Leadership Chemistry

There's this pervasive belief that more always equals better. In a study (you know I love my studies) done out of the University of Virginia, participants almost unanimously added items, steps, and ideas when told to improve something, and did the opposite when told to make things worse. Somehow we've grown to see "simple" as a bad thing. But in my experience, so many things can be improved when we opt to streamline and simplify, rather than over-complicate. As coaches, it's a powerful idea to keep in mind—people have limited time and energy, and if we look to take things away rather than adding too much to our clients' plates, we may see far greater change.

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It's been a minute since I've had a guest on the pod, so I'm more than a little excited to have Kaycee Thompson on Take Care today. Kaycee isn't a coach, but she has an expertise I think we can all benefit from—Kaycee is a therapist. Just like so many people in the coaching industry, Kaycee always wanted to be in the industry of helping people, and with a rise in mental illness occurring on a large scale, its our job to be there for our clients during the highs and lows of their lives. Coaching our clients through change isn't always simple, but we can stay curious and stay genuine, we can help make a meaningful impact in their lives, no matter where they land in the Cycle of Change.

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So many of our struggles in life come from a lack of certainty—in who we are, and what we want. Clarity allows us to move forward with purpose and conviction, and one of my favorite tools to achieve clarity in life is creating your Honor Code. An honor code is your set of guiding principles, a road map for when life gets chaotic and we're not sure which step to take next. You Honor Code leads us to being the person we want to become, and having the life we want. If you're not sure how to get where you want to go, tune in to this episode and create your own Honor Code to consult in all of your life choices.

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One truth about life is that everything is always changing; we'll never be in the same moment twice. Change can be many things—good, bad, and in-between—but when we resist change, we start to run into problems. In every moment we have a choice: we can react, or we can respond. Life needs a thoughtful, deliberate approach and when we choose to respond calmly rather than flying into a reactionary rage, it makes us better coaches, clinicians, managers. With the 4P's, you can practice your responding so the next time something comes up, you'll be ready.

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I've wanted to do this episode for a while now, all about my entire coaching framework. This is something I've developed over thousands of hours spent researching, reading, and coaching and I believe that if you can operate with this method, you will help people perform at a higher level, comply better, and get better results. There are 3 components to this philosophy and you can use it in any leadership role in your life, be it coaching, managing, in your personal relationships, and everything in between.

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Today's pod is a quick one, but I wanted to share a method I use both personally and clinically. It's a tool with benefits across the board—it improves mood, lowers feelings of depression and anxiety, improves physical metrics like blood pressure and immune function, and even improves relationships, memory, and career success. Must be pretty complex to have all those benefits, right? It's actually incredibly simple: just writing for 20 minutes every day. Use it for yourself, recommend it to your clients, and get ready to feel the immediate impact.

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As a coach, you'll tend to fall into one of two categories: the Drill Sergeant or the Cheerleader. As listeners of this podcast, you're most likely the Cheerleader—I am too! Positivity is an effective way to help our clients make change, but there is such a thing as giving too much praise, and that's where most Cheerleader Coaches can go wrong. It comes from a good place: not wanting to hurt feelings, pass judgements, or deal with conflict and discomfort. But if everything is all-good all the time, our clients can start to second guess the truthfulness behind your coaching, and break the trust you've worked so hard to build. There's nothing wrong with being the Cheerleader—you still can be!—but there's a way to give feedback and be direct without straining the client-coach relationship.

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My siblings recently called me out for being a "people pleaser" and while my first instinct was to deny it vehemently, that defensiveness was a sign for me to investigate why they might think that. Sure, I'm a sensitive and caring guy, but people pleasers are known for putting everyone else's needs above their own, and I don't want to be that person. It's been shown that people pleasing leads to increased anxiety, burnout, codependency, feelings of powerlessness… the list goes on. So if you're a people pleaser too, and you don't want to be, I'm sharing 3 reframes we can all use to feel more control in our lives and remember that it's okay to put ourselves first.

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This episode is more geared towards my health and fitness pros out there, but it's something everyone could learn from. There's a lot of talk in the world about words like "lean" and "healthy" and whether or not those descriptors promote body shaming. And while that seems a little ridiculous at first, as health is something that can be objectively measured, it's an important topic to be discussed. By now you know that shame is one of the least motivating factors for lasting change, and as health and fitness professionals, we want to be able to coach our clients to their best, healthiest selves and stay that way. Is that possible to do without body shaming?

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There's a phenomena that occurs whenever we learn something new, where once we've learned something, we can't un-know it. Not only that, but we have a hard time remember what it felt like not to know it at all. As coaches and leaders, this leads us to a big problem—we need this knowledge and expertise to help our clients, but we can't always get our message across in a way that lasts. If you want to impact your clients' behavior in a meaningful way, you have to speak their language and understand how to communicate your ideas so they actually stick.

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