If Destroyed Still True

In this episode Sinéad and Melissa are joined by director and founder of Simple Politics, Tatton Spiller to discuss why so many of us feel imposter syndrome when it comes to politics.

Ever felt like you don’t know enough to be part of a political discussion? So do we. Join us as we discuss the importance of using your voice, how to stay engaged, and where to start when chatting politics with your friends and family.

We’d love to hear your stories of feeling like an imposter- as well as how you’re doing at the moment- so email us at  [email protected] and each episode we’ll be sharing some on the podcast. 

IG: @theimpostersclub
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Show Notes:

Tatton Spiller, ‘The Breakdown: Making Sense of Politics in a Messed Up World’, (Elliott & Thompson: 2019)

Follow @simplepolitics 

In this episode Sinéad and Melissa chat (after two hours of figuring out Zoom) about the new normal, and how this time of social distancing and working from home can give us similar feelings to imposter syndrome, as well as some tips for making it through each day.

Stay home, stay safe- we’re all in this together.

We’d love to hear your stories of feeling like an imposter- as well as how you’re doing at the moment- so email us at  [email protected] and each episode we’ll be sharing some on the podcast. 

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‘Why You Should Ignore All That Coronavirus-Inspired Productivity Pressure’, Aisha S. Ahmad: https://www.chronicle.com/article/Why-You-Should-Ignore-All-That/248366

‘That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief’, Scott Berinato: https://hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief

‘Hey You: It's OK to Grieve the 'Small' Things You've Lost During the COVID-19 Outbreak’, Lauren Rockwell: https://themighty.com/2020/03/sad-about-first-world-problems-covid-19/

Not a fan of working with music, but need to drown out your flatmate’s Zoom meeting? Try Noisli (not an ad- Sinead’s just a massive fan!): https://www.noisli.com/

‘The isolation experts' guide to lockdown living’, Stephen Moss: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/apr/01/start-a-daily-routine-and-make-the-weekends-different-the-isolation-experts-guide-to-lockdown-living-coronavirus

‘3 Things to Make You Feel Better About Cooking at Home’, Carla Lalli Music, Bon Appetit: https://www.bonappetit.com/story/feel-better-cooking-at-home

In this episode Sinéad and Melissa chat about how to be a leader when you don’t feel like you have any influence (spoiler alert: you do), figuring out how your skills can help you navigate your imposter experience, and kicking comparison so that you can stop competing and start leading.

We’d love to hear your stories of feeling like an imposter, so email us at  [email protected] and each episode we’ll be sharing some on the podcast. 

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T: @impostersclub

Show Notes:

Susan Cain, ‘Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Won’t Stop Talking’: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0141029196

Valerie Young, The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Secret-Thoughts-Successful-Women-Impostor-ebook/dp/B004KPM1N0 

Amanda Parker, ‘Leadership skills come in black too – even if most 'inclusive' boards can't see it’, Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/feb/25/leadership-skills-come-in-black-too-even-if-most-inclusive-boards-cant-see-it

Michelle Obama, ‘I still have imposter syndrome’, BBC, 2018: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-46434147

Lucy Sheridan, ‘The Comparison Cure’, 2019: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Comparison-Cure-Lucy-Sheridan/dp/1409191214

Welcome to the Imposters Club, a podcast helping you fight the voice in your head telling you that you aren't good enough, brought to you by thirty-something best friends, Sinéad Kennedy Krebs and Melissa Murdock.

Sinéad and Melissa are back for Season 2! Older (we’re 30 now), questionably wiser- still feeling like imposters.  In this episode we delve into eco-anxiety, and why so many of us feel like imposters when it comes to living more sustainably. If you started the new decade ready to devote yourself a bit more to the planet, we’ve got tips on how to avoid overwhelm, figure out what’s worthwhile vs what’s just instagrammable, and how to make sustainability actually sustainable.

We’d love to hear your stories of feeling like an imposter, so email us at  [email protected] and each episode we’ll be sharing some on the podcast. 

IG: @theimpostersclub
T: @impostersclub

Show Notes

Lauren Bravo, ‘How to Break Up with Fast Fashion’, 2019

Good On You, 'Ethical brand ratings'
https://goodonyou.eco/

The Climate Coaliton, ‘Write to your MP’
https://www.theclimatecoalition.org/write-to-your-mp

WWF, ‘10 Things you can do to help save our planet’
https://www.wwf.org.uk/thingsyoucando

Jessica Rose Williams, ‘A non-judgemental guide to eco-friendly sustainable candles’, 2019:
https://www.jessicarosewilliams.com/a-non-judgemental-guide-to-eco-friendly-sustainable-candles/ 

Myclimate, ‘Calculate and offset your Emissions!’:
https://www.myclimate.org/carbon-offset/

They work for you, 'Does your MP represent you?'
https://www.theyworkforyou.com/

‘7 “Eco-Friendly” Habits that are Mostly Just Money-Wasters’, The Financial Diet
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=orZjOxzHpgg

People to follow:
@laurenbravo
@zerowastedoc
@notbuyingnew
@therookiewoman
@venetiafalconer
@knickers_models_own
@jessicarosewilliams

Welcome to the Imposters Club, a podcast helping you fight the voice in your head telling you that you aren't good enough, brought to you by thirty-something best friends, Sinéad Kennedy Krebs and Melissa Murdock.

In the eighth episode, Sinéad and Melissa explore the most wonderful time of the year… or is it? Join us as we delve into the ways in which Christmas can make us feel insecure about ourselves and our lives, from the constant ‘have you met someone’ questions from relatives, to the endless pressure to spend, socialise and have the Best Time of Your Life. If your family doesn’t look like the movies, nobody’s running through an airport for you or you just don’t like turkey, it’s easy to feel like an imposter while everyone’s roasting chestnuts over an open fire. We'll be back again in the new year- see you then!

Christmas can be a triggering and traumatic time for many of us. If you need help and support this Christmas, you can call Samaritans for free on 116 123. Stay safe, stay warm, and take care of yourself this season. We love you.

We’d love to hear your stories of feeling like an imposter, so email us at  [email protected] and each episode we’ll be sharing some on the podcast. 

IG: @theimpostersclub
T: @impostersclub

Show Notes

Dean Burnett, ‘Festive stress: why the Christmas season can be anything but merry’, The Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/science/brain-flapping/2017/dec/20/festive-stress-why-the-christmas-season-can-be-anything-but-merry

Rachel Cargle, ‘How to Talk to Your Family About Racism on Thanksgiving’, Harper’s Bazaar: https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/politics/a25221603/thanksgiving-dinner-conversation-how-to-talk-to-family-about-politics/

This Christmas, if you’re able, please consider donating time or money to organisations helping those in need. We’ll be supporting:

The Trussell Trust, supporting people in poverty through food banks: https://www.trusselltrust.org/good-housekeeping/

Crisis, supporting homeless people in the UK: https://www.crisis.org.uk/crisis-this-christmas/

Refuge, helping women and children fleeing abuse this Christmas: https://www.refuge.org.uk/christmas/

In the seventh episode, Sinéad and Melissa delve into why so many of us freak out and feel like imposters when turning 30; from the discrepancies between pop culture and reality, to pressure around milestones, and anxieties around a not-so-linear career path. But don’t worry- we’ve all learned a lot of life lessons over the past 30 years, so there’s a lot to be grateful for as we head into a new decade!

We’d love to hear your stories of feeling like an imposter, so email us at  [email protected] and each episode we’ll be sharing some on the podcast. 

IG: @theimpostersclub
T: @impostersclub

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Show Notes

‘6 Scary Things No One Tells You About Turning 30’, The Financial Diet: https://thefinancialdiet.com/6-scary-things-no-one-tells-you-about-turning-30/

Sarah Nachlis, ‘What Would It Cost To Live Like Carrie Bradshaw In 2018?’, Girlboss: https://www.girlboss.com/money/carrie-bradshaw-expenses

Dolly Alderton, ‘30 Things I’ve Learned About Life at 30’, Sunday Times Style: https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/life-lessons-from-dolly-alderton-30-things-i-ve-learnt-about-life-at-30-3w3l6vlcq

‘Understanding Your Fertility’, Health Fact vs Fiction with Anna Richardson: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understanding-your-fertility/id1438223661?i=1000438810209

‘Emma Watson Talks Turning 30, Working With Meryl Streep, And Being Happily Single with Paris Lees’, Vogue: https://www.vogue.co.uk/video/video/emma-watson-talks-turning-30-working-with-meryl-streep-and-being-happily-single

Katie Arnold, ‘What really happens to your body when you turn 30’, The List: https://www.thelist.com/31651/really-happens-body-turn-30/

Rebecca Cope, ‘Why do we treat 30 as if we’re about to die at 35?’, Grazia: https://graziadaily.co.uk/life/opinion/turning-30-fears-miletones-midi-life-crisis/

Follow:

@nadinejane_astrology if you’re interested in astrology & the saturn return

@annamathur #behindthegloss

@jessicarosewilliams for writing on letting go of expectations & outside pressures

@lucysheridan on understanding comparison- and when you’re someone else’s comparison trigger

@womanreadyblog for self love inspiration

@thefinancialdiet for concrete advice on coping with financial & career concerns when turning 30

@elainewelteroth for lessons in harnessing ambition while staying true to yourself

In the sixth episode, Sinéad and Melissa are joined by Dr James Morland, a postdoctoral researcher on the Wellcome-funded Pathologies of Solitude project at Queen Mary University of London. They delve into the not-so-depressing realm of death, from how to support loved ones during times of grief, to deep anxieties about the afterlife (or lack thereof), finding a universal language through poetry, and talking about what you want your funeral to be like with your flatmates. 

We’d love to hear your stories of feeling like an imposter, so email us at  [email protected] and each episode we’ll be sharing some on the podcast. 

IG: @theimpostersclub
T: @impostersclub

Show Notes

Follow:

@thegriefcase 
@griefnetwork 
@thegriefcast
@thegriefgang
@deathcafe
@lifedeathwhat

Learn more about Dr James Morland’s research here: https://solitudes.qmul.ac.uk/

Follow him on Twitter @jameswmorland

The Death Show at Camden People’s Theatre, 30 Jan - 1 Feb: https://www.cptheatre.co.uk/production/the-death-show/

Joel Golby, ‘You will behave weirdly: What I learned from becoming an orphan at 25’, The Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/feb/02/you-will-behave-weirdly-what-i-learned-from-becoming-an-orphan-at-25

Griefcast with Cariad Lloyd: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/griefcast/id1178572854

Natasha Wynarczyk, ‘Are Millennials Running Faster And Harder From Death Than Any Other Generation?, Grazia: https://graziadaily.co.uk/life/real-life/millennials-running-faster-harder-death-generation/

Welcome to the Imposters Club, a podcast helping you fight the voice in your head telling you that you aren't good enough, brought to you by almost-thirty-something best friends, Sinéad Kennedy Krebs and Melissa Murdock.

In the fifth episode, Sinéad and Melissa delve into some of the most significant relationships we have in our lives, our friendships, and how we can experience that imposter feeling with our old friends, when making new friends, and in those relentless Whatsapp groups.

We’d love to hear your stories of feeling like an imposter, so email us at  [email protected] and each episode we’ll be sharing some on the podcast. 

IG: @theimpostersclub
T: @impostersclub

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Show Notes

Aly Semigran, Well and Good, ‘Friendship Imposter Syndrome Explains Why You Sometimes Feel Your BFF Hates You’: https://www.wellandgood.com/good-advice/does-my-friend-like-me/

bell hooks, Communion: The Female Search for Love: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Communion-Female-Search-bell-hooks/dp/0060938293

Deborah Tannen, You’re the Only One I Can Tell: Inside the Language of Female Friendships: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Youre-Only-One-Can-Tell/dp/1101885807

Lauren Bravo, Why I’m done apologising for replying late to people, Refinery 29: https://www.refinery29.com/amp/en-gb/late-replies-whatsapp-excuses

Victoria Turk, Digital Etiquette: Everything You Wanted to Know about Modern Manners But Were Afraid to Ask: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Digital-Etiquette-Everything-wanted-manners/dp/1529102405/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Digital+Etiquette%3A+Everything+You+Wanted+to+Know+about+Modern+Manners+But+Were+Afraid+to+Ask&qid=1572689174&s=books&sr=1-1

Xine Way, ‘You need to stop having impostor syndrome with your friends’: https://medium.com/@cwei265/you-need-to-stop-having-impostor-syndrome-with-your-friends-32e8809505fd

Justin Myers, ‘I have Social Impostor Syndrome and it’s holding me back – but it ends today’, Metro:  https://metro.co.uk/2017/11/29/i-have-social-imposter-syndrome-and-its-holding-me-back-but-it-ends-today-7111992/?ito=cbshare

Arlin Cuncic, ‘Imposter Syndrome and Social Anxiety Disorder’, Very Well Mind: https://www.verywellmind.com/imposter-syndrome-and-social-anxiety-disorder-4156469

In our fourth episode, Sinéad and Melissa discuss the ways in which planning a wedding can induce imposter syndrome, from familial expectations to bridal beauty, and how wedding traditions clash with feminism.

This episode was recorded at Morley Radio in London. Visit morleyradio.co.uk to listen to their shows.

We’d love to hear your stories of feeling like an imposter, so email us at  [email protected] and each episode we’ll be sharing some on the podcast. 

IG: @theimpostersclub
T: @impostersclub

Show Notes

Planning a wedding? 

Follow @catalystwedco for wedding advice & inspiration through an intersectional feminist lens.

Follow @nu_bride for wedding inspiration dedicated to diversity.

Maddie Eisenhart, ‘Is it un-feminist to want to lose weight for my wedding?’: https://apracticalwedding.com/weight-loss-feminism-wedding/

Sam Dylan Finch, ‘7 Ways to Make your Wedding More Socially Conscious (and Feminist!): https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/08/make-wedding-more-feminist/

Laura Bates, ‘How to have a feminist wedding’: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/jun/28/can-a-feminist-be-a-bride-laura-bates

Nu Bride, ‘Planning a Feminist Wedding’: https://nubride.com/2018/03/19/planning-feminist-wedding/

Emine Saner, ‘How “Bridezilla” became this summer’s biggest sexist slur’: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/aug/15/how-bridezilla-became-this-summers-biggest-sexist-slur

In the third episode, Sinéad and Melissa discuss how we feel out of our depth when it comes to money, why budgeting is so important and how to get started on your journey towards financial health.

We’d love to hear your stories of feeling like an imposter, so email us at  [email protected] and each episode we’ll be sharing some on the podcast. 

IG: @theimpostersclub
T: @impostersclub

Show Notes

James Moore, ‘Millions of millennials will never own homes so it's time to make renting work better’, Independent, 2018: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/business/comment/generation-rent-millennials-home-ownership-house-prices-resolution-foundation-a8308396.html

Robert Booth, London women tell UN poverty envoy about impact of welfare cuts, Guardian, 2018: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/nov/12/london-women-impact-welfare-cuts-un-poverty-envoy-philip-alston

Trussell Trust, The State of Hunger report, 2019: https://www.trusselltrust.org/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2019/06/SoH-Interim-Report-Final-2.pdf

Paulette Perhach, ‘A Story of a Fuck Off Fund’, The Billfold, 2016: https://www.thebillfold.com/2016/01/a-story-of-a-fuck-off-fund/

Hannah Whitfield, ‘The Friendship Wealth Gap: it’s a thing’, Expert Market: https://www.expertmarket.co.uk/focus/friendship-wealth-gap (this is no longer available, please see stylist article)

Kayleigh Dray, 'Friendship advice: 1 in 3 people 'cut' their friends from their life for this reason', Stylist, 2019: https://www.stylist.co.uk/life/friendship-wealth-gap-relationships-careers-money-finance-how-get-rich-change-personality/220098

Josy, ‘The 5 Different Money Personalities, Refined Currency, 2018: http://www.refinedcurrency.co.uk/2018/04/24/money-personalities/

Bryony Kimmings, ‘You show me yours…’, Bryony Kimmings, 2013: https://thebryonykimmings.tumblr.com/post/67660917680/you-show-me-yours

Martin Lewis, ‘10 Things Your Kids Need To Know’, 2018, ITV

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https://thefinancialdiet.com/

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@myfrugalyear
@thefinancialdiet
@bola_sol
@richgirlchronicles