Being multi-passionate can challenge your confidence and sense of self. But what if having a million interests, ideas, and curiosities isn’t something you need to fix? In this episode, Mary explores why embracing your full range might be the key to greater confidence, creativity, and self-trust.

Tune into our self-love podcast to learn…

• Why being multipassionate can make you feel behind
• What the Renaissance can teach us about curiosity, creativity, and refusing to be defined by just one area of expertise
• The woman Mary considers a modern-day example of embracing a wildly diverse range of interests
• What multi-passionate people need to thrive
• How bringing the different parts of yourself together can help you feel more whole

Mary also shares advice for how to build a career and life as a multi-passionate person, from giving yourself permission to experiment to finding stability that allows you to take creative risks. She explores why transferable skills, connecting seemingly unrelated ideas, and making yourself more visible can unlock opportunities for multi-passionate people.

Remember: You don’t have to choose one version of yourself in order to have confidence in who you are. Your curiosity, creativity, and seemingly unrelated interests might be the very things that make you uniquely you. Hopefully this episode will boost your confidence around being multi-passionate.

Mentioned In This Episode...

The Marginalian by Maria Popova: themarginalian.org

No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

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We all know what it feels like to be hard on ourselves, question whether we're good enough, or let someone else's opinion become our own inner voice. All of this comes down to self-trust.

In this deeply personal conversation, three-time Grammy Award-winning violinist Hilary Hahn (!!!) and I talk about self-worth, perfectionism, creativity, long-term dedication to your craft, and the lifelong process of learning to trust yourself. Hilary shares what decades of performing have taught her about self-trust, quieting her inner critic, finding her own style, and staying connected to the parts of herself that exist beyond achievement.

You will learn…

• How perfectionism can disconnect you from your creativity, and what Hilary has learned about letting go of the need to get everything exactly “right”
• Why self-worth cannot depend on awards, praise, or other people's opinions, and how to recognize the voices you've internalized
• What performing has taught Hilary about self-trust, presence, and getting out of your own head
• Why your imperfections may actually be part of what makes your work and your presence more authentic and human
• How to cultivate creativity by giving yourself time to think, experiment, process, and develop your own ideas
• What it means to stay committed to your craft

Remember: Your self-worth does not have to be earned through achievement or perfection. Self-trust grows when you learn to listen to your own voice, recognize what you value about yourself, and give yourself permission to be fully human.

Hilary Hahn is a three-time GRAMMY Award-winning violinist known for her expressive musicality, technical expertise, and curiosity both within and beyond the classical music world. She has commissioned and championed works by more than 40 living composers, while her recordings have earned some of the highest honors in the music world. She also created #100daysofpractice, a social media initiative that has transformed practicing into a community celebration of creativity and artistic development, with more than one million posts shared by performers and students. She currently serves on the string faculty at Juilliard and continues to perform, record, commission new works, and connect with audiences around the world.

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life! Or on social media! Be sure to tag @maryspodcast and @violincase.

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There’s a lot more to self-love than feeling good about yourself. Though self-compassion is clearly associated with better mental health, stronger relationships, healthier behaviors, and greater resilience, the interesting part of the research is what happens underneath all of that: how changing the way you relate to yourself can actually change the way you behave, especially when you fail, struggle, or suffer.

So let’s dive into the science of self-love and self-compassion to uncover some surprising ways they can change your motivation, emotional regulation, and relationship with failure.

Tune into our self-love podcast to learn…

• Why self-compassion may be more stable than self-esteem, and why constantly evaluating yourself can get in the way of feeling good about yourself
• Whether positive affirmations can be too positive, and why believing you’re exceptional might make failure feel even scarier
• Why being kinder to yourself can actually make you more motivated to improve after you mess up
• How your inner voice can work more like a supportive coach than a drill sergeant
• Why self-compassion may help us regulate uncomfortable emotions and stop putting off things we know are good for us
• Why something can feel comforting when you say it to yourself but completely insensitive when someone else says it to you, especially during grief

We’ll also get into a surprising question: do you have to think highly of yourself in order to love yourself? The science suggests there may be another way to feel secure in yourself, one that doesn’t require being the prettiest, smartest, most successful, or most impressive person in the room.

Remember: self-love isn’t about convincing yourself that everything is great. Self-love is about building a relationship with yourself that allows you to be imperfect, learn from your mistakes, and keep going LONG ENOUGH TO GET BETTER.

Mentioned In This Episode...

• Kristin Neff’s review of the research on self-compassion
• Neff & Vonk (2009), self-compassion and self-esteem
• Breines & Chen (2012), self-compassion and motivation after failure
• Research on inflated praise and self-esteem
• Research on self-compassion and bedtime procrastination
• Research on cultural differences in self-compassion
• Research on grief support and messages after a death
• Research on helpful and unhelpful grief support
• Heart rate variability and the HeartMath technique

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

And if you’re enjoying Mary’s Cup of Tea, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread the gift of self-love!

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Learning to love yourself can be complicated when the world around you keeps sending messages that you’re not worthy of self-love. Today we are joined by Dr. Thema Bryant to explore how racism, colorism, generational trauma, and survival strategies can shape the way we see ourselves.

You will learn…

• How Dr. Thema’s childhood in Baltimore and time living in Liberia shaped her confidence and self-esteem
• How to help young girls be more resilient to beauty standards
• The difference between personal, intergenerational, and collective trauma, and how survival strategies can be passed down through generations
• How to recognize when you’re living in survival mode, even when your life may look successful from the outside
• Why you can begin to heal and cultivate joy even while living in circumstances that continue to challenge you
• Why some of our deepest healing happens in healthy relationships, community, and through dance, music, and movement

Remember: You don’t have to wait for the world to become perfectly safe before you begin to love yourself. Healing can mean learning to stay connected to yourself while continuing to navigate an imperfect world.

Dr. Thema Bryant is a psychologist, author, professor, sacred artist, and minister who is leading the way in creating healthy relationships, healing traumas, and overcoming stress and oppression. Her life changing books include Matters of the Heart, Homecoming, Reclaim Yourself: The Homecoming Workbook, and The Antiracism Handbook: Practical Tools to Shift Your Mindset and Uproot Racism in Your Life and Community. Her work empowers readers to connect with themselves and others while exploring mental health, relationships, trauma, and liberation.

Get Dr. Thema's new book, Matter of the Heart: https://drthema.com/matters-of-the-heart/

Dr. Thema completed her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at Duke University and her post-doctoral training at Harvard Medical Center’s Victims of Violence Program. She is currently a tenured professor of psychology at Pepperdine University, where she directs the Culture and Trauma Research Laboratory. Dr. Thema is also an ordained elder in the African Methodist Episcopal Church and leads the mental health ministry at First A.M.E. Church in Los Angeles. In 2023, she served as president of the American Psychological Association and is the host of The Homecoming Podcast.

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Think of this like an extra-long voice note from a friend you haven’t heard from in a while.

A lot has happened over the summer, but also, nothing at all.

I took a little break from this self-love podcast thinking I’d have everything figured out before I came back. But jokes on me. 😂

This is somewhat of an “in-between” season for me, a knowing that change is on the horizon coupled with the realization that patience is not my strong suit.

Nevertheless, I’m so happy to be back hosting our self-love podcast!

In this comeback episode, I’m opening up about…

Remember: self-love isn’t always about becoming a better version of yourself. Sometimes it’s learning to be okay with the version of you who is still figuring it out.

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re somehow responsible for remembering, planning, anticipating, organizing, and keeping track of ALL THE THINGS in your relationship, this conversation with Eve Rodsky is going to make you feel very seen.

Eve and I talk about the mental load women carry in relationships, the invisible and unpaid work that can be so difficult to put into words, and why creating a more equal partnership can completely change the way you experience your relationship. Whether you’re married, dating, single, or thinking about the kind of partnership you want someday, this is relationship advice you’ll want to hear.

You will learn…

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “Why am I the one who has to think about everything?”, you are absolutely not alone. The mental load can be exhausting precisely because so much of it happens internally — and because a lot of the work women do in relationships doesn't look like work from the outside.

And while we talk about this through the lens of heterosexual relationships, this conversation is really for anyone who feels like they’re taking on more responsibility than their partner. The goal isn't to blame women or men. It's to understand the systems and expectations we’ve inherited so we can start creating relationships that actually work for the people in them.

Remember: the imbalance isn't your fault, but you can still be part of changing it. A healthy relationship doesn't have to look perfectly equal from the outside. It should, however, feel like a partnership where both people’s time, energy, and contributions matter.

Eve Rodsky transformed her “blueberries breakdown” into a catalyst for social change when she applied her Harvard-trained background in organizational management to ask a simple question: What would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organizations?

Her New York Times bestselling book and Reese’s Book Club Pick, Fair Play, introduced a gamified life-management system designed to help partners rebalance their domestic workload and rethink the value of unpaid labor and care.

In her follow-up book, Find Your Unicorn Space: Reclaim Your Creative Life in a Too-Busy World, Eve explores creativity, productivity, resilience, and the importance of reclaiming time for yourself.

Learn more about Fair Play and Unicorn Space at fairplaylife.com

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How do you know if your romantic relationship consists of real, healthy love versus just chemistry, anxiety, or the excitement of something new? I’m talking all things love and relationships with renowned relationship psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon in one of my favorite conversations from the archive.

You will learn…

This conversation is full of the kind of relationship advice I wish we all got before getting into serious relationships. We talk about green flags, communication, emotional labor, self-awareness, sex, marriage, and what it really looks like to build a healthy relationship with another person. And what makes a partnership last long-term.

One of my favorite parts of this conversation is how much permission Alexandra gives us to stop trying to perfect our relationships. A healthy relationship doesn't mean you never get annoyed with your partner, never disagree, or never wonder if you're doing it “right.” It's about learning how to be curious about yourself and each other, communicate what you actually need, and keep growing together.

Whether you're single, dating, married, or somewhere in between, there's so much relationship advice here to take with you. And if you're anything like me, you'll probably walk away thinking about your own relationship in a slightly different way.

Remember: a healthy relationship isn't something you find and then magically get to keep forever. It's something you build, revisit, and grow into together.

Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, professor, author, and relationship expert. She is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and the creator and host of the Reimagining Love podcast.

She is also the author of Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want.

Learn more at dralexandrasolomon.com and follow her on Instagram at @dr.alexandra.solomon

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Perfectionism isn't making your life better. It's keeping you stuck. If you've been waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect plan, or the perfect version of yourself before taking action, this episode is for you. I'm sharing the mindset shift that helped me stop chasing perfection and start living with more confidence, freedom, and self-worth.

You will learn…

Remember: You don't have to be perfect to be worthy. Growth happens when you're willing to begin before you have everything figured out. Confidence comes from showing up, learning as you go, and trusting the process.

If perfectionism has been stopping you from going after what you want, I hope this episode reminds you that your worth isn't something you earn. You don't need to have all the answers. You don't need to get it right the first time. You just need to take the next step.

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the perfectionist in your life! Or on social media! Be sure to tag @maryspodcast so I can see you're listening.

Mentioned In This Episode...

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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You can be successful and still not feel confident about money. In this conversation, money expert Tori Dunlap joins me to talk about the connection between confidence, self-worth, and financial freedom. We explore why so many women (including feminists!) still struggle to feel confident about money, where those beliefs come from, and how to build wealth without shame, intimidation, or perfectionism.

You will learn…

Remember: The more you strengthen your self-worth, the more your financial confidence will improve too. 

Tori Dunlap is an internationally recognized money and career expert, founder of Her First $100K, bestselling author, and host of the #1 business podcast, Financial Feminist. After saving $100,000 by age 25, Tori left her corporate career to fight financial inequality by helping women negotiate higher salaries, build wealth, invest confidently, and achieve financial freedom. She has helped millions of women improve their relationship with money through her educational content, courses, and podcast.

Follow Tori Dunlap @herfirst100k on Instagram and TikTok and check out her podcast, Financial Feminist.

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life! Or on social media! Be sure to tag @maryspodcast and @herfirst100k.

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Have you ever felt like you're constantly fixing yourself, yet somehow still don't feel good enough? In this self-love podcast, Mary talks about her struggles with... struggle.

Let’s explore why so many of us get stuck trying to fix every flaw, solve every problem, and become a "better" version of ourselves before we allow ourselves to truly live. If you've been struggling with self-worth, confidence, or the feeling that something is always missing, this conversation may change the way you think about self-love.

Tune into our self-love podcast to learn…

Remember: Self-love isn't fixing yourself until you're finally worthy. Self-love is realizing that you were worthy all along.

Mentioned In This Episode...

Deepen your self love journey with Mary's books:

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

And if you're enjoying Mary's Cup of Tea, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread the gift of self-love!

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