What happens when the man who appears perfect to everyone else treats you like garbage behind closed doors? That’s what happens when you’re married to a covert narcissist.

In this painfully honest episode, Mia Hanks (not her real name) shares how – as a young woman - she was initially drawn in by her husband’s charm, love bombing, and big promises. After they were married, though, all that changed.

Over time, Mia started to see subtle red flags—like her husband’s lack of empathy, need for control, and deep insecurity. 

Mia describes how her life became centered around keeping her husband happy, even as her own health, identity, and independence crumbled. She opens up about the physical and psychological toll that the long-term abuse and isolation had on her and how she finally found the courage to leave her husband after her children grew up.

Mia also talks about her painful realization that her husband had meticulously structured their finances to ensure her complete financial dependence. He also made sure she was positioned to get the least amount of money possible in their divorce - in spite of their considerable wealth.

If you suspect you may be married to a covert narcissist this episode will empower you to break free of your current situation and start reclaiming yourself as a human. (And if you know someone else who is in this situation, please share this episode!)

As Mia so clearly says: no matter how long you’ve been in it, you are never as trapped as you think.

About Mia 

Mia is a survivor of narcissistic abuse.  She was married to a covert narcissist for 29 years and in 2024 she published an award-winning memoir titled Bride-Made.  She is hoping that her story can help spread awareness about narcissism and help other victims find their voices.

Connect with Mia

You can follow Mia on X at NPD and Me and on Instagram at NPD and Me.  You can also grab Mia’s award winning book Bride-Made: A Memoir.

Karen Covy is a Divorce Coach and Consultant, Lawyer, Author, and Speaker who is dedicated to helping people make the best decisions possible for themselves, their families, and their future - especially in stressful times. You can check out Karen's videos on YouTube.

You can connect with Karen on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and on her own website at karencovy.com.