Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast

You may not find it surprising but we talk about non-monogamy, relationships, sex and related topics A LOT, especially when we are driving or travelling.

We were having one such conversation recently and decided to record it as we felt our listeners would find it helpful to hear as we work through and discuss a situation that arose for us personally around possible STI exposure and how we might handle sharing how we feel about upcoming plans with friends.

In this episode we cover:

• The importance of regular testing and how often we get tested.
• What you need to test for.
• How you can contract certain STIs and how to reduce your risk.
• The science behind testing frequency and the incubation periods for some common STIs
• The concept of acceptable risk as it relates to sexual activities.
• How to incorporate sexual health and STI testing into your relationship agreements.
• How to share your personal boundaries around testing and agreements with possible partners.

We encourage you to do your own research, inform yourself, talk to your doctor, talk to your partners and figure out what’s right for you!

And as we asked during the podcast are these things you’ve considered and/or has this podcast changed what you think about wanting to be non-monogamous or in the lifestyle? Let us know in the comments!

Show Resources:

• Black Friday Poly Newbies Digital Course Offer at $27 for 6 months of access - ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesblackfriday⁠
• Health Line article on STI incubation periods - https://www.healthline.com/health/how-long-does-it-take-for-std-to-show-up 
• Understanding Risk By Sex Act - CATIE - https://www.catie.ca/safer-sex-guide/understanding-risk-by-sex-act 
• T&A Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/taraandandre/⁠ 
• Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail .com 
• Struggling and need support? Reach out and book a free call with us: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠ 
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠ 
• Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠⁠https://taraandandre.com/ 

Talking to kids about topics like non-monogamy, sex, intimacy, kink and relationships can sometimes  feel daunting parents. It's easy to worry about saying the wrong thing, making things awkward, or just plain messing it up. 

In this episode, we sit down with sexuality educator Ms. Ashley Robertson for a deep dive into guiding these conversations with kids of all ages—from toddlers to teens and beyond!

Together, we share practical tips, advice, and recommended approaches for discussing these topics at every stage. We cover what the focus should be, how to approach these subjects, which words to use, and even how long these conversations should go.

We also discuss what not to say, how to avoid oversharing, and ways to build a “scaffold” of knowledge that helps your kids climb layer by layer without falling off.

We touch on essentials like when and how to introduce non-monogamy and partners to kids, what to say if a partner is no longer in your life, and how to manage those moments when kids bring up people from your past that you’d rather forget. And we explore concepts like “chosen family,” the “onion” and “buffet” analogies, being an “askable adult,” consent and how kids are “bystanders”, the “skipping stones” strategy for teens and more!

Plus, we answer questions from our Let’s Talk Polyamory community. 

And… spoiler alert ...a lot of these tips are great for adult conversations, too!

Tune in for practical advice, a few laughs, and all the insights you need to make these talks a little less intimidating and a lot more meaningful!

You’re going to love it!

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In this two-part series we take a deep dive into one of the most essential—and sometimes challenging—aspects of relationships: TRUST!  

Recently many our the Let's Talk Polyamory private Facebook group and in our individual coaching and therapy practices have raised TRUST as an issue they are currently facing in their relationships. 

For some it is because of a specific situation that occurred, like a betrayal, while for others, the issue of trust goes a bit deeper and stems from past experiences in relationships with previous partners, friends or family.

In this special series we explore the ins and outs of building, maintaining, and restoring trust, whether in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships.

In Part 1 we cover:

In Part 2, we will tackle the tough topic of rebuilding trust after it’s been lost. 

Whether you’re looking to set up a rock-solid foundation or need tools to heal from trust setbacks in your relationship or yourself, this series has you covered. 

This is the perfect starting point  for anyone navigating trust challenges and looking for practical, compassionate advice to create more secure, resilient relationships.

Comment with your stories of trust or loss of trust and if this episode resonated with you!

Please 💖comment, ✅subscribe, ➡️share and 📝write a review so others can find us! We really appreciate it!

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Sex... we love it, we want it, and, for many, it is part of our "why" behind being consensually non-monogamous in the first place.  

Having said that, if we've been intimate, or in a relationship, with someone for a longer period of time, things can sometimes feel a little stale. 

At the same time, the ⚡️New Relationship Energy (NRE) we may be experiencing with others we are in relationships with might feel exciting and super 🔥hot!

In this episode we talk about the 69 Ways to Amplify Your Sex Life with Your Partners! 

Ok.. so maybe not quite 69, but there are 5 main areas (with lots of sexy suggestions under each) which will support you increasing DESIRE in ALL your relationships:

As part of this cover topics like responsive desire, dirty talking, disentanglement, Sensate Focus and more!

Join us at the 💋Toronto Taboo: Everyhing To Do With Sex Show - October 18-20, 2024. We are giving away passes - enter to win via the link below ⬇️

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Welcome to Season 2 of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast! We are kicking things off with a hotly debated topic: Can Mono-Poly Relationships Really Work? 

What happens when one partner is monogamous while the other embraces polyamory? Are these relationships destined for failure, or can they actually thrive?

Mono-Poly relationships come with unique challenges—navigating asymmetrical freedoms (where one partner has multiple emotional and/or sexual relationships and the other doesn’t), balancing time and attention, and dealing with jealousy and insecurity. In this episode, we break down these common struggles, discuss why people might choose this dynamic, and tackle some of the biggest misconceptions.

We also share actionable strategies for making these relationships work—like mastering open communication, setting personal boundaries, and using our Values-Based Agreements™ model. Plus, we’ll dive into compersion, or finding joy in your partner’s happiness with others, and talk about the importance of seeking expert support.

If you’ve ever wondered whether a Mono-Poly relationship can truly flourish, or if you’re in one and looking for ways to make it work—this episode is for you!

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Thank you for an amazing first season of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast! 

We will be back with Season 2 and brand new episodes starting in late September 2024. 

In Season 2 we are inviting some very special guests to join us to take a deeper dive into how you can successfully navigate consensual non-monogamy making it secure, adventurous and even more sexy!

In the meantime you can catch up on this season’s episodes where we talked about:

And More! 

If you want a secure foundation for your open or polyamorous relationship so you can have a lifetime of pleasure and satisfaction, join us for our next cohort of Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery which begins in October. Sign up now and get access right away to all the training modules and content! It will give you extra time to get started before we jump into the live coaching calls in October!

Learn More and sign up at: https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery

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It's said that in successful relationships, there's always a KITE and a STRING. Which are you?

You may have heard of this metaphor which is often used to describe dynamics in monogamous couples, however in this episode: Kites & Strings: Relationship Roles and Dynamics in Non-Monogamy, we take a polyamory spin on it and talk about how it may apply to the world of non-monogamous relationships as well!

We explore what it means to be a kite or a string, how these roles may shift when we interact with other kites and strings either in a dating or lifestyle/swinging situation, and the dynamics of pairing with different types of partners. 

We also discuss how someone might yearn to step into a different role than they usually occupy—like someone with kids and family responsibilities who gets to feel the exhilarating freedom of being the kite when with another partner and how they might secretly want their other partner to offer them this opportunity as well!

We give specific examples of how you can be a “switch” and bring excitement into your relationships and how this might offset resentments around always having to be one thing! 

And it wouldn’t be a podcast without some playful fun and teasing about our own tendencies to be the kite and string in our relationship!

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While we all know that open and honest communication is the key to relationships success, a recent University of California study found that there’s plenty of people would rather not know certain details about what their partner is up to!

This is one of the big questions that people often struggle with, and are often at odds with, in non-monogamous relationships. 

Some prefer the DADT - don’t ask, don’t tell - model where everything is unsaid. It’s a … I’d rather not know because what I don’t know won’t hurt me? However, as we said to a coaching client recently and talk about in this episode, when we avoid hearing from our partners about their experiences completely, our brains “fill in the blanks” and that story is often much worse than knowing the truth.

There's others that LOVE to share all the details about their encounters with others and those that want to hear everything, but there's the matter of privacy of others to consider.

And some people are ok with some details but want certain things left out. 

We cover all these things and more in this exciting episode - How Much Do I Want To Know: From DADT to ALL the Juicy Details!

And if you're newly navigating non-monogamy or facing some bumpy territory, we've got you! Our Poly Newbies Digital Course https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer - has a proven system that will provide you with a foundation for success! AND is now at a special price for our followers and our online community!

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Personal boundaries… they’re the imaginary lines we can draw around ourselves to maintain balance and protect our bodies, minds, emotions, and time for ourselves and from the behaviour or demands of others. 

Our boundaries are most effective when we are first clear about them ourselves and then when we communicate them to others.

If you find it hard to share your boundaries, you are not alone. 

Even  when someone crosses our boundaries (intentionally or unintentionally), common worries are that we are asking for too much, being too difficult or if we say something, they might not like us.

In this episode you’ll learn:

✅ What personal boundaries are vs. agreements or rules we might have with our partner(s);

✅ Why boundaries are important (hint: it’s about you)

✅ How to set your boundaries;

✅ How to communicate them; and

✅ Why people want to know your boundaries

Download our Building and Communicating My Personal Boundaries FREE WORKSHEET which will guide you in setting your boundaries and having them stick!

If you'd like it to feel EASIER to communicate your boundaries and feel SECURE in your open or polyamorous relationship, we can help! Book a complimentary call where we can speak confidentially about your personal circumstances and how we can work together OR jump right into our Poly Newbies Digital Course or Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery coaching program which have proven systems that will provide you with a foundation for success!

Show References:

• Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery Coaching Program - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery 
• Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
• Get the Free Building and Communicating Boundaries Worksheet https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/boundarieshttps://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/boundaries
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly 

• Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/
• Looking for therapy? Book a complimentary therapy consultation call with André at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation

You’ve probably seen the various “rules” out there that attempt to cleverly use numbers to describe what you should or shouldn’t do in a relationship or when dating.

Having rules and guidelines to follow to lead you to a desired outcome can be helpful and even comforting.

Like the 2-2-2 one that suggests that couples should go on a date once every two weeks, spend a weekend away every two months and take a week-long vacation every two years.

Others are just plain awful.

There's the 6-6-6-6 rule that women with "high standards" should only look for men who are 6 feet tall, with a 6 inch 🍆, six figure salary and a six-pack!

In this episode we take an informative and humorous look at these relationship rules, debunk the myths and as always provide expert solid advice on what things you might want to consider to have secure, successful and sexy polyamorous relationships!

There's even some food talk in there to keep you entertained with references to yams, sausages and oysters!

We would love to hear your take on these numerical rules, what your favorites were and any that we missed (good advice or otherwise). If you’re listening on Spotify you can now add comments to each episode!

We want to continue to keep this podcast free and reach as many people as possible so it would help us a lot of you hit the like button, subscribe, share with your friends and write a review!

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