The tension of being a parent educator WHILE IN THE EXPERIENCE of parentingParenting for the long term…Keeping in mind brain developmentMistakes are opportunities for learningEveryone should have a voiceRelationship mattersKindness, firmness and trustBumps up against the mainstream idea of reward/punishment modelMy own experience of punishment/consequences as a teenNoticing the societal pressure of “she should pay for her mistakes” while also noticing that we have a really good relationship and are exploring her choices togetherAll we can do is increase the likelihood that our children will grow to be responsible, respectful members of societyIn the process of learning to make choices, our children will make bad choicesI know I am not alone in this rubWe want our children to feel as though we are our safe harborSurrender is so complex… or maybe just the depth is profoundGRACE: workshop for women through boldlyembodylife.comIf trust is our intention, then we have to start with trusting ourselvesWe then can evoke trust in our relationshipsThen our teens can lean into trusting themselves (and getting it wrong sometimes)The design of the universe is bigger than me, bigger than my child, and we are all going to be okay – might as well trust that God has our backTrusting what I don’t know, what I can’t know, what I am still on the path to understandingFear grips the inside of my body, my energy tightens up – shorter breath, tight belly“When fear is present, the teacher is in the room.” – Krista Petty RaimerEvents/ experiences are an invitation for me to evoke what I want more of in my relationship with my daughterNeutral/ Think Tree – feeling our feet, grounding into our body, top of our body is open, flexible, availableFinding neutral is not about the absence of anything, but about the availability of everything (thank you Mary Jo!)Neutral allows space for relationship with our childrenThe most powerful tool we have for influencing the behavior is the relationship we cultivate and nurture with them.Lisa Damour – swimming pool analogy
There is flow and impermanence to the cycles of connection/disconnection that show upFind your people that are going through similar experience and hold a similar parenting style to share raw and vulnerablyWe are practicing all the time – either our auto pilot OR something new and differentBeing intentional allows us to GENERATE more of what we want into our life!
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