Inner Bonding

In this episode, you will learn the true definition of personal responsibility beyond chores and rules, uncovering how your emotional regulation and intent shape your child’s behavior. You will discover why common patterns like blaming, people-pleasing, or avoiding conflict teach self-abandonment, and how shifting from control to an intent to learn creates genuine connection and safety.

You will also explore practical ways to respond when triggered, how to repair ruptures with accountability when you lose your temper, and how to set healthy boundaries with kindness. Finally, Dr. Margaret leads an experiential reflection to help you step into your Loving Adult and cultivate deep self-trust within your family.

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].

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Do you believe you can make someone else change? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul reveals why trying to control others backfires—and how shifting your intention from controlling to learning transforms your relationships from the inside out.

You'll learn why people resist being controlled, the false belief driving your urge to change others, and how covert control—like caretaking and compliance—can quietly damage your closest relationships.

Through real client stories, Brett and Teresa, you'll discover how to stop abandoning yourself, start loving your inner child, and find true relationship healing that begins with you.

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].

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In this episode, you’ll learn how self-neglect goes beyond ignoring physical needs. Discover how dismissing your emotions, staying silent, overgiving, remaining in unsafe situations, numbing out, and prioritizing others’ feelings can leave your inner child feeling alone and unimportant.

You’ll also learn how to develop your loving adult, listen to your feelings, honor your needs, set compassionate boundaries, and take loving action. Through self-compassion and Inner Bonding, you can stop recreating old pain and begin building self-trust, emotional safety, and genuine self-love.

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].

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Relationships are systems: when you change your part of the pattern, the whole dynamic can shift. Dr. Margaret Paul shares how moving from control and blame to learning, self-responsibility, and love can create healthier, more connected relationships.

In this episode, you’ll learn why recurring relationship conflicts are co-created systems—not simply one person’s fault. Discover common patterns such as pursuing and withdrawing, criticism and defensiveness, anger and resistance, and overgiving and demanding.

You’ll also learn practical Inner Bonding tools for interrupting reactive cycles: shifting your intention from control to learning, taking responsibility for your feelings, responding with compassion, and knowing when lovingly disengaging or making a decision about the relationship is necessary.

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].

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Many parents believe that protecting their children from every struggle is an act of love, but what if that protection is actually preventing them from becoming capable adults?

In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul clarifies why avoiding natural consequences and over-managing a child's life can lead to long-term patterns of entitlement, anxiety, and a lack of self-confidence. She explains the deep value of allowing children to experience failure while they are young, using the example of a ten-year-old struggling in school to illustrate the shift from a power struggle to personal responsibility. By understanding the difference between rescuing and supporting, you can learn to step back as a controller and step forward as a role model who demonstrates true self-respect and emotional health.

Tune in to this episode of the Inner Bonding podcast to learn more about how your intentions can shape your outcomes.

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].

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Control creates stress, while being open to learning creates safety. Control blocks connection, while learning invites it.

In today’s episode, Dr. Margaret Paul dives into the topic of intentions and how we can become more aware of the intentions we bring into our relationships. She highlights the two core intentions we can choose from—to control or to love—and how that choice shapes the quality of our connection with others.

She walks through how intentions show up in the way we communicate, how they impact our relationships, and why it’s important to be clear about whether we are seeking help, understanding, or simply compassion. Dr. Paul also explores the power of active listening and how it helps create the safety and openness that allow genuine connection to flourish.

Join Dr. Margaret Paul on the Inner Bonding podcast and discover how shifting your intention can transform the way you communicate, connect, and love.

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].

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The intention we choose in any given moment shapes everything that follows.

In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores how becoming aware of our intentions can transform the way we relate to ourselves, others, and the choices we make every day.

She unpacks the two core intentions in Inner Bonding: the intention to control and the intention to love. These intentions either strengthen the relationship between our loving adult, inner child, and spiritual guidance, or keep us operating from our wounded ego-self. Dr. Paul also reminds us that lasting healing cannot happen when the wounded self is in charge, because control and love lead us in very different directions.

Tune in to this episode of the Inner Bonding podcast to learn more about how your intentions can shape your outcomes.

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].

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Have you ever tried to explain yourself in a conflict — and the more you explained, the worse it got?

In this insightful and deeply practical episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores one of the most frustrating patterns in relationships: why explaining, defending, and justifying yourself rarely leads to understanding. She explains that when someone is operating from their wounded self, they are not in their logical upper brain. They are not available to hear you. And no amount of explaining will change that.

Dr. Paul walks through what is actually happening beneath the surface of relational conflict, what the other person is really asking for when they come at you with anger or blame, and how to shift from the urge to explain and control into the loving adult who can respond with presence, curiosity, and care. She shares practical examples of what this looks like in real moments including how to comment on intent rather than content, how to actively listen, and how to take a sacred pause when your wounded self is ready to defend.

Come explore a more loving and effective way of navigating conflict in the Inner Bonding podcast. 

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].

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Have you ever found yourself asking: why can't I get it together? Why am I struggling so much when others seem fine?

In this grounding and compassionate episode, Dr. Margaret Paul offers a profound reframe for anyone who has ever felt like a mess. What you are likely experiencing is not a personal failure, but a nervous system dysregulation. And understanding what that means, where it comes from, and how to respond to it with love rather than judgment can begin to change everything.

Dr. Paul explains how the nervous system constantly scans for safety or danger, how childhood environments shape the survival patterns we still carry into adulthood, and why self-judgment only deepens dysregulation rather than resolving it. She also shares practical tools for nervous system regulation, including vagal breathing, EFT, EMDR, and somatic experiencing, and offers a gentle guided moment to help you connect with your inner child right now.

Come explore a kinder, more compassionate way of understanding yourself in Why Am I Such a Mess? Understanding Nervous System Dysregulation.

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].

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What if the most important form of self-care has nothing to do with bubble baths or vacations?

In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores one of the most overlooked dimensions of true self-care: learning to validate yourself. While external self-care has its place, she explains that no amount of outside validation from a partner, a parent, a boss, or social media can heal the wound of self-invalidation. That healing only happens from the inside.

Dr. Paul walks through why so many people grow up dependent on others to reflect their worth, what self-validation actually means (and what it does not), and how learning to see, hear, and honor your own inner experience transforms not just your relationship with yourself but with everyone around you. She shares practical ways to begin practicing self-validation, including how to name your feelings with compassion, mirror your soul's qualities back to yourself, and stop outsourcing your emotional authority to others.

Come explore the deeper meaning of self-care in Self-Care: How to Validate Yourself and begin building the kind of inner safety that no one else can take away.

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].

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