I'm back, y'all and SO much has happened since the last time we talked. In this episode, I'm sharing the updated science of attraction and influence and breaking down the PIES method: the four pillars that change the way you show up in every area of your life.

PIES stands for Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual, and each pillar has four specific inputs that you can control. These aren't about looking a certain way or performing for other people. They're about building the kind of embodied confidence that people notice when you walk into a room.
In this episode, I'm diving into all 16 inputs across the four pillars, busting some myths from the self-help world that keep people stuck, and sharing the personal experiences (including finishing my PhD!) that sparked a renewed vision for this work.

Oh, and I'm officially Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes now. 🎓

🔗 Take the free PIES assessment to see your inputs, outputs, and where your biggest area for growth is: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment

In this episode, I cover:
The PIES method explained
The 4 inputs for Physical attraction & influence
The 4 inputs for Intellectual attraction & influence
The 4 inputs for Emotional attraction & influence
The 4 inputs for Spiritual attraction & influence
How to see where you're at risk for burnout
The free PIES assessment

This is the first episode of The Way You Show Up — a podcast and YouTube series all about the science of attraction and influence, and how focusing on these four pillars changes the way you show up at work, at home, in your marriage, in your parenting, and beyond.
New episodes every week. Subscribe so you don't miss one!

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

A year ago, I stopped. 

I stopped doing one of the things I loved the most. 

I stopped because I was overwhelmed. 
I stopped because I was chronically burnt out. 
I stopped because I started doubting my purpose. 

It felt like a wise and mature decision at the time. 
Maybe it was 

But what I slowly began to realize was that I stopped doing the thing that, when it came to my work, was one of the most life-giving. 

Now, it's back. 

But better. 

For ten years, I’ve loved talking about the PIES because it changed my life. 
I was depressed. Stuck. Anxious. Overworked. 
My marriage was in shambles. 
I had no friends. 
I felt lost. 

The PIES method allowed me to focus on becoming my best physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually and focusing on what I could control. 

Me. 

And it changed my focus. It changed my energy. It changed me. 

And over the past year, as I've finished my PhD (freaking finally!) I've realized that the PIES is even more powerful than I originally thought. 

We're going to be talking about confidence, clarity, influence, and how what you do impacts the way you show up to those around you... 

...and we're going to be doing it together with a new podcast, new title, and new content.

Same PIES. 
Revamped. 
Reimagined. 
Redefined. 

Can't wait to go along this journey with you. 

Stay strong, 
Dr. Kimberly

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Meredith Ball, a licensed professional counselor dedicated to healing trauma, joins us to unravel the intricate web of trauma's impact on our lives. In this episode, Meredith opens up about her own journey and sheds light on how trauma affects the brain, the underestimated power of neuroplasticity, and the generational gaps in acknowledging these wounds.

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Want to unlock your potential? Discover how to study smarter and retain more information with expert insights from Dr. Dan Willingham! Tune in now and transform your learning experience!

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Is there actually a difference in the way men and women process emotions? Find out on today’s episode!

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Feeling unattractive? You're not alone! Discover 10 uplifting strategies to reclaim your self-worth and feel fabulous again! Tune in to our latest episode and transform your outlook! What's your go-to feel-good strategy?

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Discover the 5 step method we use to improve communication. Not only does this help with communication between us as spouses, but it can also be used in conversations with friends, family, coworkers, and everyone in between!

Let’s dive in to this week’s episode!

Links to SMART Communication Episode:
Episode 1
Episode 2

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Understanding how to set meaningful goals can transform your self-esteem and overall happiness. This episode emphasizes the importance of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, exploring self-concordant goals that resonate with individual desires over societal expectations.

• Discussing personal motivations behind goals 
• Highlighting the concept of self-concordance 
• Distinguishing between intrinsic and extrinsic motivations 
• Introducing the PIES framework for holistic goal-setting 
• Importance of setting achievable and stretch goals 
• Exploring the need for self-compassion in goal pursuit 
• Opening the door for future personal growth and achievement

Let’s dive in!

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

In this episode, we're diving deep into the truth about weight loss and fat loss, and sharing some of the most important lessons we've learned on our journey. We're going to be talking about our experiences with different diets, including whole 30, and how we've discovered the key to making sustainable changes that actually work.

We'll also be sharing our personal journey and the changes that we've made to improve our overall health and fitness. Plus, we'll give some tips on how to stay consistent with your goals and not get discouraged when the scale doesn't show the results you expect.

If you're looking to finally lose weight and keep it off, this video is for you! Be sure to like this video, subscribe for more content, and let us know in the comments what your goals are for the new year. Let's do this together!

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

One of my favorite weeks of the year every year is the week between Christmas and New Years. I sit down and reflect on the last year and plan out my goals and dreams for the new year.

In this episode, I’ll guide you through how to set attainable goals. Let’s go into the new year striving to be the best versions of ourselves… Let’s dive in!

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes