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Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions!

The post holiday blues have hit everyone, but differently. Lola is having a particularly rough time with morning motivation! Laura has a free pass for her sockless sneakers this morning.

Vibes for the week:
Laura - Vestirsi Bags 

Britt - Stick TV Show 

Keeshia - ‘Musk DERANGEMENT Syndrome!’ DOGE Legacy Debate | Scott Galloway vs Kevin O’Leary

Then we jump into your questions!

DO I TELL HIM I’M PLANNING TO MEET OUR BIOLOGICAL PARENTS?
I’ve got a personal story here that’s been weighing on me, and I’m hoping to get your thoughts on it. Let me take you back to when I was born. I was adopted at just six weeks old, and right from the start, the adoption agency told my parents something surprising. They mentioned that my biological parents had also given birth to a baby boy two years before me, and that he, too, had been adopted. The agency asked if my parents would be interested in meeting him—my biological brother. And of course, my adoptive parents said yes.

So, from a young age, my brother and I have been close. We’ve celebrated birthdays together and grown up with that unique connection. Fast forward to now, and we’re both in the same stage of life—starting families of our own. It’s a whole new chapter, and it’s made me start thinking about meeting my biological parents. I’ve wondered if I should make an attempt to meet them and try to learn more about my roots. Here’s where it gets tricky. My brother, however, has absolutely no interest in meeting our biological parents. He’s content with the life he’s built and doesn’t want to stir the pot. So, here’s my dilemma: do I tell him I’m planning to meet our biological parents? Should I respect his wishes and not pursue this? Or do I just go ahead and meet them without mentioning it to him? I’m torn, and I’m curious—what would you do in my shoes?

ARE GIFT REGISTRIES IMPERSONAL?
I would love to know your thoughts on gift registries for a baby shower? I have a lovely friend who has created a gift registry for an up and coming baby shower. It has a variety of items of all different prices, so if you were wanting to get a more expensive item you could go in with a group of friends. I know this word gets thrown around a lot but it is giving me the ‘ick’. I understand wanting to receive items that you need/want, but it seems incredibly impersonal. With this registry you can get the gift directly delivered to the address. I’m not entirely sure how it works but you may not know who it has been gifted from on delivery. What do you think of gift registries for baby showers? Am I just being a sour puss?

HOW TO BE OKAY AT HOME ALONE?
I have recently bought a house with my partner (m30 & f30) and have been living here for a few months. Until now I’ve lived in share houses and with family, and have realised I haven’t had to spend many nights completely alone, and when I do I get quite nervous (safety wise) being by myself. I’ve travelled for work and holidays on my own in hotels/apartments and don’t feel scared, but I do when I’m in a house alone at night. Our house is in an outer, older suburb which is quite safe, but when my partner occasionally goes away (once every few months for work) I feel on edge… I love the ‘idea’ of a night to myself, watching and eating what I want but in reality I’m nervous and alert to any noises. My question is do other girls feel like this, and what do you do to feel more confident at home on your own?

DOES THE POST CHEATING SADNESS FADE?
Firstly, I’m in complete shock that I am in this situation; my husband and father of our 3 young kids told me the day before Mother’s Day (via text while he is away for work....solid) that he got black out drunk and had sex with someone while on a night out for a friend's birthday. He says he doesn’t remember and only confessed because I bluffed that I had evidence (other than a hectic thrush infection and a strong hunch I really didn’t have evidence). He says that he is ashamed and sorry etc. I am not angry and unfortunately understand where some of this kind of behaviour- like drinking to such excess comes from (his childhood trauma) but I am devastated. We had a beautiful relationship and a wonderful life and it feels like it’s all covered in shit now. So first question: will this feeling of sadness and shit covered relationship fade? Second question: do I have to come up with a list of demands/boundaries/changes that he needs to meet? Because that feels like a lot of work.. Is it his responsibility to come up with such parameters? And thirdly: do I have to tell people? I am worried my close friends and family will hate him beyond repair if I tell them but also don’t want to bear the load myself... is the relief of support worth the inevitable hate towards him? For the sake of our lives and relationships.

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

What's on the show:

• Britt’s journey to getting married
• Matt leaked the baby name AND the wedding accidentally
• Ask Uncut  Sally hates the ring her boyfriend is proposing to her with
• Is the ‘man look’ a real thing? - Laura & Matt’s dumb argument
• 5 things in your home dirtier than a toilet seat
• When kids tell you they hate you after they’ve had a great day

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Today’s guest is the brilliant Sarah Wilson. Sarah Wilson is a multi-New York Times bestselling author, social philosopher, international keynote speaker, minimalist and philanthropist. She edited Cosmopolitan Australia at 29, founded the global I Quit Sugar movement, hosted Masterchef Australia – and wrote the bestseller First, We Make the Beast Beautiful. 

We previously had Sarah on the podcast 2 years ago where we spoke about dating in your forties, how Sarah had moved to Paris with only own 2 suitcases worth of belongings!

Since we last spoke, Sarah has ended her long-running podcast Wild, and started serialising her new book on system collapse. Today, we’re talking about the chaos we’re all living through — the systems collapsing around us, the tech bros running wild, and the very real sense that everything’s just... a bit cooked.

We also dive into:

• Living in a minimalistic way and how it’s classy in some cultures
• Australia is a young person’s culture with botox, lashes and ‘invisible’ older women
• Should we also have a tax on fast fashion?
• How beauty ideals change based on what’s going on economically 
• What it means to find meaning in messy times
• Why Sarah’s book will likely be banned in the US
• Why community and connection are more important than ever

You can find Sarah on Substack 

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Hey Lifers!

Britt is now a wife!! (Kind of, legally pending...)
We are fresh off the plane and today's episode is everything that went really great and the few things that went wrong 😂
We chat:

• Britt's love story and how we finally ended up here 💒
• Why we needed to keep the wedding details private
• How Keeshia got Britt's dress there and whether she peeked 🫣 
• The ring debacle that was definitely not Laura's fault! 💍

Then Ben joins the pod and we answer all of your questions!

• How he felt seeing Britt
• The array of mishaps of Ben's suit
• The personalised songs and song choices for the special moments
• Their vows
• Ben's ice cream cart
• Highlights & fireworks
• The very, very wrong cake
  
  

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We know, we know, we’ve LEFT YOU HANGING FOR THIS ONE!

We discuss so many of your deep, dark and dirty dilemmas and we always wonder “what happened next?”

Today we are sharing the aftermaths of 6 of our favourite ask uncut questions!

We are diving into:

• He’s pretending his cheating never happened
• My husband is on a gay dating app
• My partner dumped me for someone else and wants to come back
• I’ve been holding in my farts and I am in PAIN but I don’t know want to break the romance
• My husband doesn’t want me wearing g strings
• My partner doesn’t want me doing a nudie swim

If we have answered your question, we would REALLY love to hear the follow up! Please send them in to us in our instagram DMs or you can email us at [email protected]!

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

What's on the show:

• Woman gets kicked out of wedding for not following the Dress Code
• 'Grandma Hobbies' are good for your mental health
• Laura's Bird Quiz
• Britt had fomo so we created Britt's Dog Quiz
• Natalija from Lipstick Investigations on what it's like to be a female private investigator
• This man called his wife out for cheating at his 40th birthday

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Today, we're thrilled to welcome back one of our favourite guests — the hilarious and unfiltered Urzila Carlson. This episode is perfect if you need a real chuckle! Urzila joined the pod back in 2022  for an episode titled ‘Gags, Guns, and Grenades’  and that should indicate that she was one of the funniest people we’ve ever interviewed. In that chat we spoke about growing up ‘proper poor’ in South Africa, before moving to New Zealand and becoming a comic.

Urzila has recently finished a very successful run of shows at the Melbourne International Comedy Festival and started her new You Don’t Say tour. But that's not all — she's also now a big movie star in Netflix’s rom com Kinda Pregnant, starring alongside Amy Schumer. It was the number one movie worldwide with over 25 million views in its first week.​

In today’s episode we spoke about:

• Urzila starring in a huge Netflix film alongside Amy Schumer
• What Amy Schumer and Adam Sandler are like
• Urzila’s divorce, then engagement, then break up and whether she’ll stay single
• Her ‘exclusive’ and iconic break up line that you can also use!
• How Urzila got the part and Britt’s attempt to copy her
• How comedy is crafted and how Urzila finds some of her best jokes in mundane things
• The behind the scenes of the film and how much Urzila got to make her own lines
• Needing a friend who will clean out your humiliating things

You can find more from Urzila and tickets to her show 

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Hey lifers!

If you’re married, did one of you in the partnership want the marriage more than the other? Britt and Ben came to the decision mutually…we think. Ben blink twice 😂Britt is in trouble for ‘practicing’ wearing her wedding ring and Laura shares the behind the scenes of designing Britt’s wedding rings and deciding on the size of the diamonds. 

Are you a road rager or do you keep your cool? How about if you’ve got your kids in the car. Laura thought she was on top of it but Lola has exposed the truth of her driving habits!

Today we have a deep chat about how to navigate your close friendships when you’re in different phases of life especially when it comes to pregnancy and fertility. Laura shares her hesitations and considerations of telling Britt that she was pregnant with their third baby. Britt opens up about the range of emotions she experienced. We unpack whether it’s actually possible to hold space for both joy and sadness in a friendship—being happy for someone and grieving something for yourself at the same time. 

We speak about:

• How do you hold space for your excitement while also being mindful of friends who might have a different experience with fertility?
• What it’s like to be in the ‘waiting room’ of motherhood—not knowing what your outcome will be
• The confusion around when is the right time to have children
• Fertility privilege
• The best way to tell a friend you’re pregnant if they’re struggling with fertility

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Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions.
What’s the most passive aggressive text you’ve ever received? Is ‘K’, a thumbs up or no message at all the worst?

Vibes for the week:
Britt - Estee Lauder Double Wear Stay-in-Place Makeup 
Keeshia - Electric Blanket
Laura - ChatGPT scam check 

Then we jump into your questions!

GUY CAME IN ME WITHOUT ASKING - AM I OVERREACTING?

I started seeing a guy a few weeks ago that I was genuinely into. We met on Hinge, had been on a few dates, and things were going really well. He seemed sweet and thoughtful — he even UberEats-ed me Panadol when I mentioned I had a headache, and we’d had a lot of great chats. Fast forward to last week: he invited me over for a wine and pizza night. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex — unprotected (which I now regret, but I felt too awkward in the moment to say anything). Then, without asking or even warning me, he finished inside me. I was stunned. He gave me a kiss, got dressed, and didn’t bring it up at all. I just layed there in shock, pretending to fall asleep because I didn’t know how to respond.
The next day, he sent me a long message apologising — completely unprompted — saying it was a split-second decision that he instantly regretted. While I appreciated the apology, I can’t shake the feeling that this is a dealbreaker. At that moment, he chose his own convenience over my autonomy and my body. I keep going back and forth in my head — am I overreacting? I’d love to know your thoughts, because as much as I liked him, I’m not sure I can come back from something like this so early on.

FRIEND DITCHED ME AFTER BECOMING AN INFLUENCER

What do you do if an old friend who you used to talk to from time to time suddenly unfollows you on insta after becoming an influencer? I went to primary school & most of high school with this person in a rural town. He was probably my first childhood crush & after high school he was trying to make it big through YouTube which I supported along the way. He even messaged me saying he was so grateful for my support. Then he started posting different content which got him really recognised & then he unfollowed a bunch of his old friends, including me. I still respond to his stories from time to time as he is constantly smashing massive goals in life to do with his career. However, recently he’s just gotten engaged which he posted on his story & it makes me sad to think he cut me off. I want to tell him congratulations & that I am excited for what the future brings for him, but every other reaction to his story is just met with a like of my reaction. What should I do? I’m not sure how to move on - if comes into my mind every time I see his stories.

PEOPLE COMMENTING ON MY BABY’S BIG SIZE

I have a 2.5 year old daughter who has always been a ‘big baby’. She was 4.3kg at birth and in the 95th percentile for height, weight and head when she was little and now she wears size 4. I honestly don’t even notice it (except picking her up sometimes) and she is a healthy happy child. However friends, family and strangers comment on her size all the time - wow she is so big, omg she is huge, constantly comparing her height to their children etc I have even had ‘being tall is ok but you also have to be really skinny otherwise it’s not attractive’ I guess my question is when the hell did we become ok with commenting on a child’s size/weight and how do I respond? My partner and I sometimes make jokes about the size of her head so we can take a joke these just go too far

FRIEND WANTS TO BRING DAUGHTER INSTEAD OF HUSBAND TO OUR WEDDING 

We were meant to be married on March 7 on the Gold Coast. But due to cyclone Alfred our wedding was swept away. We have lost $35k and now in a legal battle with the venue and caterers (don't even get me started on that). Due to everything that’s happened we have decided to have a bit more of a low key wedding in Melbourne as that is where I am from and most of my friends and family are there. Anyway I have two close work mates I invited to the wedding. To be respectful I invited their husbands even though I don’t know them very well. One of them is coming solo. The other has asked if she can bring her 18 year old daughter instead of her husband.. I gotta ask what would you do? I said no btw. 

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

What's on the show:

• This poor mum had an interesting hack for a plane 'poonami'
• What did you accidentally say to your boss? 
• Laura was caught in the nude by a tradie
• Did you have a Missed Connection?
• The worst typo we have ever seen on a wedding invitation

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