12.24.2023 - By Renee Swanson
People often come to me and say, “I need to get better at setting boundaries.” Ok, what have you tried so far?
I tried telling him/her - I don’t like it when you call me sweetie. I don’t like that name.
What happened?
He told me, “but it is because you are SO sweet to me and I can’t believe that you have a problem with me showing my gratitude. You know that really hurts.” So now I feel bad for asking him not to call me that. It isn’t that big of a deal. I should be more appreciative.
Setting boundaries with a covert narcissist often backfires. They weaponize it against you, causing you to feel guilty for saying anything in the first place. So how do we set boundaries?