People-pleasing comes from a deep-seated need to gain outside validation and avoid rejection and abandonment. Because these needs dominate many people's lives, achieving them oftentimes comes with a hefty price tag of poor boundaries and martyrdom. In this episode, Janis talks with energy healer Wil Carlos, about how to approach boundary making in a radically different way so that people-pleasing and over-giving don't make us emotionally and physically bankrupt.