What if everything we believe about finding love is designed to keep us searching instead of finding?

This episode debunks some of the worst common advice and showcases what's genuinely useful.

It might start with you. The people most focused on finding the perfect partner often remain alone, while those focused on becoming the right partner tend to attract extraordinary relationships.

Shift from scarcity-based dating to abundance-based connection:

Understand "optimal search theory"

Focus on shared vision for the future rather than identical current interests

Recognise that generosity and a growth mindset matter more than initial chemistry

If you find someone, will you recognise them when you do?

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Episode: How to Tell if Someone Will Be a Good Long-Term Partner (and find them)

Chapters:

00:00 How to choose a partner

00:51 Importance of shared values

03:21 Know what you really want

05:29 What is the "Optimal Choice"

06:08 Increasing the pool of potential mates

06:57 Go on more dates

08:27 Improving yourself to attract better partners

10:10 4 Mistakes and bad advices when choosing a partner

13:22 4 Dating myths to uncover

19:40 4 Signs to look at when choosing a partner

22:45 Past Relationships

27:06 Screening for a positive mindset

28:42 Optimal Search Theory

31:30 Send off

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