Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

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Today’s guest is Jennifer Griffin. Jennifer is the mother of four, has her masters in counseling psychology with 30 years of experience guiding children and adults on their relationship journeys. Jennifer is a DIY maven, specializing in leading individuals to uncover the messages in their chronic health conditions and their children’s challenging behaviors. Join us! 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-Simple, yet powerful techniques to heal at home

-Taking back your power after trauma

-What is EMDR and how can it help you heal?

- How our kids behaviors can mirror our own unexpressed feelings and frustrations

-How acting out can relate to our own inner struggles

- The iceberg of behavior and how that relates to our children’s behavior and the way they channel their parents frustrations

- Resisting the urge to “fix”

- Understanding generational patterns

- The role of balancing chakras in your child’s behavior

-How claiming our authenticity and expressing our emotions can change how our kids express themselves through their behavior

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Well, in terms of this process of discovering channeling, it means to go forward with joy and courage, not guilt. Celebrate it, embrace it, as I talked about before, grab your partner, grab someone when your kid is having a fit and say “This is what I’m thinking and I’m thinking this and maybe this and I felt this” and try to go through all the different ideas that might be going on and depending on the relationship with your child, some parents choose to share this dynamic with their child and other parents don’t. It can be very powerful that if your child knows this is going on, they can, Arcata now can come to us after she’s knitting or reading a book on tape in her room and say, “I’m really mad out of nowhere, like I was completely happy, I love the book I’m listening to, something’s not right with dad, and will you call him and ask him what?” She’ll say, “I’m really mad or I really hate this” and she’s like, “and I don’t know why.”

So I would just say, it’s fun, it is fun, it’s a different kind of fun than a lot of people might be used to but it’s fascinating, it’s absolutely fascinating when you start taking this perspective. I mean, it’s hard for me to, I mean, I go out and talk to people, I’ll be at a cocktail party or something and someone’s kid, and I’ll say something and then I’m like, “Hmmmm” and I’ll watch the person’s reaction and I don’t think they’re very happy with something I’ve said and their kid will come up and start tugging at them and be like, “I want to go! I want to go right now! I want to leave!” I was right about that. It’s hard for me not to see once you wake up into this way of viewing the world it’s really quite fascinating. So, meet it with joyful courage.

Resources:

Channeling Questionnaire
Embracing your child’s tantrums as a gift - Elephant Journal article 

Where to find:
Understanding Morning Sickness as a Gift
Understanding Your Child as a Spiritual Gift

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Solo show – sharing from personal experience

Recap what is happening with my teenager

What the stats say

Why it’s so hard

PD is belonging and significance

The iceberg

The range….

Enmeshment/codependency

Getting spiritual

Acknowledging my controlling tendencies and the message it sends

Letting go/backing off

Having a plan (with school) about what I will and won’t do with a request

Treatment

I say this to you and to myself. We will get to the other side of this, my friends. And only we get to decide if we get to GO through this time of our lives, or if we GROW through it.

Thank you to all of you parents of teens, those of you who are personal friends who have been brave enough to be in conversation with me, clients, listeners – you are not alone.

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Solo show – sharing from personal experience

Recap what is happening with my teenager

• If you listened last year, you heard the struggle

• Online school

• Clients I’ve worked with

• Friends confiding in their experience

What the stats say

• My experience of finding information

• What my gut tells me

• The ways the world has changed

Why it’s so hard

• Weight of fear/possible outcomes

• Lack of control

• Our own stories

PD is belonging and significance

• Power of perception

• What do we do when something feels “wrong” without giving message that they need to be fixed

• The challenge of meeting them where they’re at

  • My experience with this….

  • Not knowing what this means

  • The dance of acting/fixing vs validating/being

The iceberg

• Tip of the iceberg

  • They won’t talk, can’t identify what’s “wrong”, tears, withdrawal, aggression/defiance/anger, shut us out

  • Grades/friends/activities

  • Bad after school special

• Under the surface

  • Hopelessness/fear/not know what or how they are feeling

  • Feelings of disconnection

  • Out of control

  • Anxiety/depression

The range….

• Not all or nothing

• Grey areas

• Our own beliefs about mental health

  • My experience, looking back I was afraid to call it what it was because it made it true

  • My upbringing of not using things (family drama) as a “crutch” messaging

Enmeshment/codependency

• I am going to get really vulnerable and highlight something that I see showing up because of the dynamics that are currently alive in my family

• My experience with needing approval – give me the gold star, tell me how great I am

• Wanting it from my family, especially my dad and step mom

• Now noticing that I am searching for it from my daughter

• NO BUENO

Getting spiritual

• Carolyn Myss

• My experience of energy work in the context of my relationship with Rowan

• Life happens for us, so…. This is an experience that is happening for me? For Rowie? 

Acknowledging my controlling tendencies and the message it sends

Letting go/backing off

Having a plan (with school) about what I will and won’t do with a request

Treatment

• Counseling, naturopath, energy work – this is what WE are doing

• You do you. Make choices for your kids.

• Listen to your kids. Listen deeply. Hear without fixing

• Ask permission

• Give them space and trust they will come to you

• Don’t be afraid to go big if things feel really off

• Ask hard questions

• GET SUPPORT

• TALK TO EACH OTHER

• Quit dismissing teens by saying “everyone feels that way” because even if it’s true this is not what they need to hear – they NEED to feel seen and heard

• Check your expectations at the door, accept that this is a part of your parenting story

• Take care of yourself

• Check your codependency

• GET HELP – if your gut tells you that what is happening with your child is extreme, seek help.

I say this to you and to myself. We will get to the other side of this, my friends. And only we get to decide if we get to GO through this time of our lives, or if we GROW through it.

Thank you to all of you parents of teens, those of you who are personal friends who have been brave enough to be in conversation with me, clients, listeners – you are not alone.

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Today’s guest is Debrena Jackson Gandy, a best-selling author of three books, a keynote speaker, a world traveler, a transformational coach, a thought-leader, a sacred self care expert, relationship coach, founder of Juicy Woman University and The Love Academy. We are discussing creating juicy lives for ourselves. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-Pampering the mind, body and the spirit

-The nourishment of the spirit and why it matters

-Why the first 9 years of life are so important to our beliefs

-Getting past our own default mode

-The guilt that comes from tending to self and martyrdom

-When you feel bad about being good to self

-The Sacred Self-Caring lifestyle vs. the lifestyle we inherit through default

-Satisfaction, joy, ease, peace and flow: how to find it

-Finding a new default for sacred self-care

-The difference between the being and the doing - and the exhaustion that comes from all the doing

-Division of responsibility for children within the home between parents - joint responsibility

-How mothering behavior can block fathering and shared parenting

-Being the architect of our own lives

-When your “thought ware” isn’t aligned with being the architect of your own life

-Baby steps to getting back into alignment

-Debugging our programming

-How beliefs impact attraction

-The path to transformation

-Getting curious about beliefs to make changes

-Morning rituals for prayer and meditation

-Discerning God’s voice from your inner self talk

-The importance of asking in prayer

-Understanding our own greatness and how that impacts our ability to live our birthright

Resources:

Free Gifts from Debrena’s websiteDebrena’s books, courses and more

Where to find:

Website | Facebook | Twitter  | Youtube

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Today’s guest is Debrena Jackson Gandy, a best-selling author of three books, a keynote speaker, a world traveler, a transformational coach, a thought-leader, a sacred self care expert, relationship coach, founder of Juicy Woman University and The Love Academy. We are discussing creating juicy lives for ourselves. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-Pampering the mind, body and the spirit

-The nourishment of the spirit and why it matters

-Why the first 9 years of life are so important to our beliefs

-Getting past our own default mode

-The guilt that comes from tending to self and martyrdom

-When you feel bad about being good to self

-The Sacred Self-Caring lifestyle vs. the lifestyle we inherit through default

-Satisfaction, joy, ease, peace and flow: how to find it

-Finding a new default for sacred self-care

-The difference between the being and the doing - and the exhaustion that comes from all the doing

-Division of responsibility for children within the home between parents - joint responsibility

-How mothering behavior can block fathering and shared parenting

-Being the architect of our own lives

-When your “thought ware” isn’t aligned with being the architect of your own life

-Baby steps to getting back into alignment

-Debugging our programming

-How beliefs impact attraction

-The path to transformation

-Getting curious about beliefs to make changes

-Morning rituals for prayer and meditation

-Discerning God’s voice from your inner self talk

-The importance of asking in prayer

-Understanding our own greatness and how that impacts our ability to live our birthright

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

 “It means living a life based in truth, and unfortunately, to live truthfully and to speak truthfully in this American culture is seen as something as so courageous and it really shouldn’t have to be lauded as a courageous act to be living as a real person. And unfortunately it gets so many applause, “Oh you’re so courageous to say that, oh you’re so courageous to do that, oh you’re so courageous to speak that” and it’s really just called being truthful.  And so joyful courage is really just living in our naturally truthful selves and because we’re short on truth right about now, even more so in our country then it lets us know we are living away from and in contradiction to our natural selves which our natural selves are truthful.

So if we’re just our natural selves, truthful is the way we operate. So, a joyfully courageous woman has just remembered who she is and shed the false, poisonous, faulty beliefs about who she is, which are really lies, and she’s just living in the natural beauty, power and influence that is consistent with her divine design.”

Resources:

Free Gifts from Debrena’s website
Debrena’s books, courses and more

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Returning to the practice

What Positive Discipline is to me….

 What I have learned over time

What it means to have a practice

Things to keep in mind

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Returning to the practice

What Positive Discipline is to me….

• Belong significance
• Iceberg
• Encouragement
• Kind and firm
• Presence/seeing/listening

 What I have learned over time

• My own beliefs get in the way
• Fear manifests as control and rigidity
• Trust is the theme of my life

What it means to have a practice

• Taking care of me
• Exploring worthiness
• Developing intention
• Modeling what I want
• Returning to the basics
• Check assumptions
• Read and learn about development!
  • What speaks to you???
  • So many people and programs…. What/who makes sense to you? Where do you feel seen?

Things to keep in mind

• There is no perfect
• Spirituality/energetics matter – this is bigger than me
• Its messy, not formulaic
• Blame serves no one
• There is no end point
• Finding a sense of peace inside of the chaos is life goals
• Comparing is not useful – ever

You are the parent your child picked, not because you are perfect, but because you are you. Parenting is an opportunity to heal old wounds, to mend relationships, and grow as an individual, if you let it be

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The power and momentum of learning inside of a like-minded community, a safe space where you can stretch, share authentically, and show up vulnerably is hard to quantify. The Joyful Courage Academy was created to be that place for you. It is a deep dive into the work of becoming ever more conscious and intentional as you bump up against the challenges of raising your kids.

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Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

Daily Intention Cards

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Today’s guest is Kim Muench. She is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us!

"I want to help shift the consciousness of the way that we’re parenting, especially our teenagers.”

“We want to give them opportunities and choices. But you absolutely have to have some boundaries and structure in place.”

“What do we stand for? What do we value? What do we try to instill in our kids?”

“You cannot give what you do not have.” 

“These bumps is where we grow character.”

“You can be right or you can be in relationship."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-When children arrive at adolescence

- The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens

- Choosing your battles

- Defining your family values

- Setting an example for your kids

- Defining non-negotiables

- Ways to offer choices to your teenager

- Detaching from the outcome

- Prioritizing personal care and personal development

- The illusion of control

- Individuation and what that can look like

- Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol

- Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer

- Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach

- Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids

Resources:

Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones

Where to find:

Website

Facebook

Twitter

Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community 

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Today’s guest is Kim Muench. She is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us!

"I want to help shift the consciousness of the way that we’re parenting, especially our teenagers.”

“We want to give them opportunities and choices. But you absolutely have to have some boundaries and structure in place.”

“What do we stand for? What do we value? What do we try to instill in our kids?”

“You cannot give what you do not have.”  

“These bumps is where we grow character.”

“You can be right or you can be in relationship."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-When children arrive at adolescence

- The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens

- Choosing your battles

- Defining your family values

- Setting an example for your kids

- Defining non-negotiables

- Ways to offer choices to your teenager

- Detaching from the outcome

- Prioritizing personal care and personal development

- The illusion of control

- Individuation and what that can look like

- Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol

- Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer

- Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach

- Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage means to me enthusiastically embracing and supporting the journey of our sons and daughters that have come into the world to live out their journey. Supporting and encouraging them with enthusiasm. And I love the two words together, I think it’s fantastic.

Resources:

Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones

Where to find:

Website

Facebook

Twitter

Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community

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Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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SOLO SHOW!!

Woohoo – how is YOUR back to school? This episode acknowledges what we are all going through as we support our kids and ourselves in coming back to a back to school routine.

I know, it is hard to shake off the summer. But that is what is happening. I share about my own experience with sending off two kids to two very different school settings, and what is coming up for me as they navigate the transition.

And the navigation is still VERY MUCH ALIVE!!

 I mention tools and strategies for finding peace and flow, or at least dull the roar of making this shift, and I am so happy you are listening in!!

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