Podcast Notes Key Takeaways

• Conscious leaders are self-aware enough to identify when they’re above or below the “black line”
  • When you’re above the line, you’re open, curious, trusting, and committed to learning
  • When you’re below the line, you’re defensive and attached to proving you’re right
• To increase your self-awareness:
  • Become more self-reflective – practice pausing, quieting the mind, and turning attention back on itself 
  • Create a feedback-rich environment where you’re constantly getting feedback
• After receiving feedback:
  • Do NOT ask yourself – “Isthis feedback true?”
  • DO ask – “Howis this feedback true?”
• “Underneath these incredibly driven and successful people is a scared little 5-year-old kid who is terrified”
  • For many type As, fear is a driving motivator 
  • Just know – “The antidote to fear is not courage, the antidote to fear is acceptance”
    • Until you can give love and acceptance to the scared 5-year-old inside of you, they won’t stop controlling your life
• Making clear agreements is important for allowing teams and relationships to thrive
  • Each agreement needs to answer the question – Who will do what by when?
  • In addition –Only make agreements that you have a whole body “yes” to
  • “All drama in relationships, personal and professional, is caused by unaligned commitments, or unclear/unkept agreements”
• Many people avoid conflicts in their intimate relationships not out of fear of hurting their partner, but more so because they don’t want to live with the consequences of dong so
• Live in creative consciousness, not victim consciousness
  • Victim consciousness = Living from the belief that life is happening to you (you’re at the effect of people, circumstances, conditions)
  • Creative consciousness = YOU are responsible for your emotions and experiences
• On Emotional Intelligence:
  • If you don’t feed the what you’re feeling with more thoughts, the energy (the feeling) will exit the body in <90 seconds
  • If you don’t allow the feeling to pass through you it calcifies and turns into a mood (i.e., anger turning into bitterness, resentment, and hatred)
• If you spot it, you got it
  • “If you were willing to eat the projection and internalize how the things you’re complaining about in relation to others are true about you, you’d increase your learning agility exponentially”
  • “If you really want to grow in self-awareness, eat your projections”

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Jim Dethmer, founder of The Conscious Leadership Group shares practical advice about becoming more self-aware, ditching the victim mindset, and connecting more fully with the people in our lives. 

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