knocking on the door asking to get in - 

Opening the door releases the fear of weight gain and not only does your intuition flood through the door so does everything else that comes along with being intuitive. 

Trust, peace, freedom, love - A LIFE. A sustainable life of wellness without the obsession can finally be cultivated. 

What does releasing this fear of weight gain mean? 

It doesn’t automatically mean that you will gain soooo much weight just because you release this fear - reminder that fearing weight gain doesn’t actually control your weight as we mentioned above. 

Question - has fearing weight gain resulted in weight loss that you’ve kept off in a sustainable way? Mostly likely it hasn’t because diets don’t work - and we can’t control our bodies as much as we want to . 

If you answered - yes, I have lost weight and kept it off in a sustainable way - we would like to ask how your mind feels? How’s your mental health? Do you feel free and at peace around food? Mostly likely no. 

Don’t you want to live in a world where you can have it all - where you can feel good physically and mentally???

This is possible. 

And it starts with releasing this fear of weight gain. 

Letting go of the fear of weight gain does not mean you now do not care about your health. It's actually very much the opposite. Releasing this fear will allow you to be much more in tune with your body therefore you'll be able to listen to what it needs/wants. Your mind will be clear and at peace and your body will finally get the focus that it deserves - to feel good.

The diet industry has taught you to fear weight gain - why? Because they deeply care about your physical and emotional wellbeing - JK, EYE ROLL, BS. 

They want you to live in constant fear so you can be a lifelong customer. They want your money. The Diet Industry is one big scam. And we all bought in. US TOO. 

Annddddd now we are choosing to buy out. And you can too- you most likely have already bought out because you are listening to this podcast - AMAZING. 

And now it’s about taking another step further into buying out of diet culture and letting go of this fear so you can truly start living. You can eat with peace, joy, pleasure, content, clarity --- all the things that feel oh so good. 

By the way - WE deeply care about your mental and emotional wellbeing. We are here to support you in all the ways we know how. 

This is why we created the 21 Day Weight Gain WTF Intensive - why did we call it this? It’s validating all the WTF’s that come along with un doing all the toxicity - because honestly diet

Welcome to this week’s episode of How to Love Your Body, today we are talking about the common question we get:

“But what if someone REALLY NEEDS to lose weight? What if someone is xx lbs, and they HAVE to lose weight?”

NOTE: This is a fat phobic question but it is important to address why this question is so damaging in many ways for all.

This question, or a version of it comes up a surprising amount. 

It rears its head when we share that we advise people to not pursue weight loss (regardless of body size), that intuitive eating involves allowing all food, unconditional permission to eat and getting rid of all food rules.

This is a MAJOR paradigm shift from diet culture which almost all of us came from. To hear the opposite of what we were always taught makes a lot of people uncomfortable EVEN if they KNOW dieting doesnt work. Theyve been at it for 20 or 30 years and it hasnt worked, its caused a lot of damage mentally and physically… but dont pursue weight loss at all? That seems crazy, certainly this cannot be the answer for everyone.

"So what about someone who NEEDS to lose weight or they’ll die?????"

Here’s the problem with this question:

1. It reveals a lot about our culture’s obsession with worrying about others people’s weight and health. Whether this is a fictional example or a real person in your life it’s frankly none of your business. Do not use other people as examples to question this work. Keep it about YOU, and your health.

2. It keeps a wall between you and the work. If you put a faceless and exaggerated example in between you and undieting it lets you remain cold and cruel to those in larger bodies. It makes it impersonal and this is what is wrong with so much of our culture’s obsession with thinness and fear of weight gain - not seeing that real people are involved. It remains cruel and judgemental. 

3. It takes the nuance out of undieting. When someone provides a fake example of who it wouldnt work for there is no room for exploration to see what’s really going on because it isnt real! People are layered and complex and one belief system or behavior affects another. This work can only effectively be applied to real people, it takes some rooting around in your beliefs, behaviours and relationship with food and your body to figure out what can shift to become an intuitive eater and increase positive body image. The joy of this work is it is SO personal and will be different for each person so it doesn’t really work to apply to a fake example. 

4. Making your question about someone else (real or made up) lets you never take undieting seriously. When you solely relate everything you learn to YOUR personal situation you can think more deeply about if it seems like something that suits you at this time in your journey.

For instance: Hmm she says restriction causes binge eating and thinking about food all day … does that apply to me? Have I seen that to be true in my life?

They said that if I allow all food, I will actually obsess over food less and I can just eat normally. Does that make sense to me? Was I ever that way as a child before I started thinking of food in dieting terms?

And so on….

 

We say that you can decide if this seems like a good fit for you in this stage of your journey because even though UnDieting and Intuitive Eating is absolutely suitable for everyone at anytime (It’s our natural state!), we understand that not everyone is ready for it at any time.

Ourselves for instance, if someone had told me about intuitive eating and undieting 10 years ago I would have thought it was so ridiculous. I am so GOOD, look how hard I work. Thats just lazy….all while deeply deeply stuck in the restrict binge cycle and absolutely food and body misery. But I couldnt see clearly and I wasnt ready for it.

As you move forward learning about this work, when you hear something that is new or makes you uncomfortable think, how does this apply to me? How do I see this for myself? Is that something I want to

Welcome to How to Love Your Body on today’s episode we are talking about DIET BRAIN.

This is the effect that being a dieter has on our brains and our thinking.

If you already know that your thinking and mindset has been affected by dieting before we even get into it you're welcome to grab our 5 day UnDiet Mindset Boost at bit.ly/undietboost

Let’s get started

A little biology note before we get to our main focus, mindset and ways of thinking.

When we restrict calories from our brain this leads to rigid thinking, creative thinking goes out the window and we cannot go with flow very easily. This makes so much sense to me because whenever I was dieting it was always so rigid, and honestly never very logical. Eat a piece of chocolate and screw it, may as well eat the whole cupboard. And I did this so often, how does any of that make any sense? I couldn’t be flexible with my thinking or see things that were staring me in the face - like I should not be obsessing over food this much and it isn't healthy to be dieting all week just to binge on the weekends.

So know that when you’re dieting it biologically is going to affect the way you think - so you can’t always trust your dieting brain to give you the best answers which is one big reason that we love to support people in this work because with a dieting brain it can be really challenging to find your way out on your own.

But let’s move onto how dieting affects our mindset and thinking around food and body.

DIET BRAIN: Preoccupation with food - thinking of what you’re eating next, calories tallying up in your head, feeling almost out of control or gluttonous because you always think about food

The natural state: Think about food when you’re hungry, enjoy food and be excited for a great meal but its not the focus of your thoughts

DIET BRAIN: Picking apart your body, body checking, weighing yourself regularly, being focused on how clothes fit

The natural state: Your body’s value doesn't come from the way it looks, naturally we would focus on how we feel, weight would be a non issue (and it WAS until insurance companies decided that weight was a nice easy measurement of health and doctors took that on too). If clothes were too tight or didn’t feel good we would get new ones.

 

DIET BRAIN: All or nothing thinking - being perfect, following a plan or SCREW IT! Going all out, last supper effect.

 

Natural state: Ebb and flow, naturally eat more some days and less on others, honor cravings in a way that feels good and is satisfying.

 

The good news is we can ALL get back to this natural state.

It just takes some mindset work and a new way to relate to food and our bodies.

We welcome you into our free 5 day UnDiet Mindset Boost - this is a 5 day series that will give you small but important daily mindset activities to begin making this shift back into your natural state of thinking.

You can grab the mindset boost at bit.ly/undietboost

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are going to be sharing and validating you in ways diet culture never did and never will. 

It’s called the It’s Okay If episode! Which basically means we are going to be going over all the things it’s okay to be doing as an UnDieter. To normalize all things! 

We have found that when we post something on Instagram about it being okay doing things that haven’t always been accepted in the diet world we get the most interaction and engagement … people just want to know that they can do things without judgment, guilt, and shame. 

It’s okay if …. 

 

You ate the whole thing and they ate half

You ate another slice of pizza and they didn’t 

You ate a snack and they didn’t 

You ordered the side of fries and they ordered the side salad 

You ate dessert and they passed on dessert 

You are hungry and they aren’t 

 

You aren’t moving your body as much as you’d like 

Stress eating 

Eating out of boredom 

Comfort eating 

Snacking all day long 

Having challenging body image thoughts 

 

Whatever you are doing - IT’S OKAY! 

Being an UnDieter means that no matter what is going on with food, movement, and body image it’s A-Okay because there’s an ebb and flow to this life …. 

Sometimes we’re gonna get uncomfortably full, sometimes we just don’t have the time to move our bodies because it’s not our top priority (because there are a million other things to do in life that just may take priority!) , sometimes we aren’t going to like our bodies, sometimes we just don’t feel good in our bodies - it’s all okay!! 

And sometimes we eat an amount that feels good, we move our bodies more often, we actually feel neutral / like our body that day, we may feel really good in our body.

Since there is an ebb and flow, UnDieting may look different for every single person on the planet - there is no way you could ever compare yourself to someone else because our body signals do different things on different days. We all have different lives too - so we all are working under the circumstances we have …. 

Someone may have more time right now to move their body and eat in ways that feel good - someone may need to eat whatever they can put in their mouths and don’t have time this week to move a muscle? 

Someone may be really hungry today and someone may not.

Someone may be craving pizza tonight and someone may be craving salad and someone may be crazing pizza and a salad… It’s all okay! 

Each day, each week, each month and so on may look different for you (and for anyone who is an UnDieter).

And that’s the point! This is why it’s sustainable - because we just live our lives, listen to our body signals and do the best we can in the situation/ circumstance we’re living in. 

You may have kids and you barely have time to make a nice meal for yourself so you’re eating whatever you can - maybe even the kids left overs. Maybe your only movement is chasing after the toddler or going on a walk with the stroller - That’s okay! One day your kids will be grown up and you will have more time to yourself which means you can prepare meals you really love that you can put more time into -- maybe finding new ways to move that you love because you’ll have more time. 

Do you see how life is always evolving and changing so whatever is going on in your present day may not be what is going on tomorrow or the next - same goes for you hunger signals or any body signals. 

So the next time you judge yourself for anything you’re doing - remind yourself that IT’S OKAY!!! When you accept and allow “what is” - you’ll feel so much more peace and freedom. 

Keep your eyes open on Sept 1 our 21 Day Weight Gain WTF intensive is opening. If you liked our 5 day weight gain wtf video series last month you’ll love this. The free video series is also coming back on the 1st if you missed that. 

In the meantime be sure to grab your free wellness without the obsession journal at bit.ly/wwtojournal

Welcome to How to Love Your Body, today we are talking about what to do when we are worried about a friend or family member’s health issues and how we can address it.

 

You can grab your worksheet here bit.ly/undietsupport - so you can work through how to support your loved one in the best way possible. 

 

To start it off - get into your loved one’s shoes. If you had something going on with your health, what would you want from a loved one? 

 

Someone to listen to you?

Someone to support you in going to appointments?

Someone to love you unconditionally?

 

So would I.

 

But what we tend to dish out instead is:

 

Advice.

Unsolicited advice.

 

And we mean SO WELL but it’s really not what they need.

 

We have people reaching out sometimes and wondering “But I really love them shouldn’t I encourage them to eat healthier”?

 

Even if it’s not about weight - telling someone to “eat healthier” is rarely constructive. 

 

If your loved one has health issues going on that you feel are exacerbated by the way they eat, I promise their doctor has already brought it up, likely incessantly and if that hasn’t made a change, your comments won’t either.

 

We really hope that nobody tells you what to eat or how your body should look so we advise the same for US - their body, their business, our body, our business.

 

So how can you support a loved one having health troubles?

 

ASK them what you can do to help - don’t assume or give unsolicited advice

Be there to listen

 

That’s really all you need to do. 

Keep it simple and keep checking in with them if they need anything.

 

You can grab your worksheet to work through what is best to do for your loved one here bit.ly/undietsupport

 

See you next week!

5 mistakes people make going through the 5 phases

 

Welcome! This episode is brought to you by The UnDiet Academy starting August 4th 2020. Learn more about our program here - www.thebodylovesociety.com/undiet 

 

Phase 1: The Initial Exit

 

Mistake: They’re starting here and can easily get stuck in consuming INFORMATION but never moving forward with actual transformation.

Phase 2: The Diet Mentality Detox 

 

Mistake: Still having that tiny voice in the back of their head focusing on weight loss/ weight gain instead of focusing on how their body feels.

Phase 3: The Inner Self Work 

 

Mistake: Thinking they need to love themselves and their body all the time but really - starting with body neutrality (or staying here) is much more helpful etc - body love isn't about the way your body looks.

Phase 4: Embodying Intuitive Eating 

 

Mistake: Allowing all food physically but not mentally ALSO - focusing majorly on eating when you’re hungry, “mindful eating”, avoiding emotional/ boredom eating.

Phase 5: Wellness without the obsession 

 

Mistake: You second guess yourself and think that when your body asks for a salad, veggies, or something considered “healthy,” it means you’re dieting again- you second guess your intuition because you don’t believe you could actually choose the salad because you actually want it - because salad is something you forced yourself to have in the past as a dieter, you’re hesitant if you’re actually transforming your relationship with food or if it’s just a trick.

 

We would love to support you in avoiding these pit falls in The UnDiet Academy which is open right now and closes August 4th.

 

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It includes weekly video lessons and worksheets that get straight to the heart of each phase so that you aren’t wasting your time on anything unnecessary. You will receive daily coaching and support from both of us in the private facebook group for the entire program as well as being able to see the questions that other women ask -- this can often provide some HUGE ah-has from seeing the answers to questions you didnt even think of asking.

 

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We are also including weekly live coaching sessions where your personal questions will be answered - you can watch live and interact or you can tune into the replay to get the answers to your questions as we move through this work together.

 

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On this week’s episode of How to Love Your Body we are diving into Body Trust.

 

But before we start - this episode is brought to you by our free UnDiet masterclass happening this week on Tuesday July 21st and Thursday July 23rd.

 

Grab your spot to learn the 3 ingredients you need to become an intuitive eater and find wellness without the obsession - get on with us live and we will be answering questions and coaching you through these key ingredients. Grab your free spot at bit.ly/undietmasterclass

 

Body trust is a huge part of UnDieting and it is something that dieting teaches out of us.

 

We’ll start with what body trust is, body trust is when we drop all of the rules, shoulds and cants and simply listen to your body's signals and respond to them without doubt or questioning.

 

It’s one thing to know when you’re hungry and think to yourself - I cant possibly be hungry I just ate, is this real hunger? Maybe im just bored, I’ll wait 20 more minutes and if I still feel hungry I’ll have something. Its another to know youre hungry and just go eat.

 

This is rare, most people do not trust their bodies even when they are starting to prioritize listening to its signals. 

This is because the message of diet culture is:

Don’t trust your body, you will go out of control if you don’t implement rules and follow meal plans and programs.

 

You will eat and eat and never stop if you don’t control yourself.

 

So of course we live in fear with food and it results in living a life of “wellness” out of fear and that only leads to a lifestyle of stress, being on and off the wagon with very little enjoyment.

 

NO matter how healthy that life looks on paper - we MUST consider the whole experience, the mental, physical and experience of your life.

 

THIS is where body trust comes in.

 

Without it, things are rigid, controlled and encompasses the all or nothing mentality.

 

When body trust is introduced we can become flexible and live a life of wellness without the obsession.

 

It can be scary to begin to listen to and truly honor our body’s signals but in order to find that balance and wellness without the obsession it is such an important element.

 

Here are 3 things you can do to begin developing body trust:

 

If you notice you sit and debate with your body signals often - Am I really hungry? Is this genuine hunger? How long since I ate last? - stop and go eat. At least some of the time begin to just trust the signal and tap into what feels best to eat at that moment, what is your body asking for?

Remember: being overly concerned if you are REALLY hungry or if its emotional eating, boredom eating etc is a part of the diet mentality, you wouldn’t keep eating if you were unsure if you were full or not - I didn’t eat much I couldn’t possibly be full, I’ll keep eating just incase. Why is this? It is because in diet culture we are taught that less food is always better so we lean towards questioning our hunger but rarely question our fullness.

 

Shift fear to curiosity -- when you do begin to listen to your body signals it can be scary and our old diet thoughts may pop up (am i eating too much? Should i be having that? ) but shifting this to curiosity will make all the difference.

Instead think - maybe this is how much I need? Maybe I havent eaten enough carbs in the past and now my body is asking for more! I wonder what will happen long term when I truly honor my body’s signals..

 

Question everything! When we live in the diet mentality we think in a particular way and it goes unquestioned. We rarely look at if our thoughts are true, we assume that what we think is real but with diet thinking it rarely is!

Question the thoughts and fears that come up ask yourself -  is this true?

 

If it’s a diet thought it often isn’t. For instance - I shouldnt be hungry because I just had breakfast a couple hours ago. Is that true? You shouldnt be? How do you know? -- if the answer is a food rule you once took on then it isnt true!

 

There is a lot m

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are talking about The Diet Mentality Detox - this is the second phase in UnDieting (there are 5) - a very vital step ( as they all are) but to really detox of the diet mentality and think in a different way is a life changing phase in this UnDiet process - if you want to learn more about all 5 UnDiet phases you can go back to episode 76. 

Before we share about what the diet mentality detox really is and a few steps on how you can get started - this episode is brought to you by our free upcoming masterclass called The 3 Ingredients you need to become an Intuitive Eater and find Wellness without the Obsession. 

We have 2 dates (July 21 & 23) and times you can choose from - you can find the link in the show notes to save your spot or bit.ly/undietmasterclass

Okay - let’s dive in. 

What is The Diet Mentality Detox? 

This is all about rewiring your brain - your words, thoughts, and beliefs around diet culture. 

It’s about changing the way you think FIRST so you can make food choices from your intuition, how your body feels, what sounds satisfying, your preferences. - not from a place of “good” and “bad” food, what’s the “healthiest”, the least amount of cals, what will help me lose weight etc… that’s just the diet mentality speaking. 

When we can change the way we think, it automatically changes the way we act without always having to put massive amounts of effort in (for example - to resist or distract yourself from bingeing, which is not a long term approach to healing - you can instead rewire the way you think so that binge eating doesn’t even occur to you, The urge is healed so there isn't anything to put effort into, you just get to be free and start to feel that peace and have the freedom you hear about in this UnDiet world.

When you unlearn the diet mentality and rebuild your thinking with the UnDiet approach it allows you toI make choices around the way you move that stem from what you enjoy and what feels good. - not from a place of punishment, force, to burn off what you ate, for weight loss focus - again that’s just the diet mentality speaking. 

When you create a new foundation and intentions around why you move - ex. Mental health and to feel good that’s when you start to create a healthy relationship with movement. 

It’s also about shifting the way you think and speak about your body - you are always thinking, and for dieters much of that inner dialogue is critical, judgmental and harsh, surrounding not only our bodies, what we eat but also our self worth and self esteem. 

It is in rewiring our thinking that will lessen this internal dialogue leaving you less likely to use food and movement as punishment and an emotional response to that internal conflict and more likely to have food and movement take its rightful place IN your life instead of it ruling your life. 

Do you see how the narrative changes when you detox from the diet mentality? 

It creates a new world that feels good - you dismantle diet culture and introduce yourself into the wonderful world of UnDieting. 

Here are a few things you can do to get started with The Diet Mentality Detox 

 

Clear your online space of diet culture 

 

You have probability heard us share this many times if you’ve been listening to our podcast but here’s a great way to get started - and if you’ve already done this it will be great to do a little refresher and tidy up a bit! 

Clearing your space means to get rid of anything that relates to diet culture - a great place to start is with your social media. Unfollow anyone who spews diet culture and doesn't make you feel good/ inspired - and then Follow accounts that are a part of the body positive movement, different bodies, intuitive eating accounts etc - if it makes you feel good, then surround yourself with that! 

If you’ve never done this before - this will be such an energetic shift in your online space! If you’ve already done this - do a little looky lou to see

Today's episode is brought to you by our free 5 day UnDiet Mindset Boost- this is a 5 day opportunity for you to boost your mindset around undieting and do the important work of changing the way you think.

It will be based on today’s episode and you can get it at bit.ly/undietboost

5 Major Philosophies of UnDieting 

Shifting your thoughts about food and your body from the way you look to the way you feel. 

There are some obvious things that you may have shifted already - not counting calories anymore, not on an actual diet, beginning the process of eating intuitively and listening to your body signals instead of food rules but there are SO many ways of thinking that need to change that sometimes we cant even see 

Being overly concerned with emotional eating, overeating, making sure you’re ACTUALLY hungry when you eat etc are all markers of some old beliefs coming up. Would you be so worried about these things if food didn’t affect your weight? If you could eat anything, anytime and you would look the same forever would you be that concerned? Would it be a big deal if you ate because you were bored or because you were physically hungry? Probably not - this shows that some of your actions are still rooted in the way your body looks.

And it can sound extreme but overhauling the way you think entirely is the way to freedom and ironically, balance. 

When your thinking changes you are able handle food with ease because it’s just food, it’s not so intertwined with looks, weight, worth and so many other things that diet culture ties food into.

Separating weight and wellness. 

A main concern people have is that if they UnDiet they won’t be healthy. But the truth is the diet cycle is very hard on your body and mental health. 

The key of this work is separating wellness from weight, they are not the same thing.

While you shift away from a focus on weight this does not mean shifting away from wellness, it actually means FINALLY introducing true wellness into your life. 

As you move along on this journey, when thoughts of “I’ll feel better if I lose weight” or “I need to lose weight for my health” come up, take a breath and ask yourself, what can I do to feel better now, what can I do to improve my wellness at this moment.

Are you getting enough sleep? Are you eating enough? Are you wanting to eat more vegetables? Are you wanting to continue building a healthier body image? Are you wanting to move your body more often? 

GREAT! And none of that needs to affect your weight for it to benefit your health. 

An important goal of UnDieting is inner peace.

When you’ve been dieting for 10 - 30 years the goal is always to look different, to be thinner and to have various physical results. 

This is what we’ve thought would change everything for us, and of course we thought that - thats what diet culture told us but to be honest a physical result will not be life changing, and definitely not a long term solution.

The 1 thing that will make a life changing difference is inner peace. This means acceptance of your body and self unconditionally. 

You might be thinking, but HOW!? We know its not a quick journey but its possible and so worth it. 

Imagine waking up every morning without the thought “I need to change my body”, Ive been so bad I have to start again on Monday, and the constant stress over your weight. Just simply LIVING and being you and that is enough -and yes you can absolutely care about your health, feeling good and growing as a person at the same time.

Self Empowerment

This is about YOU figuring out what works for you instead of someone telling you what to do (when there are rules, it can never be a lifelong change)

UnDieting is unlearning all the rules and BS that you were taught before and to get back in touch with YOUR wisdom about your own body, what it needs and wants and how you feel. You are the expert on your own body and its time to realize that and embrace your power. 

Rewiring Your Brain

The brain is a habitual creat