Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined once again by photographer, ethical slut, and emotionally available king Matthew Kayman for a raw and wildly entertaining deep dive into threesomes, pegging, vasectomies, and how men can do better in sex and relationships.

We go deep about what it means to unlearn toxic masculinity and embrace a more present, consensual, and pleasure-focused approach to sex. Matt opens up about getting pegged for the first time, navigating group sex with intention, and why he chose to get a vasectomy—and how it’s impacted his confidence and partnerships.

We also unpack:

• Why pegging changed how he shows up as a top and partner

• Tips for navigating MFM threesomes with care and curiosity

• How to explore dominant and submissive roles without ego

• The mental and physical realities of getting a vasectomy (and why you should get one!)

• How to communicate during casual sex without killing the vibe

• Managing a sex-positive roster (with check-ins!)

• The difference between protective and possessive behavior

• Friendship with exes, emotional responsibility, and being a grown-ass slut

🎁 BONUS SCENE: Stick around for a surprise scene with Mario Cruz, recorded onboard the spicy Desire Cruise, where we talk about spooning, swinging, and everything in between.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with NYC-based photographer, ethical slut, and reformed cheater Matthew Kayman for an honest, reflective, and hilarious conversation about evolving from messy dating patterns to intentional, kink-informed, and transparent relationships.

We unpack his shift from monogamy to polyamory, navigating play parties, unlearning toxic masculinity, and figuring out how to explore power dynamics while remaining ethical and emotionally available.

✨ In this episode, we talk about:

• How Matthew realized he wasn’t dating ethically—and what changed that
• His transition into ethical non-monogamy and what it taught him about himself
• Tips for flirting, FaceTime pre-dates, and dating apps that don’t suck
• Power dynamics in dating, and how kink helped him explore both dom & sub roles
• Group sex, queer curiosity, and learning how to communicate mid-orgy
• Slutty shame, hot guy privilege, and navigating softness in hookup culture
• Why it’s not just about consent, but context and care
• Lessons from play parties, switching, and setting expectations with new partners

This is an episode about dating better—not perfectly, but with curiosity, compassion, and accountability.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by sex educator, performer, and self-proclaimed “dildo slinger” Dirty Lola (@dirtylola) for a raw and hilarious conversation about shame, sex, and self-acceptance.

From growing up in a naked household to navigating deep religious trauma, Lola shares the journey of becoming a fearless advocate for shameless pleasure and body confidence. We get into:

• Her early sex-positive explorations and yes—high school sex parties!

• The complex layers of body image, fatphobia, and family shame

• How shame shows up in our sex lives and what to do about it

• Why orgasms don’t equal worth, and how to stop performative sex

• What she’s learned about micropenises, penis shame, and making pleasure work for everyone

• How to start loving your body—even before it’s your “goal body”

• Tips on letting go of external validation and dressing for YOU

• Aging, menopause, and staying slutty at every stage of life

• How to be a better partner by showing up with kindness and compliments

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Catherine Drysdale—sex & relationship coach—who’s on a mission to help women and femmes unlearn the “good girl” scripts that keep them small, quiet, and out of touch with their desires.

We talk about:
• What “good girl conditioning” really means and how it shows up in our lives

• The difference between Good Girl Conditioning and being a "good girl" in a power dynamic• The pressure to be nice, palatable, and liked (and how that impacts our relationships and sex lives)• Why so many of us have trouble asking for what we want—especially in bed• The link between patriarchy and the fear of being “too much”• How to begin reclaiming your voice, your wants, and your power• Ways to get comfortable with discomfort, especially when it comes to setting boundaries• Rewriting your relationship with shame, worthiness, and sexual expression

This is a permission slip to take up space and live more fully, more loudly, and more authentically.

✨ At the end of the episode, we also chat about how this work spills into dating, communication, and how to support other women on the same journey.

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Thank you, Beducated, for sponsoring this episode and making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back onboard the Temptation Cruise!
In this episode, Alexa reconnects with Mario Cruz, Cruise Director for Temptation Cruises, to dive even deeper into what makes a lifestyle-friendly cruise such a unique, exciting, and welcoming experience.

Recorded live from the February 2025 sailing, we chat about:

• How Temptation Cruises create a safe, respectful, and fun environment for all guests
• Tips for first-timers: how to navigate nerves, set boundaries, and make connections
• Debunking common myths about swinger and lifestyle cruises
• Themed nights, play areas, workshops, and how to make the most of the onboard events
• How privacy and discretion are prioritized for every guest
• How these cruises can open doors to self-discovery and new adventures
• The difference between Temptation and Desire Cruises (and which might be a better fit for you!)
• Funny, surprising behind-the-scenes stories from working onboard

✨ PLUS: Alexa and Mario invite YOU to join the next Temptation Cruise this November 2025! Whether you're new to the lifestyle or just looking for a sexy, judgment-free vacation, this could be your next adventure.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Alex Fine, educator, activist, parent and founder of the pleasure-forward brand Dame, to talk about how to find the sex toy that actually works for you—and how to confidently use it, whether you're flying solo or playing with a partner.

Alex shares how Dame is redefining pleasure with intentional, inclusive design, and we get into how to move past shame, communicate your needs, and create sexy experiences that center your pleasure.

Whether you’re new to toys or looking to level up, we’ve got guidance on how to explore in ways that feel exciting, not overwhelming.

✨ In this episode, we cover:

• How to choose a toy based on your anatomy and what you like
• Tips for using toys with a partner without making it weird or performative
• How to bring up toys with a partner if they’re nervous or skeptical
• The difference between clitoral, vaginal, anal, and blended stimulation—and toys for each
• How to care for your toys so they last (and stay safe to use)
• Debunking myths like “you’ll get addicted to your vibrator”
• How Dame is shaking up the industry with body-safe, beautifully designed products
• The role of design in enhancing your pleasure and creating ease
• Masturbation as a form of self-connection and stress relief
• Why you don’t have to “fix” anything—pleasure isn’t a performance
• Suing the MTA so they could advertise on the subway

Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with bisexual writer, sex expert, and chaos king Zachary Zane for a juicy episode all about how to suck dick like a pro. Whether you’re a total beginner, looking to level up your skills, or just love talking about pleasure—we’ve got you covered.

Zach shares his most helpful tips, wildest stories, and hard-earned wisdom from both personal and professional experience. We talk technique, confidence, communication, and why good oral isn’t just about what your mouth is doing—but also how present, excited, and connected you are.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How to make oral feel incredible with your mouth and your whole body

• Deepthroating 101: tips, angles, breathing, and how to stay in control

• What makes a blowjob feel intimate (even when it’s casual)

• How to avoid jaw fatigue and still make it look/feel amazing

• Common mistakes people make when giving oral to penis-havers

• The power of eye contact, vocal feedback, and enthusiasm

• Communication tips—how to ask for direction without killing the mood

• The difference between porn blowjobs and what people actually want

• What to do if you're nervous, insecure, or don’t love giving oral (yet)

• How Zachary’s bisexuality influences his approach to pleasure

• The importance of mutual pleasure and making oral a two-way experience

This episode is informative, hot, and actually helpful—no shame, no judgment, just real talk about how to become a more generous, confident, and attuned lover.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with world-renowned sex educator and author Kenneth Play to talk all things oral sex on vulvas—techniques, mindset, communication, and pleasure-maximizing strategies. Known for his viral videos, global workshops, and author of Beyond Satisfied, Kenneth breaks down how anyone can become a more confident and skillful oral lover—no magic tongue required.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The most common mistakes people make when going down on someone

• How to build confidence if you feel awkward or unsure

• Kenneth’s signature “sex hacking” approach and why it works

• The anatomy of pleasure: why understanding the clitoris is essential

• Why going slow is underrated and how to read your partner’s body cues

• Communication tips that don’t kill the vibe

• Techniques for different sensations: flicking, sucking, pressure, and more

• How to involve your hands, body, and breath for maximum connection

• Tips for anyone struggling to orgasm from oral stimulation

• What Kenneth learned from working with thousands of vulva owners

• Busting myths about what “good oral” looks like

• How to prioritize pleasure over performance

• Kenneth’s top tips for becoming a more intuitive, generous lover

Whether you’re new to oral or want to refine your technique, this episode is full of real, actionable tips that can immediately change your sex life.

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Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-april 

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with writer and relationship expert Hayley Folk to talk about an unconventional but increasingly popular relationship setup: living separately from your partner. Why do some people thrive in separate spaces? What are the benefits and challenges? And is this a better setup for non-monogamous relationships?

We also dive into one of Hayley’s most viral Cosmopolitan articles—what to do with your ex’s nudes. Should you keep them? Delete them? Ask permission? And is it really wrong to revisit them from time to time?

Plus, we discuss what it’s like navigating relationships as a queer person, how queerness plays a role in her job and personal life, and why non-monogamy can feel so natural in queer spaces. Hayley also shares her experiences at sex parties—how they’ve helped her feel empowered as a woman and what she’s learned from attending them.

• Why more couples are choosing to live apart

• The pros and cons of maintaining separate spaces

• How non-monogamy fits into the equation

• How to set clear boundaries and expectations

• The debate around keeping your ex’s nudes—what’s ethical?

• How queerness plays into relationships, non-monogamy, and intimacy

• Hayley’s personal experiences at sex parties and why they make her feel empowered

• How past relationships shape how we handle intimacy

This episode is for anyone questioning traditional relationship norms and looking for fresh perspectives on love, space, queerness, and digital boundaries.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Miss Lauren to talk about how to take charge in the bedroom, tap into your confidence, and explore power dynamics in a way that feels fun and natural. Whether you’re looking to spice things up or just want to feel more in control, this episode is packed with practical tips and expert advice on owning your desires.

We cover:

• Why confidence is key—and how to build it in and out of the bedroom.

• Ways to take the lead in sex—without feeling awkward or forced.

• How to introduce power dynamics in a fun, flirty way—no whips or leather required.

• The psychology behind why some people love being told what to do—and how to use that to your advantage.

• Findom (financial domination) 101—what it is, how it works, and why it’s more common than you think.

• How to communicate what you want—and make sure your partner is on board.