Being reactive and angry in our parenting is a feeling that weighs on many of us. There are times when your child does things that all children do like: expressing uncomfortable emotions, making big messes, wasting food, screaming/shouting LOUDLY, stalling endlessly while getting dressed, leaving the house, or getting ready for bed...and we lose our cool.

As we embark on this journey of authenticity and finding ourselves inside parenting, the anxiety of failing to respond in a way that is honoring to our kids and ourselves can threaten to break us. We often find ourselves trying to change our children, looking for strategies that will guide us in how we can get them to do or not do something. In this episode with Jen Lumalan of Your Parenting Mojo Podcast, Felica and Jen have a wide ranging conversation about how we can flip that perception and recognize our childhood trauma and how nurturing ourselves can help us better nurture our children. They flesh out common parenting triggers like respect and defiance and how we can recognize when our patience skin is worn thin! In that recognition, we can give ourselves grace and space between the trigger and our response to our children. A space where trust is created inside our relationship, where our child trusts that our response will be connecting and loving. We have all experienced circumstances that weaken our ability to respond to our kids with love and respect. Hopefully this episode will offer your resource, encouragement and insight into how you can see those triggers and soften the effect they have on your relationships.

Jen is offering a course for parents who would like more training on recognizing and taming our triggers. The course can be found here: go.yourparentingmojo.com/t?orid=7508&opid=16

Related Episode: Susan Stiffelman on Remaining Present While Parenting 

Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.

Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast

This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.

Thanks for the kind reviews! To leave us a review, open Find the Magic in iTunes, scroll to the bottom of the page, click on write a review, tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback, and hit SEND

Get full access to Her Mother Tongue at hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe