Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast

🦄Unicorns… mythical creatures or real? 

In this episode we talk about UNICORNS in the context of consensual non-monogamy and if if  UNICORN HUNTING can be done in a way that defies this stereotype so that it’s ethical, consensual and feels good for all parties involved!

The term unicorn-hunting typically describes the practice of an established couple searching for a third person to engage in either threesomes or triads. You may have seen such couples stating they are “looking for a third”.

Often this is a heterosexual couple looking to add a bisexual woman to their relationship who is equally attracted to both of them and interested in whatever arrangement that couple has in mind.

Where this can end up being a less than favourable arrangement, in particular for the unicorn, and why searching for a third gets a bad rap is because of the unequal power dynamic that can exist in some cases.

Having said this, there are those that LOVE being a unicorn when the conditions are right. 

We talk about this and the results of a survey we did of our Let’s Talk Polyamory community members on this controversial topic. We have left this survey open for those who wish to share their views as well - https://forms.gle/4jL3JhYVANRmFo1c9 which we can use for a follow-up episode.

Join our Let's Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group and can share your ideas on the topic of unicorn hunting or start a discussion on a topic of your choice! https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly

Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources at: ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com/⁠

If you want to talk to us about what's going on in your relationships and what options there are to get support in addressing issues you're struggling with, book a complimentary call with Tara. She'll make sure you leave with the next step you can take to take towards what you want. https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue

Are you putting in effort to keep your sex life 🌶spicyyy or just waiting and wishing for things to change on their own? 

This is the final instalment of our podcast series the 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥Fire in Long-Term Relationships where we cover the 5th way:

Doing something different that takes deliberate effort.

Because epic relationships, awesome adventures and 🔥hot sex lives don't just appear out of thin air!

If you missed the first 3 parts of the series we covered:

✅ Having some distance and spend time apart

✅ Being Present - physically, emotionally and sexually

✅ Interrupting patterns and routines

✅Increasing sexual and erotic energy

We recap these in this episode and give more examples too!

Here's the link to our Let's Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group where you can share your ideas on what keeps the fire alive in your relationships or start a discussion on a topic of your choice! https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly

Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources at: ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com/⁠

If you want to talk to us about what's going on in your relationships and what options there are to get support in addressing issues you're struggling with, book a complimentary call with Tara. She'll make sure you leave with the next step you can take to take towards what you want. https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue

What gets you hot and bothered in the bedroom?

In this episode we are continuing our discussion of the 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥Fire in Long Term Relationships with #4...

Increasing sexual and erotic energy!

So how exactly do you do that?

Maybe it’s being touched somewhere unusual where you’re  not normally touched, or that you don’t normally think of as an erogenous zone?  Like the side of your ankle which André shares a story about. 

Or maybe it is something that allows you to prepare and get warmed up for intimacy which Tara shares.

We talk about all these things as well as concepts, like responsive desire and how to utilize that and other things to get things hot again!

If you missed parts 1 and 2 we talked about:

✅ Having some distance and spending time apart

✅ Being present which includes being physically, emotionally and sexually present with our partners

✅  Interrupting Patterns and Routines

If you want to talk to us about what's going on in your relationships and what options there are to get support, book a relationship rescue call with Tara here: https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue

Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources at: https://www.taraandandre.com/

The lifestyle/sex/libertine club we referenced in the podcast is Club L in Montréal, Quebec, Canada. You can find out more about them at https://www.leclubl.com/

The life-changing Cervix Wand that Tara refers in this episode can be found on https://waands.com/products/cervix-wand?ref=taraandandre and you can enter the code TARALYNNEFRANCO to get a 10% discount.

When we are in longer-term relationships we can have so many amazing things - security, safety, familiarity and predictability and a safe haven.

However, these things we love can be the very things that can dampen the mystery, intrigue, excitement and longing that are strong foundations for desire and eroticism. 

Hence why it is so important to find ways of keeping the excitement alive in our relationship. 

In Part 1 of The 5 Ways to Reignite the Fire in Long-Term Relationships we spoke of the first two things:

✅ Having some distance and spending time apart

✅ Being present which includes being physically, emotionally and sexually present with our partners

In this episode we continue with the 3rd thing you can do:

✅  Interrupting Patterns and Routines

If you want to talk to us about what's going on in your relationships and what options there are to get support, book a relationship rescue call here - https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue

We often expect our partner to be both our best friend and erotic partner. But these two needs often push against each other. 

On the one hand, we need security, safety, familiarity and predictability and a safe haven and secure base.

But we also need adventure, unpredictability, mystery and surprise which is what ⛽️fuels sexual energy!

Join us, your hosts and coaching and therapist duo T&A -Tara and André as we discuss desire in relationships in Part one of:

The 5 Ways to REIGNITE 🔥FIRE in Long-Term Relationships!

In this episode we cover the first two ways:

✅ Have some distance and spend time apart

✅ Being Present

We also touch on our attachment patterns and how they impact relationships as well as resentments and how they can build and hurt our connection with our partners!

If you need support in addressing decreased desire or navigating your open or polyamorous relationships we can help! Book a complimentary Relationship Rescue Consultation Call with Tara and find out how you can navigate your open relationship with ease & pleasure using our proven Securely Polyamorous Framework™. https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue or check out our website at https://www.taraandandre.com/ for information on our programs and services.

Whenever you try something new, you’re bound to make some mistakes or literally “step in it” as you try to figure out what to do and not to do.

This is especially the case when there are people, relationships and feelings involved - like when you’re navigating the complexities of polyamorous relationships which requires a unique set of skills, insights and things to consider.

In this podcast episode, we discuss the essential essential ✅ Do's and 🛑 Don'ts of Polyamory - from parking your ego at the door and taking responsibility for your actions and feelings, to not comparing yourself to others or using polyamory as an excuse to do whatever you want.

This episode was inspired by someone André is working with and supporting their transition to consensual non-monogamy (and other things) who mentioned that they are reading The Polyamory Workbook: An Interactive Guide to Setting Boundaries, Communicating Your Needs, and Building Secure, Healthy Open Relationships by Sarah Youngblood Gregory.

In the book Sarah has a graphic of some high level do’s and don’ts which we break down and provide our thoughts! We also add some of our own!

Check out our website at https://www.taraandandre.com/ to find out how to join our online community and learn more about about our coaching and therapy services, our digital course Poly Newbies as well as how you can book a complimentary consultation call.

Our individual attachment style influences how we react when we experience separation, threat, or pressure in a relationship. This can look like being perfectly fine to being clingy, impulsive, to overwhelmed or pushing others away. 

Opening a relationship or becoming polyamorous can activate our primary (or default/dominant) attachment style and patterns, especially if they are one of the 3 insecure styles.

In this episode we explore attachment theory in the context of consensual non-monogamous relationships and discuss:

And speaking of that… this week we have a special free WORKSHEET to help you do just that! You can sign up to get it at https://go.taraandandre.com/gettheworksheet

You can discover your attachment style through one of these quizzes:

Get Support: Book a complimentary Relationship Rescue Consultation Call with Tara and find out how you can navigate your open relationship with ease & pleasure using our proven Securely Polyamorous Framework™. https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue or check out our website at https://www.taraandandre.com/ for information on our programs and services.

It’s one thing to find yourself in a place where you feel that monogamy may not be a fit for you, but a whole other thing to figure out what exactly is.

In this episode of the Let’s Talk Polyamory podcast we walk through the different styles of consensually non-monogamy from monogamish, swinging and open relationships, to polyamory, relationship anarchy and everything in between.

We uncover the nuances and possibilities within each style helping you navigate your personal journey of finding the right fit for your relationship preferences.

We share our thoughts and reflections of how our style has changed over time and how we aren’t just one, but many different styles and that’s totally cool!

Plus, we offer up some questions you can ask yourself to figure out what’s right for you including what level of emotional or sexual exclusivity you’re looking for. All these questions are in a free worksheet you can sign up for at: https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/cnmstyle

If you have a burning question, want to talk to us about our programs or how you can work with us so that you can master your open or polyamorous relationship, you can book a 15 minute coffee chat with Tara at https://go.taraandandre.com/15mincoffeechat.

Check out our website at https://www.taraandandre.com/⁠.for information about about our coaching programs and services and how to get other great stuff!

Are you exploring consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and finding yourself overwhelmed by the tide of tough emotions?

Perhaps you constantly feel like you're putting out the latest emotional fire, and being polyamorous or in an open relationship isn't unfolding quite as you had imagined. There’s heartaches, self-doubt, arguments, jealousy, frustration and more.

If any of these resonate with you, this episode on ⭐️HOW TO SUCCEED AS A POLY NEWBIE⭐️ is just for you!

In this episode, we delve into the seven essential elements that serve as the foundation for success as a poly newbie. We share advice on:

But here's the exciting part – all the essential elements discussed in this episode have been carefully integrated into our Poly Newbies Digital Course. This comprehensive course is now fully built out and available, providing you with a step-by-step guide to confidently open your relationship in a way that feels comfortable and secure!

If you're tired of feeling poly-terrified and want to enjoy more pleasure, less pain in your polyamorous journey and build a secure foundation for all your relationships our Poly Newbies Digital Course has everything you need.  Find out more and secure your spot now: https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse

Note that this talk was originally recorded in September 2023, and all course modules including trainings and exercises are available! You have full access to all the training for a full 6-months when you sign up!

You can also find out more about us, the services we offer, plus some cool stuff like PRIDE wear, free resources and how you can book a free consultation call at our website at www.taraandandre.com.

Have you every been to a sex party or lifestyle event, wanted to host one yourself or just curious about what they are all about?

If that's a yes for you, you'll ❤️ love this episode:

Sex Parties 101: A Guide to Being the Best Host and a Great Guest!

Coming 🔥 hot off the heels of our latest party, in this episode we share:

Topics we cover include planning in advance, creating a guest list, getting help, sex-party friendly food and drinks, supplies to have on hand, setting up play areas (including an awesome hack that friends shared with us), consent, taking photos, choosing a theme, STI testing and a whole lot more!

If you watch the video you'll see the webpage we create for parties that houses all the information your guests need!

Want to get our Ultimate Sex Party Guide when it's available? Reach out and message us through our website⁠!

If you need support navigating your open relationship with ease & pleasure we can help! Check out our website where you can find out about our digital course Poly Newbies, different ways you can work directly with us, join our mailing list and access a ton of free resources!