Podcast Notes Key Takeaways

• The three keys to peaceful parenting:
  • Regulate your own emotions
    • “Our ability to self-regulate might have the biggest impact on who our child turns out to be compared to anything else we do”
  • Connect with your kids
  • Coach instead of punish
• When your child has an outburst:
  • Take a deep breath and acknowledge your own feelings
  • Remind yourself there’s no urgency
  • Remind yourself that the child is just experiencing a feeling and it’s not permanent
  • Remind yourself that the child is actually allowed to have feelings
  • Just be curious – you don’t have to jump in with a solution
• A great way to think about parenting:
  • Think of it as functioning it from a place of where you’re the leader, leading from the heart with compassion, all the while supporting your child to be their best self
• All kids need the same things from their parents:
  • To know they’re acceptable exactly as they are
  • To know that no matter what, their parents will be there to help them, take care of them, protect them, give them food and shelter, and emotional/physical love
  • To be delighted in
• Consider that the next time your partner comes to you with a problem, maybe they don’t want a solution – perhaps they just want someone to listen to them and someone to vent to
• If possible, try to work out your conflicts with your spouse/partner in front of the child…peacefully of course
  • This allows the child to see how conflict should be handled and mitigated
• Spend more time in nature
• Kids should be waking up on their own, without an alarm clock, and without you waking them up
  • If they aren’t, they’re not getting enough sleep

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Parenting expert and multiple best-selling author Dr. Laura Markham breaks down the three keys to successful discipline, how to properly model emotions and conflict resolution, and the coveted recipe for raising happy, resilient kids.

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