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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year lifers,

Except maybe it's not feeling merry or happy and maybe this period of the year makes you feel a bit stressed, depressed or anxious. Today we're taking a deep dive on how our brains physiologically become overloaded at this time of year.

But first, producer Keeshia has some advice from a tik toker to help you get your crush to slide into your DMs! We also unpack the best, and quietest, maneuvers to get it on while you're visiting family this festive season.

Then Dr Hannah Korrel, neuropsychologist joins us to talk about:

-Expectations of how we're supposed to feel at this time of the year v how we actually feel

-Whether we feel a sense of accomplishment of what we've achieved this year based on what we thought we would or where we thought we'd be

-The additional pressures put on women around Christmas

-Diet culture and new years resolution stress

-Going through the holidays single, after big life changes or experiencing grief

-Setting boundaries with our family

-Feelings of guilt

You can find Dr Hannah on instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/nobullpsych/?hl=en

And her app is called 'Assert Yourself' and you can find it in your app store. https://apps.apple.com/au/app/assert-yourself/id1532411329

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Hey Lifers,

First up today, Laura wants to know how she can get even more lazy when it comes to getting to O town. Apparently you can have orgasms by using just your mind.

We investigate. 

Then we jump into your deep, dark and dirty questions:
-I met this guy out at a bar a few weeks ago and we went home together later that night. After stalking him on socials I figured out he has a fiancé and a baby.
I confronted him about it and he said they were engaged but decided to call it off and just be friends just before the baby was born. However, they haven’t told anyone this as her family are religious and they are trying to navigate the situation, they still live together. I told him I can’t continue to see him unless either he can prove to me, he isn’t in a relationship or unless he tells her about me. He said he doesn’t know how to prove it and isn’t ready to tell her unless he knows if we are ‘going somewhere.' I really like this guy; sex was amazing and there is definitely something there but my gut tells me he is lying. Should I cut it off with him now before I get any more invested?

-I have 2 guys on my radar, one I met online a while ago, we clicked, crazy chemistry, then he went travelling for a few months but we kept in contact regularly calling etc. I was looking forward to when he comes back (in 2 weeks) and was intending on giving it a shot with him. I’m the meantime my long-time friend from high school who we’ve been back and forth liking each other, expressed he has very strong feelings for me, initially I was thinking no but now I have strong feelings for him and the other guy, I’ve been indecisive for a ages and have no idea how to decide what the right thing to do is, do I not date anybody cause I can’t give them my full attention or do I just flip a coin? 

-I’m getting married next year and I don’t know if I want my dad to walk me down the aisle. One - I don’t feel totally comfortable with the concept of the father giving the bride away. I feel it’s a bit outdated and low key gives me the ick. Two- my dad & I have a good relationship but we aren’t super close.
What are your thoughts on the bride walking down the aisle solo and how I should approach the conversation with my dad?

-I am getting married next year in Fiji.
My nearest and dearest are invited. One of my invited guests has had someone who I don’t really know nor particularly like invite herself on the holiday…
I know it’s a public place but it just makes me uncomfortable as I am in Fiji to celebrate my wedding. Am I in my right to politely ask that she not come or is she entitled to come if she pleases?

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Hey lifers

Statistically (and you know we love a study), this time of year is the most common time to break up and kick start a rebound relationship so today we are unpacking the good, the bad and the ugly of rebound relationships. It's a bit of a nostalgic one because it's just the two of us taking a big deep dive on when we were rebounded with and when we've done it to others.

We talk:

-What rebounds look like if you're the rebounder or the reboundee

-How long it takes to get over an ex

-How rebounds can be really great

-How they can transition from a rebound into an actual relationship

But firstly, have you heard of milestoning? If you're single, there's a good chance you're doing it right now. We get into some new dating terms and trends and frankly, Britt needs to take a bit of a look at herself because she's doing pretty much all of them!

If you've listened all year and you haven't done so yet, we'd really love it if you took 30 seconds to leave us a review on apple podcasts or a star rating on spotify! 

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Hey Lifers,

We've spoken a lot about whether or not we're into 'nice' guys, but what about the available guys? Are we okay with the nice guy as long as they've got a bit of a chase to them?

We unpack.

Then we jump into your deep, dark and burning questions:

-Is withholding a pregnancy deceitful? I'm up for a promotion at work that I think I deserve and will get, but it's for a 2 year contract. Should I tell my employer that I am in the early stages of pregnancy given that if I get the job, I won't be able to work the whole contract out

-I met someone very special this year, however it has been a rollercoaster since we met (my dad died, I had an abortion, I moved overseas). He is also overseas now too but he has recently gone off to do his own thing. He said he loves me very much and wants me in his life but he doesn’t know to what extent right now. I love him so much and I keep coming back to this thought that he is “the one”. Is this naive? How do you know if someone is the one? I know I can be okay on my own but I want him in my life.

-Is it normal to not be able to get over your ex's dick?

I was in a relationship for 2 years and he had the greatest penis. Now whenever I sleep with someone I can't seem to be disappointed by theirs and I keep comparing it to my ex's.

Is this normal?

Can I get over this?

If you have a question you'd like us to answer, send it in to lifeuncutpodcast on instagram! And you know the drill; tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because we love love! xx

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Hey Lifers!

It's our big meaty Tuesday episode served up with a side of bants. Today we are revisiting a topic we spoke about several months ago and that is - being childless by choice. The reason why we have decided to revisit this is because we listened to your feedback and so many of you wanted us to go deeper on this topic and take into account more stories and perspectives. Which is exactly what we have done! 

But before we get into that we ask the big question… Have you ever masturbated at work - you horny little minx. 

Childless by choice

The default when we are growing up is that we seem to think that success will be getting a good job, getting married, buying a house and having babies; but our generation seem to be questioning the 'status quo.'

What about if you don't want to have kids?

On today's episode we are joined by 3 women who have made the decision to remain childfree.

We unpack:

-When they realised kids may not have been for them

-Their reasons for being child free

-How to navigate conversations with friends that are struggling with fertility

-How to navigate those conversations in a marriage/dating scenario

We also address these statements:

"But what about when you get old and there will be no one to look after you?"

"You just haven't met the right partner yet"

"You'll change your mind"

You can find these women on instagram.

Danni Duncan - @danni___duncan

Karina Irby - @karinairby

Jana Hocking - @jana_hocking

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Hey lifers,

In today's episode, Britt shares what caused her to kick off on The Challenge this week and why so much of the dialogue had to be left on the cutting room floor.

Then we jump into your deep, dark and burning questions and today they're a bit deeper and harder to answer than others.

• My partner and I have been together for 3 years. We have a 5-month-old baby. My best friend lives with us and has done for the past 2 years. She recently went MIA and finally told me why. When I was out with the baby my partner approached her, exposed himself and asked her to give him a blowjob. As this was unfolding, I arrived home and he left the room asking her not to tell me. When approached he denied it at first before admitting what he had done. My question is do I stay and try to work it out for our baby so we can try to be a family? Or do I leave? The friendship has been ruined as I can’t look at her without the reminder of what my partner did to her. I know she did the right thing but it’s still affected the friendship as I feel my partner would prefer her over me and it is embarrassing that my partner did this.

• I spend quite a lot of my money of beautiful clothes which I’ll hire out to people online for some extra cash. I love fashion and I see value in doing that for me. I have a friend who constantly borrows outfits whether that’s something more casual up to expensive formal dresses. It started out as a once off and I didn’t charge but now she constantly hits me up. She recently borrowed an expensive set of mines and hasn’t washed or dry cleaned it. I now have to do this. Is this situation my fault for not charging in the first place or am I getting taken advantage of? What’s reasonable?

• My boyfriend of 10 months took a video of us having sex and didn’t ask me. In the past when we’ve had sex, we have both agreed to film part of it. However, this time, in doggy, I turned around and he had his phone out. I asked what he was going he told me he was filming. In the moment I said, “ask me next time”. But now I don’t know whether I should have a bigger conversation with him or whether I’m overreacting to this whole situation.

If you have a question you'd like to ask, you can send it in to us at lifeuncutpodcast on instagram!

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Hey lifers!

Today we take a deep dive into the controversy surrounding the latest campaign from Balenciaga.

When a brand so consistently flirts with provocative content, are we surprised that they cross the line into child exploitation?

When towing the line where fashion meets political/social issues and pushes the boundaries of what is and isn't acceptable, when does a brand go too so far that they risk being entirely 'cancelled?'

We unpack whether it's plausible for a brand as big as Balenciaga to have not been across these campaign decisions and how they've benefited so much from similar decisions in the past.

Then we are joined by the wonderful Logan Ury!

Logan is an author and the behavioural scientist at hinge! She joins Britt and producer Keeshia today to talk all things f*ckboys/f*ckgirls and explain how the concept of the sunk cost fallacy can be applied to relationships.

You can find everything from Logan (including the newsletter that producer Keeshia raves about) here: https://www.loganury.com/

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Every Saturday we are live across the country with the Life Uncut Radio show, and here are the best bits all bundled up for your listening pleasure.

We are joined by our bloody funny co-host Mitch Churi and we are unpacking all things low brow and mildly important.

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Hey Lifers!

Welcome to your weekly fake therapy session where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions.

First up, we want your thoughts on whether it's 'ick' worthy for your date to order a plain glass of milk on a date?

We share some of the weirdest things you guys have had people order on dates and *once again* whhhhhere do you guys find these people??

Today we are jumping into these questions:

-I was married previously for 12 months when I found out that my husband had been cheating on me. I've moved on and have found my penguin, and he keeps on saying things like "this would make a good wedding song" and "that would be a good spot to propose." The problem is I want to spend my life with him but I don't know if I want to get married again.

-I tend to get the 'ick' on about 50% of first dates. I message them saying "thank you but I don't see it going anywhere." My friends believe in the 2 date rule and think I should always give it a second chance. Do you believe in the second date rule?

-I'm in a long term, committed relationship and I found out that my partner has a saved message on snapchat with a girl that read "I wish I didn't have a girlfriend so that I could see your onlyfans. I don't have a problem with him wanting to see that, but when I brought it up with him he completely denied it and said it didn't exist and he didn't send the message. Except I know that he did. It was at 5:30pm on a Monday. What should I do?

We'd really love to do a wrap up of the year with an ask uncut aftermath so if we've ever answered one of your questions, we'd LOVE to know what happened next. Please send them in to our instagram at @lifeuncutpodcast!

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Hellooo Beautiful Lifers and welcome to just the most wholesome episode ever.

On today's episode we have some big news, first up, holy hell we won The Australian Podcast awards listeners choice for the 3rd year in a row and we have you to thank for it - thank you thank you thank you. We freaking love our might LU family.

We also wanted to talk about Rebel Wilson and her first week as a mum, turns out Rebel discovered the swift and judgment fuelled opinions that come with mum shaming - and of course, we have a few things to say about it.

Then we are joined by Laura's brand spanking new HUSBAND! We are talking all things Bachi wedding of the year... did they consummate the marriage, how did the paps get in there, who cried first? Well, listen to find out!

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