Bette Wilkes talks to Barbara about her late father-in-law, David Wilkes, who died in 2016. She describes how painful it was to watch a brilliant and proud man lose his mind to dementia. Toward the end, when he no longer cared about the things that had once mattered to him, Bette realized how much harder it is on the caregiver; he was able to just give up, but watching it happen is so hard. She and Barbara also discuss her experience with assisted living, and what she’d do differently if she had to go through it again.