In this episode, Steve and I talk about something I think a lot of couples quietly go through: when the load of life becomes so heavy that it starts impacting the relationship.

Not because love is gone or because anyone’s doing something terribly wrong.
But because one person is overloaded, stretched thin, carrying too much and the relationship starts feeling the weight of it too.

I share honestly about missing Steve recently, even while living in the same house. Missing the connection, the fun, the softness, the smooshiness of us. And how easy it can be, when one person is overwhelmed, for the other person to take it personally and create even more tension in the dynamic.

Because when your needs aren’t being met, it hurts. But sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is recognise that your partner is drowning under the weight of life, and stop making their overwhelm about your rejection.

We also speak about how unsustainable it is to carry too much for too long. Because if the overloaded person doesn’t deload, eventually something gives. Their health. Their nervous system. Their joy. The relationship.

This is a conversation about perspective, compassion, communication, and recognising when life is simply asking too much of someone for too long.

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