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How to Quiet the Inner Critic and Finally Get Unstuck with Michelle Chalfant


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In this episode, Michelle Chalfant explores how to quiet the inner critic and finally get unstuck. She has spent 25 years developing practical tools for working with what she calls the other wolf. Michelle explains why most of us are making decisions from the emotional age of about 13. And she’ll give you the exact process for transforming triggers into growth. Her motto is “I will let nothing or no one disconnect me from myself.” and by the end of this conversation, you’ll know how to make that your reality too.

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Key Takeaways:

  • The internal struggle with inner voices, represented by the metaphor of two wolves (one good and one bad).
  • Negative self-talk and the journey towards self-compassion and self-acceptance.
  • Emotional age and how it influences decision-making and behavior.
  • Techniques for regulating the nervous system and creating space for conscious responses to triggers.
  • The importance of recognizing and working through emotional triggers as opportunities for growth.
  • Distinguishing between healthy anger and being stuck in a triggered state.
  • The significance of owning one’s reality and the discomfort that often accompanies this process.
  • Developmental model of the “Three Chair Model” (Child, Adolescent, Adult) and its implications for personal growth.
  • The five pillars that support personal transformation, including owning the good in one’s life.
  • Practical tools and scripts for managing emotional patterns and the inner critic.

  • If you enjoyed this conversation with Michelle Chalfant, check out these other episodes:

    How to Tame Your Inner Critic with Dr. Aziz Gazipura

    How to Overcome Overthinking with Jon Acuff

    How to Harness the Chatter in Your Head with Ethan Kross


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