This episode is my honest reflection on a breakup that happened 7 years ago—long before I met my husband. It was a relationship that was equal parts toxic and transformative for my self-love journey. It ended up breaking my heart and somehow healing it, too. I’ve shared bits and pieces over the years, but today I’m telling you my full breakup story—not just for the sake of storytelling, but to offer you insights into what healing really looks like, especially after a hard breakup. Tune in for a vulnerable chat + breakup advice.

You will learn how to... 
- reclaim your identity after a toxic or codependent relationship 
- navigate the grey areas in relationships: where healing and hurt coexist 
- find strength in letting go of relationships that no longer serve you 
- embrace self-love through the pain of a breakup 

Remember: Healing is not about erasing the past—it’s about choosing how to carry it forward. 

And—hint hint—this episode gives you a big clue about the location of my next self-love retreat… Join the retreat priority list to get early access to all the details! 

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Mentioned In This Episode... 
Martha Beck on The Mel Robbins Podcast

Let’s talk about how to help kids build a healthy relationship with food and their bodies. Whether they’re your own kids or perhaps your siblings/ nieces/ nephews/ students, then I’m sure you want to create a body positive environment for them. Psychotherapist Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is here to teach you HOW.

You will learn... 
- what to say if a child asks, “Am I fat?” 
- how to approach conversations about healthy eating and weight loss in developmentally-appropriated ways 
- what if your kid has a real health condition? how should parents approach their child’s food and weight then? 
- what to say to stop family members from commenting on your child’s weight 

Remember: building a body positive home starts with your own mindset first. As a parent, it’s important to heal your own beliefs about food, fat, weight, and health. 

Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is a licensed eating disorders therapist as well as a wonderful content creator. Zoë holds a Master of Social Work from New York University, a Bachelor of Arts from Smith College, and a certification in Family-Based Treatment from the Institute for Child and Adolescent Eating Disorders. She is the director of Body-Positive Therapy NYC and Body-Positive Home (formerly The Full Bloom Project), an educational resource offering workshops and body image workouts for the whole family. She loves teaching parents and professionals how to creatively build spaces where children of all ages, sizes, and gender expressions can naturally boost immunity to our appearance-obsessed culture and decrease risk for disordered eating and body image injury. 

Follow Zoë on Instagram: @mybodypositivehome 
Subscribe to her Substack for more body positive parenting advice. 

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Four years ago, The Gift of Self-Love was officially published—a journey that started with a little ebook and the sweetest surprise from someone who believed in me. In this episode, I’m sharing the full-circle story of how this book came to be, plus two big life lessons on support and long-term growth. 

And as a special treat, you’ll get to hear the first part of the audiobook! If it resonates, consider getting your own copy—because self-love is a gift that keeps on giving. 

The Gift of Self-Love: a workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself 

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A special in-person conversation with Victoria Hutchins, a beloved poet, yoga teacher, and now author. CW: eating disorders and brief allusion to suicidal feelings. 

Victoria and Mary talk about… 
- A Little Life, a novel by Hanya Yanagihara - privilege, hustle culture, and mental health 
- mutual struggles with bulimia 
- thoughts on weight loss, Ozempic, and bariatric surgery 
- how nuance is disappearing from our culture 
- how to hold onto hope and harness joy 

Remember: make believe… make yourself believe in whatever makes you happy and hopefully, at the very least, believe in yourself. 

Victoria Hutchins, known as @thedailyvictorian on social media, is a beloved poet and yoga teacher with an online community of over 1.5 million followers. Prior to her current career, Victoria was an attorney at one of the largest law firms in the world and then at a publicly traded tech company. She holds a bachelor of arts from Columbia University and a juris doctorate from Vanderbilt University. Victoria is always seeking beauty, hope, and truth in the mess of life. Her debut poetry book, Make Believe, is an invitation for readers to join her in the search featuring nostalgic prose on returning to childlike joy, reconnecting with your body, and reclaiming a sense of optimism. 

Follow Victoria on Instagram: @thedailyvictorian 
Get Victoria’s new poetry book, Make Believe 
Listen to Victoria’s podcast, Soul Gum. 

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryscupofteaa and @thedailyvictorian 

Mentioned In This Episode... 
A Little Life, a novel by Hanya Yanagihara

This episode is for my ED warriors. Let’s reflect on lessons learned in eating disorder recovery and how this journey is a gateway to spiritual awakenings and deeper self-awareness. 

You will learn...
 - Mary’s favorite mantras for getting through recovery and any hard times 
- Why chasing happiness is futile (and what to do instead) 
- How to stop beating yourself up and practice self-compassion 

Remember: This too, shall pass. Both the bad and the good. 

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self-love! 

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books: 
1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 
2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. 

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast 

Mentioned In This Episode... 
Ep. #2: How to Fall in Love with Yourself

Have you ever looked back at an old photo or memory and suddenly felt a pang of jealousy for your past self? Maybe you used to be more motivated, more social, more confident—or at least, that’s the story your brain is telling you. In this episode, we’re unpacking why we romanticize the past and compare ourselves to who we used to be. 

You will learn... 
- the different ways we compare our current selves to our past selves 
- the psychological reason behind this self-comparison 
- how sociocultural conditioning promotes competition and comparison 
- how to stop comparing yourself and embrace who you are now 

Remember: Your past self isn’t better than you—she’s just different. She has wisdom to offer you, just as you have wisdom to offer her. Allow all parts of yourself to sit at the table. 

Mentioned In This Episode... 
TED Talk: The Riddle of Experience vs. Memory by Daniel Kahneman
The Myth of Meritocracy Runs Deep in American History 
TED Talk: How to talk to the worst parts of yourself by Karen Faith 
Movie Recommendation: Midnight in Paris 

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self-love! 
Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast 

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books: 
1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 
2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

WOW!!! This episode is a must-listen, especially for those in eating disorder recovery or dealing with any kind of disordered eating. In just one hour, Dr. Anita will enlighten you with her wisdom, humor, and helpful tools for healing your relationship with food. 

You will learn... 
- how disordered eating can be healed through spiritual stories and metaphors 
- why an eating disorder is a unique type of addiction 
- the role of “power” in one’s struggle with food - how to uncover symbolic meanings in food 
- why recovery is FUN! 
- how to find your hunger and fullness cues - and so. much. more. 

Remember: full recovery is possible (this is coming from a renowned psychologist who runs a residential treatment center and has helped thousands of people recover for good).

Anita Johnston, Ph.D., is a Depth Psychologist, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist, and author of Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationships with Food Through Myth, Metaphor, and Storytelling, which has been published in seven languages. A pioneer in the field, Dr. Johnston has been treating eating difficulties and body image distress for over 35 years. She has developed eating disorder programs nationally and internationally and currently serves as Founder & Executive Director of ‘Ai Pono Hawaii Eating Disorders Programs which has a Residential Program in Maui. She is the co-creator of the Light of the Moon Café, an online resource with interactive and self- study courses for women around the world. 

Get Dr. Anita’s free Food Metaphor Guide here.

And sign up for her Feminine Psyche course here.

As a recognized international workshop presenter, Dr. Johnston lectures globally to professional organizations, conferences, universities, medical institutions, and the community at large and provides virtual consultations. She is best known for integrating metaphor and storytelling into her training as a clinical psychologist to explain the complex issues that underlie disordered eating behavior and other struggles with eating and body image. You can find Dr. Anita at https://dranitajohnston.com/ and follow Dr. Anita on Instagram: @dranitajohnston

Mary shares her candid thoughts on modern dating, relationships, marriage and how to approach romantic love with self-love. From the age-old debate about who should pay for the first date to the importance of embodying the qualities you seek in a partner, this episode is filled with honest reflections and thought-provoking insights. Mary challenges traditional relationship narratives, encourages self-reflection, and reminds us that love is not the only path to a fulfilling life.

You will hear about...

• who should pay on the first date?!?!?
• the unseen emotional and energetic labor women contribute to relationships
• the importance of becoming the person you want to be with
• rethinking the idea that relationships must be hard work
• why love alone is not always enough

Remember: You teach people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or a rating on Spotify. Your feedback helps Mary’s Cup of Tea reach more people who need these self-love reminders!

Get Mary’s self-love books:

1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...

• Ep. 231 talking neurodivergence and 2025 goals with my bestie Dahli Durley
• Ep. 219 of Mary’s Cup of Tea: Should Your Partner Be Your Best Friend? with Rhaina Cohen
• Ep. 234: Reflecting on my trip to Cuba

If you’ve gone through a break-up recently, this episode is for you. We're talking with  breakup coach Kendra Allen to learn...

• how to cope with a situationship ending
• why going “no contact” is beneficial to a break-up
• ways that break-ups are similar to addiction recovery

Kendra Allen is a breakup coach, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast, author of The Breakup Workbook, and founder of Break Up Bestie. After going through a series of painful breakups, Kendra realized there was a huge gap online for practical and healthy heartbreak advice and she set out to fill it. She first launched the @yourbreakupbestie Instagram account in 2017. Since then, Kendra has helped hundreds of thousands of people recover from heartbreak through her blog, social media, coaching, and podcast. Kendra has been featured in Cosmopolitan, On Air with Ryan Seacrest, ABC News, and more.

Follow Kendra on Instagram: @yourbreakupbestie

Learn more about Kendra’s breakup courses

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @yourbreakupbestie

If you’ve gone through a break-up recently, this episode is for you. And what better time to heal your heart post break-up than around Valentine’s Day?Tune into this episode with breakup coach Kendra Allen to learn...- how to cope with a situationship ending-why going “no contact” is beneficial to a break-up- ways that break-ups are similar to addiction recoveryKendra Allen is a breakup coach, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast, author of The Breakup Workbook, and founder of Break Up Bestie. After going through a series of painful breakups, Kendra realized there was a huge gap online for practical and healthy heartbreak advice and she set out to fill it. She first launched the @yourbreakupbestie Instagram account in 2017. Since then, Kendra has helped hundreds of thousands of people recover from heartbreak through her blog, social media, coaching, and podcast. Kendra has been featured in Cosmopolitan, On Air with Ryan Seacrest, ABC News, and more. Follow Kendra on Instagram:@yourbreakupbestieLearn more aboutKendra’s breakup coursesAnd if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @yourbreakupbestie