Life Uncut

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Hey Lifers,

Welcome to therapy where we unpack all of your dilemmas!

First up today, kids with second child syndrome and main character kids that potentially need some resilience.
Christmas hams are the ultimate raffle prize and they will now be coming home with Laura more often. 
We unpack the top google searches in Aus for the year. Some were to be expected and were a bit of a surprise. You can check out the whole lists here at The Daily Aus

Vibes/Unsubscribes for the week:

Laura: Unsubscribing from "Leave the World Behind" on Netflix
Vibing Carols on the Beach
Britt: Instagram content creator Anna Louisa at home
Keeshia: Podcast by the two ex Good Morning America hosts wrapped up in the affair Amy & TJ

Then we unpack your questions:
- I gave birth 4 weeks ago and my partner last night said our sex life is sh*t and it’s affecting him mentally. He said he doesn’t want to spend time with me because I never want to do it or “even give a blow job”. I really don’t want to so I won’t but I also think I have difficulty with sexual intimacy with him because after our last 2 kids, I felt pressured into having sex again 3 weeks after birth which was wrong. Where do I go from here? I feel like I have no sexual drive towards him but he thinks I have something wrong with me.

-I was out with 2 friends and we were buying drinks in rounds. When it was my turn to buy the next round, I started a friendly chat/ flirt with a good looking guy in line who offered to buy me a drink. I said “I appreciate it but it’s my round for the girls so I’ll get it”. He insisted on buying the entire round… I summoned my friends to the bar and he bought the 3 of us a shot and a drink each. Very generous. Later in the night, my friends wanted another drink. When it was time to pay she turned to me and said “it’s your round”. I replied “you both scored not 1 but 2 free drinks from what would’ve been my round, so isn’t it back to you?” My friend laughed and called bullshit and said it’s still my round since I didn’t pay. If you took care of 2 free drinks on what was your round by queuing and flirting, should you still have to pay for the next?

-I’m single and whenever I go away with friends or family I always get the trundle bed/ couch, so all the couples get the double beds. Even if I go away with my girlfriends they refuse to sleep on the air mattress on the floor. Should it be ok for me to ask to pay less for the accommodation because I get the shitty bed on the floor when everyone gets a proper comfy bed?

-The other day my partner of nearly 8 years and I were discussing fantasies. I brought it up because you know, you want to keep the spark and keep things a little interesting. I told him that I’d always had the fantasy of having sex in public. He told me that he’d always wanted to have a threesome. I know it’s a pretty common fantasy for guys but I’m feeling a bit rocked from this. I’m only sexually attracted to men so I don’t really find the idea of having sex with another woman appealing. I don’t want to completely shut him down, especially because I was the one who brought up the idea of fantasies. I don’t really know what to do here. Have you got any advice? Is there a middle ground? 

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Hey Lifers!
Today's episode is part 2 of diving into narcissism. You can listen to part 1 on narcissists in romantic relationships here!

Now we are taking a deep dive on having a narcissistic parent and how to navigate co-parenting with a narcissist.
Firstly we are joined by Monique. Monique and her siblings grew up with a mum who was the most noticeable person in the room. She was generous, she was incredibly beautiful and she was also a narcissist. We speak to her about how her and her siblings felt about themselves growing up, her mum's manipulative behaviour & subsequent affair and how she went about actually cutting her mum off for good.
We often hear the phrase 'blood is thicker than water," but for Monique, her life has been a lot happier since severing that relationship.

Then we are joined by Nova Gibson. Nova is an expert on narcissistic abuse, the founder of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service, and the author of "Fake Love." 

Nova speaks with clients every day who experience narcissistic parents and she has an incredible insight into how to navigate these complex relationships.

You can get a copy of Nova's book Fake Love!

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Hey lifers,
Today is a bit of a silly, fun episode because we're all crawling to the finish line, right??
Laura's been in some child induced hell for the last few days and Britt has learnt that kids can be assholes. Weird that it took this long to get here!

Britt has a new theory of girl language; the things we say vs what we actually mean. 

PS Ben, always get a gift.

Plus we chat about how many of you have been through break ups this week because December 11 is the most common day for relationships to end! Is it a good thing to go into the new year with a fresh start and no strings to the past or is it selfish to break up with someone just before Christmas?

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

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Hey Lifers,

Welcome back to therapy where we unpack your deep, dark and burning questions!

Last night we went on a fancy shmancy boat and Laura accidentally got a little handsy with... not Matt.

We speak about the latest trailer that netflix dropped of Ricky Gervais' upcoming comedy special that contains a 'joke' about terminally ill children. It raised a lot of questions like:
-Comedy often relies on pushing boundaries, but where should the line be drawn when it comes to making jokes about vulnerable or marginalised groups? 
-Are we just okay with jokes if they don’t offend us?

We discuss!

Vibes for the week:
Laura: Sam Fischer's new Album I love you, please don't hate me
Britt: Podcast the garden of eden
Keeshia: Ice Baths Tub from the dope here & Gary Brecka's research

Then we jump into your questions:

I am living with my boyfriend’s family at the moment until our house is ready to move in. I was looking after my nephew and niece, when I grabbed my mother-in laws phone to bring up YouTube (which we normally do). On the phone I read a message from her boss about the things he wants to do to her sexually and other things I want to erase from my brain. My sister in law was with me at the time and also read the same message. She is still married… so we both know, we haven’t confronted her about anything. I haven’t told my boyfriend and I don’t feel like it’s my place to. What should I do? Ignore that I ever read the message?? Every time I look at her I think how could you.

-My partner & I had been dating for 7 months. We have plans to move in together and travel Europe in Feb Mar 2024. Two weeks ago he dropped on me that he'd be travelling Sri Lanka with his sister from Boxing Day until 14th of Jan. I cried when he told me he was going and I blew up when he booked the following day. This leaves me, a pharmacist working on call at a metro hospital alone over the Christmas - New Year period. He thinks I'm being unreasonable and can't see that I'm left feeling abandoned. I'm a single child. Do I just not get it? Or should my partner be spending time with me over this time? Since I can't visit my friends or family who live interstate due to work. 

I have a friend who’s been having an affair for a few years now. The guy is a lot older than her and one of the reasons they aren’t together is she wants kids. She is now engaged to her partner that she’s been cheating on for years and I’m invited to the wedding next year. I don’t know how to respond or how to have the conversation to see if this marriage is something she actually wants? She has said she is in love with this other man but still loves her fiancé. Do I say something to her or do I just turn up at the wedding and have a good time? I feel mixed.

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Today’s episode is a conversation about ‘honour killings’ with the absolutely incredible Nina Aouilk. Nina grew up in the UK. She has overcome enormous hardship and adversity to become one of the leading activists speaking out about honour killings and human trafficking.

Nina is also a bestselling author,  a TEDx speaker and the founder of nonprofit End Honour Killings that provides welfare and support to the victims of attempted honour killings, gender-based violence, domestic abuse, and trauma.

In this chat Nina opens up on suffering abuse at the hands of her father and his friends, being forced into a marriage as a child, and surviving an 'honour killing' attack. 

In this episode we speak about:

• Some of the most harrowing moments from Nina’s life 
• How that has moulded Nina into who she is today
• The reality of what is happening in the homes of the places we all live
• Why we all need to speak up
• How to find the courage to rise above your adversity

*This interview contains details of some distressing content. This includes emotional, sexual and physical abuse as well as mentions of suicide. If this episode brings up anything for you, you can reach out for help at 1800 RESPECT, or life line on 13 11 14.
If it’s not the right time for you to listen right now, please sit this one out and we would love to have you join us again at another time. 

You can find Nina's website here 
End Honour Killings can be found here

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Hey Lifers!

Today was chaotic (more than normal)! The studio flooded from the crazy rain over the weekend. Laura's got some more pigeon facts for us, and guys, you're WELCOME!

Laura is also hyper fixated on home renos, flat pack assembly and gardening. 
We have a bit of a back and forth of how we feel about the new season of the Bachelors; where it's hitting and where it's missing.

Plus we discuss whether it's weird to be friends with your ex's new partner. Does it change if there are kids involved? 

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

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Welcome to therapy Thursday where we unpack your life dilemmas!

First up, Laura's obsessed with the original 'quiet quitters' and they're pigeons.
You can see why here.

There's a bit of a conspiracy theory going on tiktok where people are claiming that they've been conned by restaurant owners! They are saying that they have been chatting to people on dating apps, and teeing up a date at a restaurant only to be stood up at the restaurant.
So what do they do? Well, most of them end up buying dinner and drinks for themselves! 
Is this the most ridiculous conspiracy theory you've ever heard or do you think there's merit here?

Vibes for the week:

Laura: Netflix Doco "Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey"

Britt: Dog Poncho Towel by Dog

Keeshia: Lorna Jane 'The One' sports bra & Two Doting Dads episode Depression & Anxiety - Breaking the Stigma

Then we jump into your deep, dark and burning questions:

-My friend and I are moving out together to a rental. My boyfriend didn’t want to move out as he is happy living with family and is not working full time like my friend and I.My question is… when should you make your partner pay rent or put money towards things as he is bound to come stay multiple nights. Is it if he stays x amount of nights? What kind of boundaries do I need to set?

-How important is it to talk through your issues after having a disagreement with your partner? My partner and I tend to have issues, get cross with each other for a couple of days and then just go back to normal like nothing ever happened. Part of me thinks this is ok as we can’t always be hunky dory, but there is another part of me that thinks there needs to be resolution and understanding when there are issues? I grew up in a household that was not good at resolving conflict so learning on the go now

-I was ghosted by a guy who has come back and apologised for treating me poorly. I accepted the apology and we kept chatting. Last night I sent him a meme of a cat (he has a cat). We got onto the topic of dating and so on. I asked if he thought things would be different or the same if we dated now. He said probably the same and that we aren’t compatible because I have a dog! My dog is a small non barky toy poodle and is crate trained, sleeps in his own room and is an angel. So even though this guy and I get on super well and the sexy time was great at the time, his deal breaker on compatibility is because I have a dog - yet he has a cat…

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