How to Love Your Body: The Official UNdiet Online Podcast

Hello! Welcome to How to Love Your Body, today on the podcast we are talking about how to take the big, overwhelming, vague intangible work of intuitive eating and make it more tangible, action based and DOABLE!

 

A major barrier for most people in UnDieting is that it’s a philosophy or idea that people can generally understand and get behind, they may even want to live that way… but what do I actually DO???

 

Since they aren’t sure what to do they get stuck in learning, learning and learning more.

Soon enough they’ve subscribed to every podcast, they’ve read every book on the topic and they follow every IE counsellor on Instagram, but not much has actually changed in the way they eat, think about food, move their bodies or think about their bodies.

 

Of course some times will have big aha moments just from listening to this philosophy, and that is amazing!

 

However, if that isn’t you, and you’re feeling stuck we have a lot of great insights to share with you, because this work CAN be more tangible, there really are steps to take to work towards things like ending binge eating, stopping mental and physical restriction, even body image work and pursuing wellness without the obsession.

 

I believe that a lot of these step by step instructions aren’t talked about very much because the people who already live it and teach it just DO these things, they don’t even consciously realize it.

 

What we have done over the last 6 or 7 years while we have been UnDieters and Intuitive Eaters is observe ourselves, how did we stop restricting? How did binge eating end? What if someone wanted to do this too? What would we say to do each step of the way?

Here is an example:

 

Ending binge eating:

The advice that is often given is allow all foods and stop restricting:

Okay well how do I DO that??

 

It sounds easy, it sounds logical and straightforward. EAT! But as ex dieters we know it’s not that simple, if it were we wouldn’t be in this mess in the first place, so we want to help you break it down.

 

Here are a few of the steps we recommend you take on your way to ending binge eating:

 

The first is a mindset shift - it must be understood that eating the food regularly is what ends this cycle, so if you feel worried about eating chips for example, not eating them now leads to:

 

Eating much more later/ binge eating (not that the goal is to eat less but if we push eating the food until we can’t resist anymore we will just eat it when our defenses are down which turns into a binge. This is like suppressing anger until you burst! Expressing emotions more regularly and more gently feels much better and is much healthier, it’s the same with food!) 

Being preoccupied with the food, that feeling of not being able to focus because you know there’s ice cream in the freezer. This is caused by not eating the food regularly. 

 

You may be fearful of eating the food but eating it regularly is how we move away from the diet/ binge cycle and into UnDieting.

 

Okay so how do I do this in steps??

 

Now that you’re coming from a place of understanding that eating all foods regularly is the key to a healthy relationship with food (remember, think of it as suppressing emotions - that never ends well!) it’s time to begin eating the dang food.

 

Step 1: Identify your binge foods. 

Write a list, what are the foods that you binge on?

 

Step 2: Identify binge times. Is it at night after the kids have gone to bed? Alone on the weekends?

 

Step 3: Get these foods into the house (We know this is scary!) It is best to do this on a normal grocery run, not a special trip. We want to normalize these foods so purchasing the potato chips along with the broccoli and yogurt is a good first step!

 

Step 4: Store these “special” foods where you keep other foods. No special chocolate drawers or hiding the chips in a different cupboard, get it all out there in the open beside the cans of soup or the frozen peas (I love my chocolate in the freezer).

 

Step 5: Eat these foo

Since this is the final day to join our 21 Day Relationship with Movement Intensive we wanted to address the 3 key areas of a healthy relationship with exercise.

1. Untying exercise and weight loss

This is where dieters have a real problem - using exercise as a weight loss tool. When we were dieters we exercised to burn calories, make up for what we saw as "extra food" or even as a way to justify eating at all in many instances.

Why is this a problem other than the obvious?

For someone who is trying to get out of the diet mentality this leads to either continuing to exercise and really limiting their ability to be intuitive or grow these new skills and new way of thinking

OR

The person stops exercising at all because they don't want to be focusing on weight loss.

These options provide no nuance or balance and that's what we love in this work - having it all!

This obstacle is addressed in the Movement Intensive​

2. Getting out of all or nothing thinking and learning to be flexible with your schedule

All or nothing thinking with movement leads to a lot of "why bother" moments.

I only have 15 minutes - why bother.

I feel tired and can't do a big, sweaty workout - why bother.

I can't go to the gym (due to pandemic or any other reason) - why bother.

When you pursue a healthy relationship with movement you have thoughts like this instead:

I have 15 mins, I'm going to get out for a walk with my favorite podcast.

I'm tired but it would feel good to move, I'm going to do this stretching video.

I can't go to the gym, I'm going to do this dance video.

When you get out of all or nothing thinking you get to just do what works for you and that generally leads to an overall balanced life of movement, rest and just living life!

​This is a major focus of The Movement Intensive!​

3. Removing judgement around type, length or intensity of workouts - there's a place for all of it!

If you see 15 mins of exercise as useless or not "good enough" you won't bother when that's all the time you have but you're human, there will be many times when you don't have time and just brushing those moments off leaves you with a contentious relationship with exercise.

This leads to those battles of feeling bad for not exercising and then not working out because you feel bad! It's a vicious cycle.

It's similar as what you are likely working on with food - the apple isn't better than the apple pie, they're just different and both have a place. Exercise is the same, there's room for it all and it's important to get rid of judgement.

​This is another element we work through in The Movement Intensive.​

Looking forward to finding a healthy relationship with exercise together!

Love, Lauren & Jenna

PS - Doors close tonight at 7 pm pacific, 8 pm mountain, 9 pm central, 10 pm eastern.

This week we are diving into a post we shared on the value of keeping food IN your house.

This is something that worries a lot of people and when we posted this we received a lot of great responses:

BOTH:

People who agree and have experienced the magic of being able to have food in the house and not worrying about it (particularly the desserts and snacks they used to binge on)

AND

Those who disagree and state that they just cannot keep food in the house without obsessing over it or bingeing on it.

 

We address both sides of this experience and give you insights into why ANYONE can get to a place of having food freedom and having whatever foods they love in the house and even forgetting the food is there at all!

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are talking about Intuitive Eating Essentials - we are taking it back to the basics today. You can be someone who’s been in IE for a really long time or just starting out - either way this episode will provide value in either giving you a refresh or starting you out powerfully in your IE and UnDiet process. 

This episode is brought to you by: Our 5 Day Relationship with Movement Challenge. This 5 day live challenge is to help you find ease with exercise and actually enjoy it again. You can join this live challenge at thebodylovesociety.com/movementchallenge

We are not simply just going to go over the IE principles - they are great guidelines to know so if you would like to refresh just type in “IE principles Evelyn Tribole” into Google and you’ll find them. 

So in order to be an Intuitive Eater - what are the essentials? 

All food is allowed and on an even playing field - ex. The apple and the apple pie are one and the same. 

This doesn’t mean the apple and the apple pie have the same nutritional value - it means they are both morally acceptable to eat when your body desires them. This goes for ANY food or food group. If we can honor our bodies when we want the fresh crisp apple because that’s what genuinely sounds good and we can honor our bodies when we desire fresh warm apple pie - THIS is Intuitive Eating without limitations, judgements, or morality tied into food. You may notice that when you allow all food at any time, while listening to your body, you aren’t craving only the apple pie all day every day. You also aren’t craving apples all day everyday, we can assume. When we truly allow our bodies to be and honor the food when we naturally desire or crave it then you’ll see that you naturally eat a variety of foods each week/ each month. There’s a natural ebb and flow to eating decadent desserts, fresh fruits, savory food, pastas and pizzas and salads and veggies and burgers and fries and all the things. Seeing all food on an even playing field will not only give you the freedom to eat what you desire but will also truly allow you to eat intuitively. 

There is no failing in Intuitive Eating

This is an essential part of IE because if you believe you are either succeeding or failing everyday while on your process to doing this work you will constantly feel like you are taking 2 steps forward and one step back. You may have a hard day - you may binge eat - you may emotionally eat - you may do all these things that you judge but in reality it’s not failing, it’s not wrong, and it’s not bad to do anything while being an Intuitive Eater - You aren’t taking steps backwards if you didn’t listen to your body or you feel too full - this is all part of the process! This is “normal”  - It’s essential that you know that these tough moments are your greatest areas to get curious instead of judge and learn from your experiences. These moments that feel like “failing” are actually moments you process, deal with, and transform - which catapults you on your UnDiet process. Taking the judgement out of your process will be the most important thing to remember! So the next time you think you “failed” - remind yourself of this podcast episode. You did not fail, you can’t fail in IE - it’s impossible! Only curiosity, awareness, and transformation is possible! 

There is no timeline with Intuitive Eating 

This is so important to remind yourself! IE is not linear. Neither is anything really - there is a constant ebb and flow to life. If you find yourself saying, “I’ve been Intuitive Eating for x amount of months or x amount of years” - catch yourself and remind yourself that there is no timeline - the main thing here is that you have ditched dieting and diet culture - You are here, you have found this new world of UnDieting - and now you just live here and continue to learn and grow. To shift beliefs and your mindset around food and your body and do the best you know how with th

3 roles YOU play in dismantling diet culture

Welcome to this week’s episode of How to Love Your Body

We are talking about YOUR role in dismantling diet culture.

We all wish diet culture would not be here.

We might feel like a victim of it, fair enough.

It’s inhumane, it’s unfair, it’s harmful.

 

People are working hard to dismantle it - through legislation, through education, through activism….

But do we just sit around and wait for the world to change?

That doesn’t feel very empowered.

So what can WE do to begin dismantling diet culture in small ways in real life?

 

Show up as you are.

Something we see a lot of in The UnDiet Collective and in our own personal situations is a real fear of showing up and being seen in a way that goes against diet culture.

For instance today I did some instagram stories and as per usual I was walking and was holding the phone kind of low and talking, not a very nice angle.

When I look at those stories before posting them I thought, I do not like the way that looks. Initial thoughts include - if ppl see that that I haven’t seen in a while they’ll really think I’ve changed, they won’t know what I REALLY look like.

Fears of not fitting into the world that diet culture built for us while ALSO wanting to dismantle diet culture. Well that makes no sense!

The only logical move is to ALWAYS post it anyways, show up anyways.

If you want to have permission to show up as you are with no apologies you need to BE the person who shows up as they are with no apologies, no one else is going to do it. 

 

2.  Allow others to show up as they are

 

Every time you wear the bathing suit you actually want to wear (even if it makes you nervous) you give permission to others to do the same. 

This is a ripple effect that is so powerful and really important.

Imagine 100 people who listen to this podcast episode show up to see their friends post pandemic (in many places, not where I live sadly, everything has closed down again), with zero apologies, no need for an explanation or “excuse”. Just, Hi it’s great to see you!

Then everyone of those people shows 5 others that it’s ok to just show up as you are, there’s 600 people now feeling more free and so on.

You CAN make a big difference even just be showing up without apologies or “explanations”.

 

3. Share your views publicly

 

No you don’t need to preach to everyone you meet how they shouldn’t diet, that won’t be very helpful BUT you can share an insta post publicly (even if you worry that a couple friends might argue with it -- NOTE: You do not need to engage with everyone’s opinion, you can just say, that hasn’t been my experience).

Sharing UnDiet resources can plant a seed in people that turns into questioning and shifting their beliefs later on. 

For instance, share this podcast episode right now! It will help the message get farther so we can change the world one person at a time.

PS - If you also want UnDieting messaging to get farther please rate and review the podcast as this lets more people see it!

 

Thank you!

Welcome to How to Love Your Body, on today’s episode we are talking about how to address fatphobic family members.

We actually get this question a lot which makes sense because most people have been ingrained with diet culture. So once you are trying to do the work to get out of diet culture and learn Intuitive Eating and UnDieting - it may be really challenging to be around family members who are still constantly talking about either their weight / your weight , what diet they are on or commenting on the food choices you make. It’s a lot and can be really upsetting since you are working so hard on not exposing yourself to that. 

How can you address fatphobic family members? 

-Set Direct Boundaries - “Please don’t make comments about my body or my food.”

-Be so strong in knowing that IE is best for you that whatever they say is like a different language you can’t understand - If someone came up to you and was speaking a language you didn’t understand you would most likely just look a bit confused and be unable to take in what they are saying. You most likely wouldn’t feel affected because there’s no way of knowing what they are saying, you just shrug your shoulders and move on. 

- Remind yourself that you can choose who you are around and who you aren’t - If you set boundaries and they continue to comment on your food/ body- then you can choose to have them in your life or not - or at least in what capacity. Maybe you distance yourself, maybe they are cut out completely, maybe it stays as is but you develop an armor that doesn’t take you down every time they start up with the comments. 

-How do you handle family members who have a different political or religious viewpoint? This is closely the same. (Sometimes it’s just best to not talk about it - you aren’t going to convert people who don’t want to learn, let them do their thing just like you want them to let you do yours).

-Be a brick wall - You know what isn’t fun? Talking to someone about your diet who never engages with you. If you don’t feed into the conversation and always change the topic as quickly as possible people will know that you are not the person to gush about calories and how “bad” you were this weekend with.

-They are projecting their own beliefs and insecurities - Whatever they say about food/ body / weight / etc - is really just about themselves and their own fears. This does not mean you have to condone what they are saying. This does not mean you have to endure the verbal abuse. It means that you can remind yourself that this is not about you, it’s about them.

You get to protect yourself, you get to set boundaries, you get to use your voice. 

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See you next week!

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are talking about Intuitive Eating on your period or during PMS. That’s right, we are going there today.

We have seen many women post about feeling guilty with the cravings and amount of food they eat during PMS or while on their period. 

We first want to say we are not experts in this area - if you have irregular cycles, PCOS, endometriosis, etc - this is not a replacement for professional guidance. There are amazing resources you can find which we will link - one of those being an expert in anti diet and PCOS, @foodpeacedietitian - Julie Duffy Dillon. 

If you do struggle with something in this area we recommend finding an expert who can help you - especially someone who is anti diet. 

That being said if you live with the question - should I be eating this much during PMS or during my period? I feel so hungry! I want to eat all the chocolate! Etc … this is what we re going to address in this episode.

This episode is for EVERYONE - just know if you do need extra support in this area to outsource - but also know listening to your body and eating intuitively during your period is what your body wants. IE is just the way you live, it doesn’t need to change when your period comes along, it’s a part of the ebb and flow. 

Tips to Intuiting Eating when you feel like you want to EAT ALL THE THINGS during PMS or during your period: 

#1. DO IT. EAT. Whatever your body is craving and the amount it’s craving that is what your body needs. The less judgement you have in what you eat and how much you eat, the more likely you will get the amount that feels good to your body.

Judgement will cause mental restriction which will lead to overeating and bingeing - of course there is nothing wrong with eating past fullness or bingeing but the more you allow the food, the craving, the desire, the more you’ll be able to listen to your body and eat the amount that feels good. 

#2. There are 4 phases during your cycle- this means there is an ebb and flow to what our body is signaling to us - it does not matter so much what the phases are - the point is that if you are craving something on your period that you don’t necessarily crave as much when you aren’t on your period, there is a reason for that. Our body is speaking to us and by listening, without any diet rules, just pure tuning in- We will be able to give our body what it needs and wants.

Remind yourself through each phase our body may require something different, we can trust that, and not judge it. If you do not have any concerning issues with your cycle, let your body lead you.

If you want to get further educated and take a deeper dive into it all we recommend finding an anti diet expert on menstrual cycles/ etc.

If you aren’t interested in that, continue to intuitively eat and allow yourself to ask your body questions without judgement and then answer the signal. 

Intuitive Movement on your period: 

#3. Our bodies go through different phases and in each phase we may have more or less energy to move. The point is to listen to your body. If it’s asking for rest. REST. If it’s asking for something gentle, do that. If it wants something upbeat and sweaty, do that. The point is that our bodies naturally ebb and flow between our 4 phases so just because you had a really strong/ heart pumping workout one day, doesn’t mean that is what your body needs every single day.

There are days when our bodies don’t have as much energy and need to rest - this is why we don’t need to force our movement. It really is about listening to your body and doing what feels good - and what feels good may look very different throughout each month. 

Long story short - if you think you need to counteract your cravings or hunger levels during PMS or your period just know that this is not intuitive. Whether the reason is hormonal changes, altered energy levels or emotional reasons, continue listening to your body. This way of life doesn’t change based on the

Welcome to How to Love Your Body, the podcast that guides you out of diet culture, into a lifestyle of intuitive eating and towards a life of wellness without the obsession.

A big concern for many people is that the first phase of this work can feel a little “unhealthy” at times. Eating more than usual and often foods that you didn't allow yourself to eat before. Many people take a break from working out as well. All of this PLUS the idea that you’re letting go of the ideal body you've been working towards for the past 10-30 years, that can feel scary and a little icky.

So if you’ve started your journey towards intuitive eating but isn’t feeling very good physically this is the episode for you.

What is the goal with intuitive eating? What is the end game of undieting?

First and foremost it is about letting go of the diet mentality. This is #1 always, it’s about untangling yourself from the harmful messaging that dieting is healthy, that thinner is better and that we have long term control over our weight.

This awareness and new way of thinking is the basis of this work.

However, people can often get stuck in being aware of the diet mentality but living with one foot in and one foot out - often without even knowing it.

 

How can you tell if you’re half in and half out?

 

You are allowing all foods but it doesn’t feel good physically

You’re understanding that you can’t control your body size like you were told you could but you also don’t trust that your body can handle itself

You don’t feel at peace with food - it’s still something you worry about quite often

When we are half in and half out of the diet mentality (it can be hard to uproot all of the beliefs and thoughts that we bring with us from diet culture - but it’s absolutely possible, don’t worry), we cannot take the final steps to wellness without the obsession which MOST people are looking for - and if this is something you don’t care about that is entirely fine as well.

We have done 2 polls on our instagram recently and 98% percent of people say this is what they are working towards wellness without the obsession WWTO.

So we are diving into some things you can work on to steer yourself towards wellness without it ever coming from a place of fear, inadequacy and shame like diet culture teaches us.

What are the things we need to do in order to find wellness in this intuitive eating work?

Motivations MUST move from a “fixing” mindset to an “honoring” mindset

Meaning:

Dieting, weight loss and typical “health” teachings come from a place of fixing and fear. Your body isn’t good enough you need to fix it, those foods are so bad for you, cut this out, remove that from your diet, workout more to burn more calories. You need to be smaller, fitter, and look different…. These motivations of fear, shame and fixing burn out really fast. They also lead to all or nothing thinking, keeping us trapped in the cycle.

So instead we want to incorporate wellness from a place of self compassion and abundance. Instead of needing to fix, you want to ADD things in that honor yourself and your body. So instead of thinking that anything is wrong, we come at this work from an understanding that you are complete and whole just the way you are AND how do you want to feel? What can you ADD to make you feel good and enjoy life to its fullest?

Instead of restriction or “willpower” this type of wellness must always be an addition.

Examples:

Adding a salad with your pizza

Adding a walk in after sitting at your desk all day

Adding a nap when you’re tired

Adding certain foods that help with any conditions you may be struggling with

The body does not retaliate against adding but it will backfire when you use restriction to try to get to a place of wellness.

2. Letting go of shoulds and asking yourself what do I actually WANT?

This is a tricky one for a lot of people. Sometimes when we say to let go of all rules and all shoulds this leads to a period of rebelling and that is completely normal. 

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Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on this week’s episode we are talking about Intuitive Eating Burnout. How to handle it. And what to do if you are feeling the overload.

Let’s first start off by discussing what Intuitive Eating burnout is- this is when you feel like your life feels consumed by trying to listen to your hunger signals, figure out if the diet mentality is talking or if it’s truly your intuition. It’s listening to every IE podcast, reading every book, and ingesting as much IE content as possible to “fix” yourself. 

Although it’s not dieting it may just feel like another obsession - although it may feel much better than dieting and constantly trying to lose weight - it still keeps your mind really busy, like it’s now the only thing you can think of - you still aren’t free. 

When you feel this - you may think - well, I better read ANOTHER book, listen to ANOTHER podcast, focus even more acutely on my hunger signals- do anything and everything to learn, learn, learn in the hopes of finally “fixing” the issue. 

Okay SO - if you feel this way - we get it, And guess what - it’s “normal” to feel this way. This doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you and you’ll never ever really truly embody IE. Not the case at all - 

What this does mean…. 

That instead of loading on more content and education - it may just mean that you need to take a break, take a step back, and start to trust your body that it knows more than you think it does. 

Yes, this may mean to stop forcing it and to let yourself be. 

If 

-listening to another podcast 

-reading another book 

-taking on every IE tip you read on IG 

-following more and more coaches/ counselors

-focusing even harder on the 10 IE principles 

-doing that free IE challenge someone is promoting 

… sounds exhausting and like it’s gobbling you up. It’s perfectly okay to STOP. To take a break and not put anything more on your plate. 

You may not need more. You may just need to turn off your brain and simplify things. To finally let your body have the chance to do it’s thing without constant thinking - we want to quiet the mind and let the feelings in our body take the lead. 

We aren’t suggesting to give up all support, all the community groups, all the books and podcasts you love. No, not at all. Those things are very much important to support you in your process - you’re listening to our podcast right now - and of course we want you to keep listening. 

But just like you are going to let your body signals do their thing - you can also listen to how your body responds to content - if it feels effortless, energizing, and inviting to continue to read the book you’re reading or listen to the podcasts, or do whatever IE work you’re doing by all means KEEP DOING IT. 

If it feels forced, draining, and overwhelming - STOP. Take a step back. Only continue to engage in the things that feel helpful and like you want to do it. 

And if every single thing you feels like a SHOULD here are the things you can do --- 

-Allow all food -Listen to what sounds good to your body-EAT-Move on 

No overthinking, feeling guilty, or regretful. 

The only thing you are doing is listening to your body and eating the food - no more, no less. 

Give yourself space to just be in the flow of letting your body lead you and turning off your mind. 

Move through life with feelings not thoughts. 

This doesn’t mean you will never turn back on the thoughts or read another book or listen to another podcast or do the Intuitive Eating challenge or take the IE course - 

It just means you are taking a break to let your body lead - so you don’t have to take this all on by yourself - you don’t need to try so hard to make this IE thing work. You most likely just need to BE more - and things will start to feel natural and second nature instead of another obsession around food (even if it’s Intuitive Eating, any type of obsessive thinking is not an ideal way to live). 

Whatever happens - just let it happen. Surrender to

Welcome to how to love your body, today we are talking about how to stop caring what people think. 

This is a big part of what keeps people stuck in the diet cycle - worrying about what other people think can really fuel the fire.

People will say, I’m doing this for me, it’s not about what others think but since we live in a culture that is so obsessed with thinness and looks it’s almost impossible to untangle what YOU really want from what our society has taught us we are meant to want.

Firstly let’s tackle this idea that “i just want to lose weight for myself”

-cannot remove yourself from diet culture

-its too engrained

-external validation

-cannot escape the deep core message that we are accepted by our body size

-yes of course you want external validation - 100s of years ago that’s how we survived - but now we are evolved enough to think critically about that and shift that way of thinking.

This is just to say - question your thoughts and beliefs when you think “It’s not about what others think, I just want this for me”. Can that really be true?

Now moving onto when we KNOW we care what people think (again, which is so normal and it’s only human, but when it rules how we live, it’s something we can work on).

Here are three things you can do to begin putting what other people think lower on your priority list:

1. Get logical about it.

This is something you can journal on:

Imagine a scenario with someone who you are worried about seeing - play it out. You’re walking down the street, you see Claire, she says hi, you ask how her mom is, she asks about your partner, and you both go on your way. What she thought about you really had no effect on this situation.

It’s more about what WE think they’re thinking than what they’re actually thinking.

Most of the time you will never know what people are thinking.

And yes of course there will be insensitive people who say rude things but do we want to spend all of our days to change ourselves so that Aunt Jane doesn’t make a rude comment at Thanksgiving dinner? The cost/ benefit just doesn’t line up.

2. It’s really about what WE think of ourselves that gets us worried.

When you are worrying that someone is thinking X about you, it’s really a worry that someone is ALSO thinking X about you. It starts with us.

If you got your hair done and loved it you wouldn’t be worried that people won’t like it because YOU like it, if you got your hair done the same way but hated it, you would worry that other people didn’t like it.

Our insecurities about what people think COME from our own insecurities.

The good news is that when you have the self awareness about worrying what other people think, you can then look inward and reflect on your own beliefs and then you have somewhere to go from there.

We cannot control what other people think but we can work on our own mindset!

3. Never caring what anyone thinks is unlikely to ever happen, instead focus on the people who you respect and love.

Do you worry about what Simone from high school is going to think? Maybe not worth your time. Are you worried what your partner is going to think? Maybe something worth looking at because you are going to be affected by that.

HOWEVER, this never means someone else’s opinion is ever more important than your own.

This can at least make you be more selective about WHO you worry about.

This is a big part of the work but it is something you can get better with.

Freedom does require lessening the importance of what others think and increasing the value of YOUR opinion.

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See you next week!